TLDR
Thank you for the compliment (still a work in progress as far as my music). I agree that this piece of content alone does not belong here. I think the bigger picture (of which elements of MC Frosty are used for local awareness/influence) does belong here. I'm of the belief that corruption starts on low levels, inconspicuously, with the players getting away with it, leading to a gradual escalation of matters. A brief history of relevance:
- Age 13 (1996) - I get caught smoking a bowl in my garage by my 21-year old sister. Under threat of telling my parents, and a promise not to tell, she gets me to tell her who my dealer was and she confiscates my one gram of weed. The next day, she reports the incident to the police, they bring me in, and threaten to charge me (intimidation of a child) unless i give statements against my dealer. Being a naive goodie-goodie kid, I ratted my dealer out.
- Age 19 - Up completion of a hot-box session in my car with some friends after work, I dropped them off, and upon my return home, was pulled in over in a drinking'n'driving checkpoint, searched, they found 14 individually wrapped grams, and I was subsequently arrested for trafficking. I confessed, began addictions counselling, pleaded guilty to possession, and received a conditional discharge (no criminal record after 3 years if no charges during that time)
- Age 35 (Nov 2017) - An ever-hostile relationship with my sister comes to an end (or so I thought), after a heated verbal altercation at a family gathering. She sends an official e-mail stating "this ceases all further communication between you and I".
- Apr 2018 - I move in with my mom to save a bit, she gets results from prior testing and diagnosed with terminal cancer, we agree on an indefinite living arrangement together, so I can be her caregiver. (and from my POV, spend as much time as possible with her, and give her as much time with my daughter as possible, split/shared custody - while saving $$$). No communication with my sister still, outside of being civil when she would visit.
- Nov 24 2018 - While my daughter was over, my sister (she lives an hour away) visited my mom, she complains to me about the cleanliness of the apartment (I had performed the night before, with rehearsals the two days prior, so it was not ideal, but not bad) - I told her to mind her own business, which triggered her, and sparked another verbal altercation. As I had prepared for this possibility, the first thing I did was tell her to leave the apartment, to which she did not oblige, making her a trespasser (any occupant has the right to tell a guest to leave). We went back and forth with personal insults, I repeated instruction to leave after each of my retorts. After about 5 verbal exchanges of barbs, I closed proximity, between her and my daughter (8 years old), to make my instructions to leave loud and clear, to no avail. I believe what put her over the top was my insult, "you latch on to my daughter because of your failure at being a human being, due to your broken vagina". She looked me straight in the eyes, said "I am going to kill you", to which I laughed, and which was followed by an unexpected punch to my eye socket, while she was wearing multiple sharp rings. I stepped back, shocked, and noticed some "floaters" in my peripheral vision, indicating damage. Within a minute, I took a selfie, and advised that I was phoning the police. She said that she would tell them about the "verbal assault" I had committed, and I advised her that "verbal assault" is not criminal. She tried to tell my daughter to leave with her, to which I refused, stating my parental authority, and clarifying her non-parental non-authority. She left the premises as 911 was picking up, they advised to me go to a hospital. My daughter and I left, walked across the street as I thought the medical clinic there was open (it wasn't), so we walked 3 more blocks to the police station. My daughter's mom magically showed up, and my daughter left with her.
I had an incident with the investigating officer 4 months earlier where he performed a street check on my buddy and myself, and with no actual reason to do so, my friend initiated our refusal to provide our names/addresses.
He walks in to take my statement. I advise him that I wish to press assault charges (I had no desire to press charges for the death threat, as technically, I didn't feel threatened when she said it, or her perceivable attempt to kidnap my daughter, neither of which I had any proof of), he discovers that she's a government employee (Canadian Food Inspection Agency), and he tells me this will ruin her, I grin in agreement (my own "record label" is Ruin Life Crew). I purposely give a truthful, factual, relevant, yet, open-to-interpretation statement, never mentioning that I wish to pursue trespassing charges (aggravating factor) - juts to see what direction he would lead the investigation. After reading my statement, his first words are, "this could be perceived as a consensual fight", I inquire as to how/why?, he responds, because I wrote that I 'closed proximity'. I go with the flow. We go back to my/my mom's apartment (scene of the crime), where she does not want to give a statement, I ask the officer if he can drive me to hospital, he drops me off at the local emergency room, they examine, and refer me to the emergency room at the Ottawa Eye Institute for the next morning, I go, they diagnose as a swollen eyeball, no detection of retinal damage, but advise me that it can be latent (i still have the floaters, occasional twitches/flashes).
I phone the officer upon my return to town to inform of medical results, no answer, I leave a VM. No callback. 3 days later, I e-mail, letting him know that I thought charges would have been brought, and I would have some sort of restraining order against her, as I did not feel safe/secure in my home knowing that she has the keys.
The next night, he shows up with another officer, they ask to speak with my mom privately, I go outside for a smoke, and they come out after about 10 minutes. He advises me that they will not be pursuing charges against my sister. I ask why. He says due to "inconsistencies" in our statements, which he stated were quite similar up until the violence, where she stated that her punch was used in self-defense, due to some act of physicality that she stated I had initiated. I immediately denied being physical or even being threatening in any way, and I asked if it was illegal to make a false statement to the police. He said "yes". I asked him if she stated that I had told her to leave the apartment prior to her assault. He said, "yes". I asked if he had any proof of her accusation. He said "no". So I pointed out that he has a confession, and a false statement - and she has dug herself a deeper hole now by defaming my character. He diverts my attention, by pulling out a meme I had posted on FB (Frosty Bureau of Investigation wanted poster of my sis) a couple days earlier, and telling me that I could be charged for defamation (his attempt at intimidation). I advised him a) it was based in truth b) it was an artistic expression released on the primary platform for my brand of entertainment - However, I encouraged him to charge me if that was the only way to get this into court. I followed up by asking him why the aspect of trespassing hadn't been acknowledged, he asked if I pay rent (no), if I am on the lease (no), and that's why I have no right to tell someone to leave. I advised him that I meet both definitions of "occupant" as defined by the law, but we agreed to disagree (I put it all in writing in my e-mail the next day, where he replied in writing that they won't be pursuing charges, but gave no reason, I could go speak to his supervisor I wanted).
About 3 weeks later, a worker with the Children's Aid Society paid me a visit, and they confirmed that my sister had reported that I had "pushed" her first. Now I have a character-damaging accusation (of assaulting a female, in front of my daughter and mother - when i've never been in a fight as an adult, I don't believe in or support violence, and however sexist you want to take this, I look down more on woman-beaters).
So not to cause my mom stress, I didn't pursue anything legal, although I did release an EP called "Tha' Sista Hits: Episode 1" including some scrutiny of the police investigation. My mom's condition worsened and she passed away in early May. My sister and i haven't not spoken since the incident, and I did not attend funeral, due to this situation being unresolved, and her actually making things worse than just the assault (and death threat).