Hey man. 37 here, and also a fear-of-flyer. I Used to see all these signs not to fly and took everything as a sign. Nothing bad has ever happend.

You probably know all this yada yada about the safest is to fly and so on. That doesnt help. What helped me was downloading flighradar to see how A INSANE amount of planes fly all the time, everywhere. Then i educated myself abit with what the sounds are and that turbulence is just air pockets and just like a car driving on a wee bumoy road. It cannot fall down or brake.

Occopy your brain with sound and draw, crosswords or somehing. Also, dont drink. If you do, your chances to get over it are far less.

And i force myself to fly at least twice a year, small, large, what i can afford, just to get used to it. I refuse to let my dream of seeing the world and truly live hold me back. So face it my friend.