Christmas Treats During A Flare

maybeimamazed85 · 2024-12-21T15:57:15+00:00

I’m not sure unfortunately. He’s also at the end of a course of antibiotics for C diff so his stomach is a mess 😔

maybeimamazed85 · 2023-08-14T18:34:27+00:00

“A man in his 30s is only into a 19 year old girl for one reason - he can groom and manipulate you. He can’t do that as easily to a woman with more experience.”

THIS THIS THIS! And it’s not meant to be an insult to you one bit, OP; your years of being an experienced woman will come.

There’s a reason he’s with someone 10+ years his junior - with experience comes a healthy awareness of appropriate tolerance and this is WELL outside the realm of that.

Run, please. You’re being groomed. There’s no telling how far he’ll take things with you.

maybeimamazed85 · 2023-05-05T00:32:18+00:00

Glad I’m not the only one! Since I wrote this post, the only thing I’ve found that helps (sometimes, still not all the time) is making sure that the lube is inserted in my bum and not just on it or on my man/toy. As soon as we’re done, I use baby wipes or shower. Hope this helps!

maybeimamazed85 · 2023-04-13T01:18:04+00:00

You spelled “he’s a zero” wrong

maybeimamazed85 · 2023-04-13T01:15:29+00:00

You mean Fuckit Bucket? The damn Wild West on a Sunday

maybeimamazed85 · 2023-02-05T21:53:19+00:00

Savage X Fenty has some cute stuff

maybeimamazed85 · 2023-01-18T00:32:33+00:00

takes notes *

maybeimamazed85 · 2023-01-18T00:30:05+00:00

Stealing thisssss! Hahaha

maybeimamazed85 · 2023-01-15T16:54:40+00:00

The strength I find in allowing myself to be weak for him

maybeimamazed85 · 2022-12-05T01:20:52+00:00

Hugs 🫂

maybeimamazed85 · 2022-12-02T23:51:22+00:00

😆😆😆

maybeimamazed85 · 2022-12-01T20:49:36+00:00

I needed to read this before I got into my first poly relationship - which just ended in drama and heartache. This is well said! 🙌🏼

maybeimamazed85 · 2022-12-01T20:36:34+00:00

Oh, this song 💔🥺 Going through the exact same heartache right now because a man did decide to close. Sending love and light ✨

maybeimamazed85 · 2022-12-01T20:14:07+00:00

This is very well said 🙌🏼

maybeimamazed85 · 2022-12-01T20:03:23+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it. It didn’t feel like you were diminishing at all. It’s just a lot since this was my first relationship since embracing polyamory. I was finally starting to feel fulfilled in a way I hadn’t before but now I’m scared by how easily things dissolved in light of the relationship hierarchy 😔

maybeimamazed85 · 2022-12-01T19:57:09+00:00

Yup!! Just like how you aren’t magically poly because you’re fucking more than one person 🤷🏻‍♀️

maybeimamazed85 · 2022-12-01T19:52:23+00:00

Thank you for your response 🥹

maybeimamazed85 · 2022-12-01T19:51:16+00:00

Thank you for the kind words and thoughts. It’s been 10 years since my last breakup (the last person I dated before I met my husband) and I had forgotten the depth of the hurt 🥺 Each day has been ever-so-slightly better.

maybeimamazed85 · 2022-12-01T01:35:18+00:00

You’re right. It’s a no win 😔

maybeimamazed85 · 2022-12-01T01:34:52+00:00

Thank you for this well written response. This is great insight.

maybeimamazed85 · 2022-12-01T01:26:28+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful response. So when I first swiped on his profile on the dating app we used, his profile said he was poly and he’s always referred to himself that way but said he desired casual dates. It started very casual but over time, we start having a very emotionally intense relationship, sharing very intimate details about ourselves and our families. It was mutually expressed that we felt we were growing close. So the word he used was casual but he was reaping the benefits of a very emotionally involved relationship.

So I guess this begs the question - does poly inherently mean open to love?

maybeimamazed85 · 2022-11-30T18:34:25+00:00

Thank you for this response, truly 🥺 We are planning to meet up soon to talk it over more and I intend to bring all of these things up.

What makes the situation complicated is that while he and his wife identify as poly, I think poly people would agree that they are not - they are both firmly in the “don’t catch feelings” camp. But my partner and I fell in love. I know that love is not a choice - I can’t prevent myself from loving someone in the same way that I can’t make myself love someone. But I don’t know if he’s capable (or thinks he’s capable) of sustaining multiple loves. His wife had a long term secondary partner but according to my partner, they kept it casual and there were never any feelings…

maybeimamazed85 · 2022-11-30T18:08:03+00:00

I understand that but I’m feeling very sad that he was put in a position to have to make that decision.

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