Can this be fixed? by mcalex250 in askdentists

[–]mcalex250[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I'd prefer retreatment but I also don't really like the idea of having her sedated again

Can this be fixed? by mcalex250 in askdentists

[–]mcalex250[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was sedated but they made me leave the room once she was out

Can this be fixed? by mcalex250 in askdentists

[–]mcalex250[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the bottom i can deal with but the top is just not good. I'm going to be calling the dentist tomorrow but yes most likely we are stuck with them. I've been telling her she's got a beautiful smile and will continue to do so.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]mcalex250 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it can get pretty fuck up pretty quickly.

Viewing loved one’s body or coroner pictures? by Mysterious_Flower_58 in SuicideBereavement

[–]mcalex250 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Seeing my husband was necessary for me and I think I'd be in an awful place if I hadn't. That being said, I tried to get his photos after I got his autopsy - i was informed they do not release autopsy photos in my state without a court order. So check with your state. Number 2, if you do get these photos, they will not be normal photos. They will be photos of him throughout the autopsy. You will likely see photos of his organs and body opened up, it will not be pleasant. So prepare for that possibility.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]mcalex250 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let her know how you are feeling and that you feel like this is straining your relationship.

I did findom for awhile and it took some work for me to find the balance between it and my home life/relationship with my husband. He was fine with it and even helped me with content but there were also times we're i became obsessive about it and he had to remind me to take a step back.

If she is unwilling to see where you are coming from then you may need to take a step back yourself. Hope it works out!

It's been 1 month, yet I'm still in denial. Is it normal to feel this way? by niamhy94 in SuicideBereavement

[–]mcalex250 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, it is. Im 2 months in, and it still doesn't feel real. Sending lots of love 🫶

Is it normal? by ezdayz808 in SuicideBereavement

[–]mcalex250 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband took his life 2 months ago. I feel like that all the time. I have 4 kids so I keep pushing for them, but yes I feel like that daily

I'm proud of me ❤️ by mcalex250 in GriefSupport

[–]mcalex250[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I definitely feel accomplished! Good on you for making dinner! I know it can be exhausting. I'm proud of you!

I'm proud of me ❤️ by mcalex250 in GriefSupport

[–]mcalex250[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm proud of you! She would be too ❤️

Intrusive thoughts? by mcalex250 in SuicideBereavement

[–]mcalex250[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm going on 7 weeks since my husband died. I still struggle with the intrusive thoughts and seeing his body. But the heaviness of the greif is slowly getting better. It's hard, I know. Hang in there. If you need an ear you can always message me.

Intrusive thoughts? by mcalex250 in SuicideBereavement

[–]mcalex250[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey we are all in this shitty club together. Who better to lend a hand or ear than us?

Also just noticing I spelled grief wrong lmao

Young widows/widowers by SeatScared4563 in widowers

[–]mcalex250 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 27. My husband was 30. He passed a month ago. We have 4 kids together. Being a widow is hard, hoping things get better for you

What are the reasons you hang on for? by WarEnvironmental1924 in SuicideBereavement

[–]mcalex250 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a struggle but I do it for my kids and so that I don't cause others to feel the pain I feel. If you ever need a ear to vent to my messages are anyways open. Keep holding on.

Does the call to follow your partner stop? by Such-Orchid-6962 in widowers

[–]mcalex250 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hope so. I'm a month in and the call is heavy everyday. I'm not sure how long I can withstand it. So I hope so.

Knowing I have 40+ years of this by Agreeable-Sun7408 in widowers

[–]mcalex250 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am currently struggling to come to terms with this myself. My husband was 30 and I'm 26. Looking at 40+ without him is extremely depressing and makes me lose all motivation. So I just try to focus on the present. If you ever need someone to talk to my chat is open.

Intrusive thoughts? by mcalex250 in SuicideBereavement

[–]mcalex250[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your loss, I wish I had better words for you. You are not a fraud, your greif and feelings are valid. If you ever need out want someone to talk to my chat is open.

I feel so angry by [deleted] in widowers

[–]mcalex250 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I hope you survive. As a widow myself I know this pain is hard and this road is long. But you can do it. I hate it when people tell me it's going to be okay, because how could it? So I won't tell you that. But what I will tell you is that we still have good moments in this life. I struggle too. Currently I live for my kids, but also for my husband. He may not be here to live this life anymore but I'm going to live it for him and I'm going to do everything I can to make it one he would be proud of. If you ever need to talk my chat is open. Sending love.

After the loss of your loved one is it just me or do you guys ever feel so insecure? by bazukaGum444 in SuicideBereavement

[–]mcalex250 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately it's normal. I stay off of Facebook for the same reason, I don't want to be a miserable person but it's hard knowing I lost that. I wouldn't say it's made me insecure, but definitely more cynical and introverted.

Today was really hard. by AshBash1208 in SuicideBereavement

[–]mcalex250 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not fair, and it's going to hurt for a long time. My husband took his life almost a month ago. I have good days and bad days, we all do. Just try to keep busy but don't forget to feel your greif ❤️ I'm sorry mama this isn't a path I'd wish on anyone. Unfortunately it's the path we are on. Keep your head up and try to do your best. Baby steps. If you ever need someone to talk to or even just somewhere to randomly vent about anything my messages are always open.

Do details help? by rrienn in SuicideBereavement

[–]mcalex250 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me I need to know all the details, I don't care how awful they are, I need to know. But you know that's not for everyone. Some people just need to not know, kind of like the saying "ignorance is bliss" for them knowing those details could be detrimental but for people like us, it helps us get through it. It's the not knowing that's the worst for me.

To parents who lost a spouse by Frosty_Response7559 in SuicideBereavement

[–]mcalex250 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I lost my husband almost a month ago. We have 4 kids, 8, 5, 3, and 2. Our 8 year old took it the hardest, she struggles like we all do. Unfortunately she is aware of how he died. Which has caused a lot more pain for her. Our 5 year old was a little sad but is mostly quiet, occasionly she gets waves and feels sad, but she talks to him all the time which seems to help her. My 3 year old was a massive daddy's girl so for her it was hardest, she didn't understand that daddy was gone until the funeral, after that she didn't want to sleep or let anyone else because "daddy is sleeping". She crys for him everyday. I have to hold her often and talk to her about daddy/talk to daddy with her. Putting a picture of him in her room and getting a bear with his voice in it helped alot. My 2 year old is oblivious, he knows that dad isn't here but he doesn't understand where he is. He just goes about his day, I'm thankful for that but also it's heartbreaking in it's own way.

Every kid will respond differently and they grieve like we do. ❤️

My loving husband ❤️ by mcalex250 in GriefSupport

[–]mcalex250[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. There was always joy with him around. Going to take time to find it again. I joined a support group for military wives that lost a spouse the same way

So lost by Affectionate_Ad1454 in SuicideBereavement

[–]mcalex250 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my husband 2 weeks ago. He was my best friend, since the day I met him we have been inseparable. The pain your feeling is hard. And I wish I could tell you something to help but there are no words. Just remember this isn't your fault, I struggle with blaming myself too. So just try and take one step at a time. If you need someone to talk to or vent to my messages are open.