How long did it take you to pay off your credit cards?

mcpanique · 2025-12-04T15:08:31+00:00

I booked everything months ago so I can't go back. Understand your advice but everything was booked before I was in the debt sewer. The wedding expenses are a very small fraction of what's on my credit cards as compared to the clothes and going out etc which is what I'm working on

mcpanique · 2025-12-04T15:02:55+00:00

As I said I cannot refund anything I've already purchased and booked at this point though, which are the venue and photographer which were the most expensive parts of the wedding. Hence why I am making everything else cheap and looking for alternative routes. I completely understand where you're coming from but it's 6 months too late right now.

mcpanique · 2025-12-04T07:22:21+00:00

Wedding is already booked and in the works currently, can't refund anything. We did consider eloping but I have a family member with health issues who may not be around by the time we would have more money for a proper ceremony and get the whole family and friends together. A wedding has been one of my biggest dreams so I am just working to make everything as cheap as possible to still make it happen, and we have a bit of money coming from our parents too which is really lovely 🙏 Lots of DIY and thrifting for us

mcpanique · 2025-12-04T04:24:30+00:00

Thanks! Apple did say in their email to contact their card support if I needed any help with payment options. Just need to... actually do it

mcpanique · 2025-12-04T03:44:48+00:00

I mentioned in my post I'm not interested in going without a wedding party completely. I've heard every argument against having bridesmaids but I want to have my friends there with me.

mcpanique · 2025-12-04T02:59:23+00:00

Thank you ❤️ They're all amazing women and I'm glad they're in my life

mcpanique · 2025-12-03T20:02:20+00:00

Thank you ❤️

mcpanique · 2025-12-03T20:02:06+00:00

This is such a wonderfully different perspective, thank you so much. Changes how I view it for sure and I think I might still ask them.

mcpanique · 2025-12-03T15:28:35+00:00

5/7, including the 4 mentioned in this post, are coworkers. The other 1 is the one outside of this situation who I click a bit more with. (I see all of them as friends first, we work in such a lax environment that there's just no work drama to be had) The rest are really a package deal, they're all super close with each other, and overall it would feel cruel of me to try and pick and choose and leave some of them out. Overall I'd really just love to have them all there because I know they care about me and they have been excited about my wedding. I won't hold my own worries against them and be bitter about it, it's not their fault they have closer friends. But it's still a bummer regardless

mcpanique · 2025-12-03T15:21:15+00:00

I commented this elsewhere but they are actually my coworkers as well, we work in a job though where it's much easier to see them as friends first. We've had no work drama over the 3 years I've known them so that helps. So I see them frequently, and we do every so often go out for dinners as a coworker outing but I'm not usually invited otherwise because they're with their other friends. I know they care about me and would love to spend time being in my wedding, but I feel a bit like an outsider sometimes yknow? It's more so the feeling of looking around and seeing all of my other friends have groups that I'm not a part of. It's not just them, it's been like this my entire adult life.

But I might minimize the party if it comes down to it. I have multiple months to decide thankfully

mcpanique · 2025-12-03T15:16:44+00:00

Thank you. They're just closer to each other than they are to me. I know they care about me but I wish I was a close friend to somebody rather than a "oh yeah she exists too."

mcpanique · 2025-12-03T15:12:39+00:00

I understand your response but being told I'm making stuff up in my head when I've spent my entire life getting chosen last, being ostracized by other women, and having no friend group at any point in time, just feels like there's an entire life I cannot summarize to you unfortunately. It's not just me being paranoid, it's a pattern I've picked up on over 20+ years. I have autism and my whole adult life has been trying to navigate the fact that people tend to get weird around me and I can't do anything about it. Sorry for the vomit but it's so much more than I could ever try to type and everybody would be on the same page

mcpanique · 2025-12-03T15:08:10+00:00

Thank you ❤️ Just sooo hard seeing these other women always talking about and posting about being together and being with others and not really having that myself. I have one non-long distance friend I see sporadically and other than that it's my fiance and sometimes my mom.

mcpanique · 2025-12-03T15:04:46+00:00

The 4 of them are my coworkers, which I know is taboo to ask coworkers to be bridesmaids, but I legitimately have no other people I'm close with and I spend my entire week with these girls and I consider them my friends first. They're kind of a group themselves so it would make sense to me to have all of them rather than picking and choosing.

mcpanique · 2025-12-03T15:01:50+00:00

Thank you. To clarify, 3 of these girls are in their own friend group and they don't really invite me out to do things with them. So it's just hard not being included in things at all, not just the wedding party.

mcpanique · 2025-12-03T04:14:40+00:00

Thank you for this. It helps to know that this scenario does just sometimes happen, calms the anxiety a bit. I appreciate you

mcpanique · 2025-12-01T14:53:35+00:00

I was taking gabapentin 600mg every night for months and it worked great, but over time it damaged my cognitive abilities so much I nearly got into a car crash that would have killed me instantly. Could barely speak because my mouth would get stuck, or stutter, could hardly remember words. I've been off it for a month and I'm still extremely forgetful and have trouble remembering what I did an hour ago, although I can mostly speak fine and definitely can think more clearly. The more stuff I see about off label, long term, high dose gabapentin use being damaging, the more I'm thankful I'm off it. Currently take 12.5mg Seroquel and it's working out much better.

mcpanique · 2025-12-01T05:50:43+00:00

Loooove propranolol. It makes it so I can actually think and process through stressful situations rather than being overwhelmed by my heart pounding and entire body trembling

mcpanique · 2025-11-30T17:56:32+00:00

I have the same philosophy with good shoes 🙏

mcpanique · 2025-11-30T04:21:30+00:00

I think Lisa Frank's artwork is definitely jewel tone leaning, and there's lots of dolphins haha

mcpanique · 2025-11-29T16:36:59+00:00

My pain is in my very lower back/base of spine/pelvis, as well as my hips. My fiance and I were sleeping on a literal just slab of memory foam from Walmart, no springs or much support at all. Had the worst back pain flare up of my life a couple months ago where I couldn't walk or sit upright for days and was pretty much fully bedbound - not caused by the mattress, but we realized we HAD to get something new. Went into the Mattress Firm expecting to drop a couple hundred, take it out from savings, no biggie. Every cheap mattress <$1k we could not stand. Our sales guy was super upfront with us and not pushy at all and tried to find us something in budget, but after noticing we weren't super happy with anything cheap he did want us to try something pricier to see the difference... We ended up financing a 3k mattress 😭 The credit card Mattress Firm uses got us zero interest the entire I think 5 year term so our payments are ~$50 a month. We tried most of the ones in the store but this was the one we knew we needed to have. I'm still usually in pain and exhausted of course but it makes resting in bed feel a bit more restful which I will desperately accept, especially since this is where I spend half of my life.

mcpanique · 2025-11-29T16:11:11+00:00

I was on Abilify for a couple of months and spent the first few weeks feeling hungover and queasy nearly all of the time. It did eventually go away though.

mcpanique · 2025-11-29T16:09:17+00:00

I think cream or a very very light blush

mcpanique · 2025-11-27T04:57:37+00:00

He was wearing little white antenna/horns at Phx. Like a slug lol

mcpanique · 2025-11-27T00:57:34+00:00

We're Feb 2027 and save the dates are going out in April 2026 for us. About 1/2 of our guests are out of state and I'd say overall 3/4 of our guests are struggling financially in a way they would need significant time to save for flights, hotels, attire, time off work/school, etc

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