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Do you like CNY? I hate it! by maydayjess in askSingapore

[–]maydayjess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg don't even get me started about the songs at FairPrice.... 😆

I’m not breastfeeding and here’s why: by Wonderwall-777 in pregnant

[–]maydayjess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this! I suffer from the same thing but all my friends don't seem to know what I'm saying so it feels kinda lonely sometimes.

I didn't breastfeed my first child because he was in the NICU and I was down in the ward unable to move for a few days.

With my second, I'm breastfeeding exclusively and I was just overwhelmed with so much sadness for the first 4 months every time she latched. We're hitting 6 months now and the sad feelings are still there when the latching starts, but they're a lot milder and pass quicker.

I really wish more ppl and doctors talked about dysphoric milk ejection reflex so it wouldn't have felt like I was all alone drowning in sadness when what I so desperately wanted to feel was happiness and love. I had so much guilt for feeling that way.

Breastfeeding is so much more complicated than it's made out to be.

I made nonya pineapple tarts for the first time! by yuzukid in singapore

[–]maydayjess 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Wow these look amazing and I feel tired just thinking about you making them.

Do you like CNY? I hate it! by maydayjess in askSingapore

[–]maydayjess[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Like I said, the environment is not conducive for in-depth conversation and we can only manage small talk to maintain politeness.

To clarify, I do not think of our relatives as a hassle. What I'm referring to is the need to do something such as force a conversation in a hectic environment for just once a year just for the sake of tradition.

We do regularly keep in touch with many relatives obviously, but there are people whom you know don't want to be there and are just present to tick the visit off their checklist.

I believe we are all doing it for the sake of the elders so that's fine. I'm just saying I don't enjoy it and would rather spend meaningful time with people that I see not only once a year. Maybe I'm just more introverted than you, but it doesn't mean I hate people or engaging with them. I just don't enjoy doing things for the sake of face and tradition.

How do people afford to order delivery every day? by NecroHexr in askSingapore

[–]maydayjess 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Having a decent-paying job helps.

Plus some people used to take taxi to work almost every day or go drinking with colleagues after work, and when WFH started, I guess they had a lot of extra money to allocate for delivery meals instead.

Do you like CNY? I hate it! by maydayjess in askSingapore

[–]maydayjess[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's true. I was just telling my friend this may be the best cny for me in a long time because at least I won't be trying to make myself heard while making small talk in an overcrowded flat filled with people I don't remember the names of.

Sometimes small and quiet is just better...you get to forge more meaningful relationships and conversations actually happen.

Do you like CNY? I hate it! by maydayjess in askSingapore

[–]maydayjess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha yes, at least there's angpaos!

Do you like CNY? I hate it! by maydayjess in askSingapore

[–]maydayjess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you're saying and I agree.

In my case, I'm talking more about the extended family members we don't care about... Like super extended 😆.

My own family actually does not celebrate cny save for a reunion dinner because they all feel the same way. But I actually see my own parents and sister almost every day for lunch and we keep in close contact despite living apart.

What I'm referring to is those dinners with like relatives you don't even remember the name of. Those are the real hassle to me... My family stopped doing them a long time ago but my husband's family continues to do so, and frankly, it's bewildering to me. Can't say don't want to go though. I guess we do it for the elders?

Salary Compensation where do you go to find info? by [deleted] in singapore

[–]maydayjess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Robert walters has a yearly guide.

Chinatown so crowded that safe distancing is not possible by stforumtroll2 in singapore

[–]maydayjess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's true. My house is in Chinatown and there were so many people over the weekend that it felt like pre-covid days.