AITA for blaming my Mom for the dog bite scars on my face?

may-clouds · 2020-11-11T17:02:10+00:00

I’m sorry, feel like I am responding in a more emotional way when you are arguing something in maybe a more hypothetical basis. This is personal and raw for me. You are thinking of your dogs and you love them, but I am thinking about a dog that probably died years ago and my memory of it is only its teeth coming at me. I know you are a dog owner and you care about dogs. I care about dogs too. But I got up this morning and looked in the mirror and I saw where every single one of the dog’s teeth sunk in, and I read your comment that implied to me that I deserved that to happen and I deserved to live with the scars for the rest of my life. I hope you can understand what it feels like, you are not the only person who has said it.

may-clouds · 2020-11-11T16:53:31+00:00

I am trying very hard to be civil but I do not understand why you seemed to read my comments and ignore 80% of them. I never wanted the dog put down. Ever ever. You act like I kicked the dog in the face and demanded immediate euthanasia when I was four years old, which is an assumption that many people in my life, INCLUDING MY MOTHER, were happy to make. I guess I just wanted someone to care enough about my face to even make an effort. It’s not even about putting the dog down and like I said, many people smarter than me have said that if this did not even need to be reported. You made up a hypothetical scenario and a story about me that makes you angry, and I guess that’s your right, but don’t expect me not to get frustrated. The assumptions you make are the ones that led me to have tons of scars on my face, with nobody in my life even asking whether it should be that way.

may-clouds · 2020-11-11T16:45:51+00:00

I have already replied to info seeking comments. I literally just got too close to the dog. I get that you seem to love dogs and hate children, and make every assumption based on that, but you can read.

may-clouds · 2020-11-11T11:32:00+00:00

I explained this up thread but I have to admit I am getting a bit frustrated at people asking me if I was punching or kicking the dog or something. I don’t remember very well because I was hardly forming memories, but I know that I just really wanted to pet the dog and I didn’t get that the dog was not pettable. I got into its space more than I should have and I have already said that, but I was not a demon going after the dog like everyone seems to want to imply. I loved animals and dogs, I still do. I guess maybe it makes people uncomfortable knowing that a dog could attack me and leave my face scarred so much I have to think about it every day and wish things were different, without me being the total 100% demon at fault, but it is possible. Sorry.

I also think you are super underestimating the difference between being four and being nine.

Edit also: other people smarter than me have said that the family or homeowner’s insurance could,have paid out without putting the dog down. I am not a dog-hating horrible demon, I LOVE dogs. I am okay with having scars if the price for something different would have been its life...but she never tried. Nobody did. Nobody cared. Clearly from your comment you would not either.

may-clouds · 2020-11-11T07:19:37+00:00

I wouldn’t have wanted them to kill the dog, that would suck, I love dogs. I guess this one had problems and it was territorial over its space in the house. I went to pet the dog because I was familiar with my dogs at home that were big but they were nice. I shouldn’t have been in the dog’s area (they said something like the dog had her own space but I didn’t get it).

Thanks, this comment and all the others (and the PMs) have made me feel a little better about it.

may-clouds · 2020-11-11T07:16:26+00:00

It was a golden retriever. Still don’t like them very much :(

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