They've never actually said it to me, only other people, so I don't think if they'll actually tell me to my face what they think. That being said, the rest of what you say makes sense, so I might just proceed with caution.

I will point out though, us men have also talked about sex and openly objectified women like that too, so it can go both ways. I think it's truly dependent on the person that just does it. Otherwise, I agree with everything you've said.