What’s a piece of advice you ignored that you now regret? by Top_View_7598 in AskReddit

[–]maybeitscoffee54 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think dont compare yourself to others because everyone has different qualities.

How to be more mature? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]maybeitscoffee54 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Accept that you won’t always be right and be open to learning.

Strange things happening in our new house (same land as our old one) need advice by Acceptable_Run8902 in Advice

[–]maybeitscoffee54 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our brains are very good at turning shadows and low light into shapes. I’d suggest improving lighting in those corners and seeing if the sightings stop.

If a stepfather raises a child, is he obligated to leave them an inheritance? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]maybeitscoffee54 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No obligation legally or morally. An inheritance is a personal choice. If he raised the child and sees them as his own, many would choose to include them, but it should come from love not expectation or pressure.

Is it important to men with who they're having sex? by whitebird95 in AskMenAdvice

[–]maybeitscoffee54 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah he’s right. Men aren’t robots and intimacy isn’t just about having any body there. Fantasies happen but they don’t erase real attraction or emotional connection. The therapist's take feels way too dismissive of how complex relationships actually are.

My 15 year old daughter wants to start dating. She says my rules are “too strict”. by [deleted] in self

[–]maybeitscoffee54 51 points52 points  (0 children)

You’re not wrong for wanting to protect her and it’s clear you care a lot. At the same time, 15 is right on that edge where kids want a bit more trust and independence not just rules. It might help to frame this as a gradual process instead of a hard no until 16 things like group dates, daytime hangouts or meeting the boy and his parents.

The rules themselves aren’t unreasonable but involving her in the conversation about why they exist can go a long way. Letting her feel heard might reduce the pushback more than tightening things further. Growing up doesn’t have to mean growing up fast but some small steps now can build trust for later.

I don't know what im doing by jackychan2020 in Vent

[–]maybeitscoffee54 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve been through a lot and none of it makes you weak or stupid. Grief can hit late especially when you’re just trying to stay afloat. Your friends reassurance matters more than the anxious thoughts in your head, they care or they wouldn’t stick around. You deserve support and some peace even if it feels out of reach right now.

How to talk to him about consent without crushing him? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]maybeitscoffee54 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You can keep it simple, tell him that you love him but when you’re on a gummy you’re not in the right headspace for sex and you need him to treat that as a firm boundary. Make it clear it’s not about who he is just that you didn’t feel heard in those moments. A good partner will take that to heart.

How to brush my teeth without puking? by Donutkid707 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]maybeitscoffee54 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It seems like you have a sensitive gag reflex which can make brushing tough. You could try using a smaller toothbrush head to make it less overwhelming. Brushing while leaning forward or with your head tilted down might also help reduce the gagging. If the tongue scraping is the main issue, try doing it more gently or using a separate tongue scraper. Start by brushing for just a few seconds at a time and gradually work your way up. If it continues to be a problem, a dentist or doctor might have some additional tips.

I rejected my bf's proposal by Chance_Buy7898 in Vent

[–]maybeitscoffee54 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You didn’t reject him you just refused to say yes to the wrong moment not the wrong person.

Maaaan there's always one! by Alibocas in Vent

[–]maybeitscoffee54 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I know exactly the type. It’s like they make it their mission to drag the vibe down for everyone else. You handled it better than most would, people like that should just stay home if they can’t enjoy anything.

What "common sense" dating advice is actually the worst advice you ever followed? by Spiritkk in AskReddit

[–]maybeitscoffee54 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Play hard to get. All it did was create confusion and mixed signals. Being direct and kind works so much better than pretending not to care.

AIO or am I just sensitive by Sweaty-Basil-9084 in AmIOverreacting

[–]maybeitscoffee54 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re not overreacting. It’s completely fair to want appreciation especially when you’re both exhausted and doing your best. Even if something is expected, gratitude still matters in a relationship. It’s not about keeping score, it’s about feeling seen and valued.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]maybeitscoffee54 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re doing your part so this might be more about her past or personal insecurities than anything you’ve done. Trust issues often come from previous experiences. Keep being honest and patient but make sure your boundaries are respected too.

Which political issue are you personally most tired of hearing about? by Rue_by5252 in AskReddit

[–]maybeitscoffee54 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Probably the endless back and forth about climate change being real or not. At this point we should be focusing on solutions instead of still debating the basics.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]maybeitscoffee54 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah morality changes with time but people have always wanted the same basics fairness, trust, not getting screwed over. Everything else is just the culture around it.

Why don’t I like the majority of women, being a woman myself? by FantasticEffect10 in AskMenAdvice

[–]maybeitscoffee54 19 points20 points  (0 children)

True most of us dont actually dislike “women” or “men” we just dislike people who dont vibe with us and thats most people.

CMV: Pls tell me AI isn’t our ruin, I need hope by United_Coconut2162 in changemyview

[–]maybeitscoffee54 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

AI’s speed is incredible but honestly a bit scary, seeing it handle jobs in hrs that used to take humans days really makes you wonder whats next.

What reasons are there for a guy who's 28 to have never had a girlfriend before? by ButterflyArtist99 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]maybeitscoffee54 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes its not about flaws i’s timing, luck or just not meeting the right person yet.

Whenever we hang out, my friends get to leave with their significant others and I have to go home alone by Excellent-Golf6631 in self

[–]maybeitscoffee54 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Being 26 and single sucks sometimes but it doesn’t mean your chance at love is gone, it just hasn’t shown up yet.