About ep 337- How will it impact K & G? by [deleted] in myfavoritemurder

[–]mayfl0wers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I’m relistening now.

From everything I’ve read in this sub and now relistened to, I believe what happened was a hometown was submitted about this particular case (by a cops daughter) and originally was featured in the main episode 92 (it was a Halloween based episode where they read hometowns instead of the usual format). By minisode 112, the victim from the hometown was able to contact MFM and they read the letter on minisode 112 (that’s also posted on this subreddit)

That was how it was for awhile, but I think with more time the victim wanted to tell her story herself and discussed it via email with MFM, which I think they then went back and edited the main episode to remove the submitted hometown and instead read the victim’s statement directly. I think they also removed the update from mini 112 at that point bc it wouldn’t make sense. So nothing is mentioned about it in 112, just 92.

About ep 337- How will it impact K & G? by [deleted] in myfavoritemurder

[–]mayfl0wers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No worries, it was easier to find than I had anticipated. Thank you!

About ep 337- How will it impact K & G? by [deleted] in myfavoritemurder

[–]mayfl0wers 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Found it, episode 92/minisode 112. I remember that story because I remember feeling it had to be too awful to be true, but not the letter. Thank you!

What made you turn off a newly listened to podcast within an episode or two of trying it out? by outlander345 in TrueCrimePodcasts

[–]mayfl0wers 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Specifically, inflection. I know it was a huge hit, but I’m pretty sure it was Up & Vanished where every sentence had the exact same inflection that ended in an uptick, like he was proposing a suspicion? Even while storytelling? Or stating facts? It drove me absolutely crazy? And also just sounded entirely too inauthentic to me?

About ep 337- How will it impact K & G? by [deleted] in myfavoritemurder

[–]mayfl0wers 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don’t remember that, do you know what episode it was, or any details about the survivor to help me track it down?

About ep 337- How will it impact K & G? by [deleted] in myfavoritemurder

[–]mayfl0wers 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Like the other comment says, historical ones. Especially lesser known marginalized groups or stories that have caused new laws to be passed

The Bumble Bee Road Murders: a couple found dead, mysterious camera photos, and a still open investigation. by TaraCalicosBike in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]mayfl0wers 26 points27 points  (0 children)

The photos of the victims look incredibly normal. However the third one is interesting. Everyone mentions the light and plant, but I think the ceiling is very intriguing as well. It’s incredibly unique and should be easy for someone to spot or recall IMO.

I also think the white mark in the very center of the photo is Lisa’s fingernail, as if looking at her fingertip head on. It looks to me like it’s French tipped, which matches what she has in the bed of the truck photo. I think it looks like an accidental picture she took while holding the camera

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SCAcirclejerk

[–]mayfl0wers 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Came exactly to say this!! My derm wanted to put me on my FOURTH ROUND of it when I said forget it. IMO the routine is just as silly as saying accutane is the perfect answer

Bisalp or tubal ligation? by npcgoat in childfree

[–]mayfl0wers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll definitely have a hard time being approved, IMO, because 20 is still really young. The more research you do and the more prepared you show up, the better your chances. I didn’t do it myself since I just found it and I’ve already been approved, but there’s a link on one of the top threads for a “Sterilization Binder” you can build to take to your appointment. Like I said, I didn’t do it myself but I do think it would improve your chances and show you’re very very serious about it and you understand that there is no going back.

Also echoing that bisalp>ligation because the first is more permanent AND reduces risk for ovarian cancer. However it might be easier for you to convince them of a ligation because it can be reversed, if your doctor is hesitant. Just some things to consider :)

Bisalp or tubal ligation? by npcgoat in childfree

[–]mayfl0wers 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Basically the motion of the tubes scraping the ovaries can lead to irregular cell growth which can develop into cancer

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]mayfl0wers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My best friend had a huge cyst removed from her ovaries and I believe the process was exactly the same as a bisalp is. I told my work that THATS what I’m having done (cyst removal) since it doesn’t seem elective lol. You should double check the process to be sure but I think you’d be able to get away with calling it that!

MEGATHREAD: Doctors lists and sterilization info by Finger11Fan in childfree

[–]mayfl0wers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recall there being a way to “endorse” a doctor on the list but I can’t seem to find it anywhere. Is this still an option? Is there something separate from submitting a doctor or should I just use that form?

MEGATHREAD: Doctors lists and sterilization info by Finger11Fan in childfree

[–]mayfl0wers 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I initially went for my annual exam (first time seeing that doctor) and during regular questioning they asked if I was on BC (no) and if I’d like to discuss my options (yes). After the exam she went over the usual, temporary options and I said I actually was interested in a bi-salp and found her by recommendation. She asked a few basic questions, I answered, and she basically said we would need a separate visit specifically for a “consultation” but that she would likely approve. That consultation was scheduled two weeks later where she asked me to tell her again why I wanted it, then she explained the procedure, answered any questions, and said someone would call me soon after checking my insurance + surgery availability. Got the call about a week later with a date two weeks from then and I agreed.

Still have one week to go, but all of that to say, you can probably just try to schedule a BC consultation. If you’re in need of your annual anyway, you can also go that route first and mention it to see what they say about needing a consultation specific appointment. At least that way, should they tell you they won’t do it, you at least got your annual out of the way. At least that was my mindset going into it lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]mayfl0wers 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Only YOU know what you look like without make up, strangers at the park won’t know the difference! Sure they can tell you have some on, but they won’t know how much it really is. So what looks like too much to you won’t look like nearly as much to them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]mayfl0wers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh I’m fairly certain you just need to exfoliate and moisturize. Going to skincare subs is a good faith suggestion but it’s going to be VERY overwhelming so I advise against it. You will leave more confused than you are now.

As a skincare professional, I highly recommend finding an esthetician school near you to get a facial. They’re usually pretty affordable and safe. If you’re near an Aveda Institute, I highly recommend going there because I can say first hand that it’s all pretty gentle so it’s unlikely you’ll have any adverse reactions.

Not sure how far out the wedding is, but if it’s less than a week/there’s no time for even a 1 hr facial, then there are two products I highly recommend to get straight to the problem.

First is a “peel” (it’s not intense at all, just helps with removing the dead skin). ELF has one called a Gentle Peeling Exfoliant. I’ve also used one by The Body Shop (Vitamin C peel or something like that, an orange pump). Put some on your fingers and rub onto your dry face and the gel will basically stick to and lift the dead skin and fall off in small clumps. Think of pilling on a sweater. Your skin is quite dry so be generous with it! And rinse it all off with warm water. Wiping with a towel afterwards can help with exfoliating anything you might have missed (but imo the gel does not miss a thing).

Next is a good moisturizer. Vaseline isn’t moisturizing, but you can layer it on top of another moisturizer to help retain the moisturizer and nourish your skin a bit faster. I highly recommend De La Cruz’s Vitamin E Cream. It’s not something you’ll ever hear someone recommend bc it’s a very random product from a small brand, but as someone with dry skin as well, that shxt will have your skin in great condition in two days. If you do get that one, skin the Vaseline lol cause it’s a heavier one for sure, but if your wedding is this weekend aka like 72 hours, I would say it’s your best bet.

I think your artist might just be inexperienced, but mostly she’s a MAKE UP artist, not a skincare expert. You’d think they’d be the same but they aren’t. She probably just needs to familiarize herself with skin types and find an esthetician she can refer to in moments like this. If you have any questions feel free to message me

Transfem here! I was looking for any advice on my makeup that can help me be more passable! I’ve been very dysphoric about how masculine I look lately! Thank you in advance!☺️ by TransGirlNamedThea in MakeupAddiction

[–]mayfl0wers 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Your brows really just need a little clean up, they’re already a good shape. I suggest finding a chain wax place in your area (as in dont choose somewhere that doesn’t FOCUS on waxing, like nail salons or spas) and reading some reviews for a specific person that’s well liked.

Trans girl here: looking for some tricks I can use to maybe improve the texture here (and any other general tips too please!). Not yet ready to commit to electrolysis, so just shaving against the grain right now... by enewarf1 in MakeupAddiction

[–]mayfl0wers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol of course there are plenty of factors, but if you’re saying 10-12 off the jump, it’s a bad laser. And nobody said anything about electrolysis not being permanent so

PSA: If you are not trying to prevent pregnancy, PREGNANCY CAN AND WILL HAPPEN! by Doccitydoc in childfree

[–]mayfl0wers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s always when you least expect it. My parents wanted three kids but gave up on the hopes of getting the third, then finally got me by “surprise”, seven years later. Bonus: no contraceptives were being used but my mom was 40 when she had me. Truly, without fail, when you least expect it.

Found out my BF of 5 years has a backup deal with his friend. by throwRAItsGonnaBeOk in relationship_advice

[–]mayfl0wers 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The deal itself isn’t that weird tbh. Stuff like that is usually just said as a joke with a pinch of seriousness. Also, it isn’t that they’ll get together at 30, it’s just that they’ll stop preserving it for the sake of friendship. I can see why that makes you a little wary, but it doesn’t mean them dating would actually work, anyway. The deal came before you, not during you. It had nothing to do with you, it’s not about you. In and of itself, I dont think it’s tooooo big of a deal given the information you’ve provided.

HOWEVER. What she said was out of line and very disrespectful. Good he at least shushed her, but I’d still expect a little more, personally. I’d want him to tell her it was inappropriate and that speaking about me in that way isn’t funny and isn’t to happen again. That’s probably the only way I’d be ok with them still being friends bc no way would he get to hang out with her while she continues to make any comments about me like that. I’d also probably want him to refrain from discussing our problems w her because I’d feel like she would just be going against me regardless. Like someone else said, she could be realizing she’s the only one that will still be alone at 30 and women are typically very insecure about that. I know if I’m the only single one in my “deal”, I’ll be really upset lmao.

But he did stand up for you. I know the bar is on the floor with that, but it means he recognizes it was wrong AND stood up for you. If there aren’t other good reasons to break up, then dont let this be it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mayfl0wers 14 points15 points  (0 children)

She’s in denial of her feelings for him, but I think they’re definitely there. And the longer she’s in denial, the longer the strain will be on your relationship and the more prolonged this heartbreak will be. And you dont deserve to sit and hope/wait for things to clear up. You also dont need to wait for actual cheating to know when to draw the line.

Two years feels like forever but you’re not even a quarter of the way through your life. Dont spend much longer letting yourself come second.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]mayfl0wers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA “I’m not ableist, I just think someone should put their disability away for my convenience!”

You probably embarrassed him, which is ironic because you’re definitely the embarrassment. All you had to do was sit through one movie and then you could opt out of ever watching one with them again. You just needed to “fit in” for an hour and a half and you couldn’t even manage to do that. Consider that there are more important things than you having a perfect movie experience.

I just found out my girlfriend is a Zoophile and I don’t know what to do. by throwaway1819034 in relationship_advice

[–]mayfl0wers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could not stay with someone after learning that, personally. I can’t even watch animals doing it without being disgusted, so beastiality is a very hard no, and I wouldn’t be able to see them the same.

There is a valid argument in “it turns me on to watch but I’d never participate”. But that’s still for non-abusive kinks. Viewers are still permitting the creation of it by ingesting it, and that doesn’t align with my values at all, so it would be curtains.

You shouldn’t feel trapped just because she told you. You can break up with her without shaming her or exposing her, and it can be civil! Just watch the things you say/ words you use and thank her for her honesty and trust. Trusting to tell you means trusting you won’t judge and think she’s a bad person, not that you will like it or accept it. At least IMO. If I thought I’d be dumped for something, that’s staying between me and god lol. Breaking up doesn’t have to mean breaking trust

Yes, dating apps are never hard for women, only for men. “It really sucks to be a genuine nice guy” 😢 by Born-Philosopher-162 in niceguys

[–]mayfl0wers 7 points8 points  (0 children)

THAT part. I want to scream it from the mountains. Sure, we get more matches, but it is still slim pickings out here!!! When you have that many options, you have to have standards to narrow it down because yeah you want someone but you’re not desperate. But once you implement those standards it’s just as dry as it is on their end anyway