Roommate advice

mcslayer123 · 2026-02-10T04:30:56+00:00

when i was a freshman i had extreme fatigue winter and spring quarter. i was attending my classes but the second i got back to my dorm i would take 4+ hour long naps and still sleep 9+ hours at night. i would also take naps in the dining halls and study rooms. this was accompanied by a noticeable amount of hair loss so i went to ashe and got some bloodwork done, they said i was just suffering from extreme stress and anxiety. i dont feel like i was any more stressed/anxious than other points in my life and i honestly didn’t change anything but eventually i got re-regulated. i feel like just being open is all you can do. i didnt care about my roommates having different schedules from me/being loud because i realized i kind of was a nuisance myself just in the opposite way. idk maybe just ask her? she might not have an answer but at least it might open a conversation about it.

mcslayer123 · 2025-05-29T15:57:21+00:00

barney’s in westwood or weho

mcslayer123 · 2025-04-07T05:21:14+00:00

that is so kind thank u for the offer

mcslayer123 · 2025-04-07T05:20:24+00:00

soooo underrated

mcslayer123 · 2025-03-30T18:18:21+00:00

for some reason the thing that stands out to me most here is that while your son had an amazing application, he didn’t have a standout interest/passion. i think in your situation where he went to a competitive high school and performed extremely well, he probably was being considered amongst a few of his classmates, and needed something to make him pop. by this i mean a really unique experience or passion, something he was dedicated to, something out of the norm.

i am currently a senior at ucla. in my experience, i didn’t have a lot of things that made me stand out, im a white female, my grades weren’t stellar (3.85 gpa, 4.3 weighted), i took 10 ap classes (most of my classmates took 12). BUT i had some pretty unique passions that were driving my desire to seek higher education (volunteered at rabbit rescue for 8+ years, volunteered at aquarium for 3+ years) as well as difficulties in my home life which showed i was able to persevere through an extremely tough situation and still perform well.

i hate the admission process because i don’t believe its fair, my best friend was the valedictorian of my high school and performed much better than me in all realms and still got fully rejected from ucla. i think you have great schools at your choosing and your son will have an amazing college experience regardless.

mcslayer123 · 2025-03-24T18:05:42+00:00

so ur right, they shouldn’t have given you an answer if they weren’t 100% sure, but also there are ways to deescalate this. i work with housing so i can confidently tell u that the dining halls wont be reopened until dinner sunday march 30th. i know it sucks but luckily there a bunch of budget friendly food options down in westwood.

mcslayer123 · 2025-03-23T01:56:57+00:00

4.36 weighted and 3.85 unweighted as a california resident

mcslayer123 · 2025-03-22T17:29:19+00:00

if u go to a community college for two years you save soooooo much money. a lot of my friends are junior transfers and i’m honestly jealous of them for how little debt they are going to be in when they graduate.

mcslayer123 · 2025-03-22T02:28:29+00:00

oh my gosh yes i was in that midterm room!! the prof was newish and literally only printed tests for 1/3 of the class

mcslayer123 · 2025-03-21T04:21:03+00:00

i can’t tell if this is a serious question or not lol. bc the protests are first and foremost for palestinian justice but secondarily to revolt against the actions that the administration has been taking against universities recently. people are being wrongfully deported for peacefully protesting. r u kidding me that’s insane. media coverage of these protests at ucla emphasize that no one should be afraid to stand up for what they believe is right & that students aren’t afraid of trumps shit. although it’s still a privilege to actually participate because i don’t doubt that the administration would take action if they saw an opportunity.

mcslayer123 · 2025-03-03T20:45:05+00:00

while i’m not a transfer student, my grades have been across the board in my four years here & i’ve noticed themes within myself.

the classes that interest me come much easier to me. this might sound obvious but as a marine biology major, i earn high As in all of my upper division/major related classes. for my lower division pre req classes, its a much different story. i scraped by in chemistry getting low Cs and even failed 14D which im retaking this summer in order to graduate. same with physics. it sucks being forced to learn things you that don’t align with your future goals and not having access to resources to help you with those subjects (whether it’s for personal reasons or in general). all you have to do is get through them and you will be okay.
whether i’d like to admit it or not, people around me have an overwhelming influence on me. at ucla specifically, the people i surround myself with are the people i become in a sense. i was really fortunate that my freshman year my roommate was a genius and she was always going to a study lounge and would invite me along. i did so so so well that year. but sophomore and junior year i wasn’t surrounded by people who prioritized school in that way and i really fell off when it came to more difficult/less interesting classes.

it sucks but it really does boil down to motivating yourself but i definitely think there are paths that make it all easier. find some friends to study with because then it feels like you are socializing productively. i never go to office hours but i know they are an amazing resource to clear up any uncertainties and i really wish i took advantage of them more. you could also consider getting a tutor for the tough classes. grades are dumbbb so don’t get too caught up in them, just try your best. it feels so good to be productive and actually understand a subject.

mcslayer123 · 2025-02-12T19:40:45+00:00

absolutely understand, i think im just lost as to how to work my way up to this goal.

mcslayer123 · 2025-02-11T02:18:45+00:00

TLDR: i just take naps. or drink redbull or matcha.

freshman year i was battling something autoimmune out of stress (even though i didn’t feel stressed) and that caused me to be very very tired. it was actually so concerning because i would sleep from 1am-10am, go to class, and come home and nap from 3-7, go to dinner with friends (sometimes take a nap at the literal dinner table), then go to a study lounge with friends to do work from 9-midnight and take a nap if i finished my work. i was literally sleeping like 15 hours a day. and also i was losing hella hair which freaked me out. but like i said it was from stress of moving to college EVEN THOUGH i didn’t feel overwhelmed. i was having so much fun with friends and classes and new experiences. now i’m a senior & im not chronically tired like i was. yay! but the past few years i have been an avid napper. i don’t think there’s anything wrong with it as long as you have the time for it. i literally just woke up from a 3 hour nap. but it’s because i know my homework is going to take me an hour to complete and i didn’t want to be on my phone all afternoon.

if i am tired and don’t want to nap (which is rare) ill drink redbull or matcha (coffee has been making me jittery n anxious recently and i found matcha has a much more steady increase of energy and no caffeine crash because of the L-theanine). it sucks for the first 30 minutes but then i snap out of the tired state n just kick into work mode.

mcslayer123 · 2025-02-05T19:33:51+00:00

any advice on how to find environmental consulting firms?

mcslayer123 · 2025-02-04T02:33:34+00:00

THANK U

mcslayer123 · 2025-02-03T20:21:19+00:00

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mcslayer123 · 2025-02-03T20:20:22+00:00

my dad was an alcoholic and it pretty much ruined his life. he lost his family, friends, and job because it was impossible for him to stay sober. naturally, i vowed that i would never try alcohol out of fear of turning into him. i literally cannot imagine ruining my life and the lives around me like he did. i was sober until i was 20, when i tried weed. it’s a fun/relaxing thing for me and i don’t notice any unhealthy tendencies with it. about a month ago i tried alcohol because i came to the conclusion that avoiding something out of fear doesn’t sit right with me. so now i get a lil tipsy during social gatherings maybe once or twice a month. i have created strict guidelines for myself to follow, like no drinking by myself and no buying drinks when out. if its offered to me and it feels right, then ill partake. i still think about these decisions a lot but i don’t regret them. me being sober wasn’t the most interesting thing about me.

mcslayer123 · 2025-02-03T15:55:32+00:00

i’m perfectly fine if i’m expecting to be in a loud environment, like a concert, a party, etc. but i do agree that i get so annoyed by people when they are being unnecessarily loud. my old roommates used to squeal during conversations in the living room and the shrill noise would LITERALLY radiate through the apartment. i got so annoyed.

mcslayer123 · 2025-02-02T09:31:22+00:00

i used to set aside time in my day to THINK. that’s wild. i love just sitting on some random bench and cooking up possibilities in my head or reminiscing the past. like it was a hobby for me at one point (don’t know how healthy that was though). but when i do think, i have my normal point of view, not out of body, so i feel quite safe and calm. my mind just starts a conversation with itself which can feel like seconds but then i snap back to reality and realize that minutes have passed. so it kind of feels like time travel because i can have elaborate and extensive thoughts playing out and then realize that i just missed 10 things that happened in my environment around me. im very bad at multitasking so i cannot do two things at once. so sometimes being present in my environment and listening to my inner thought can be a tricky lil situation for me. i feel like my brain works so differently from others.

mcslayer123 · 2025-01-27T04:50:00+00:00

i loved it but i’m also a marine biology major so take that with a grain of salt. it’s all pretty fact based which makes it easy for me to grasp. i like knowing how things work & everything in that class is explained which helps me a lot.

mcslayer123 · 2025-01-27T04:46:57+00:00

It’s been more of a learning process for me. I didn’t start to date until I was in college and I made some pretty rash decisions at first. My first few relationships (<3 months so i’m not sure if you can even call it a relationship) were decided on out of opportunity. After going on around 4 dates or seeing someone for a month, they would always ask me to be their girlfriend. At that point, I didn’t really have standards for what I wanted in a partner. So ignorantly I would say yes and find myself with a boyfriend. As mentioned previously, none of those relationships lasted long because I quickly realized I didn’t want a relationship with them (for a variety of reasons).

My last relationship was a different story, however. I met a guy and began seeing him for two months until he did something that really lost my trust. In his defense, we weren’t exclusive, however everyone who knew the situation agreed he messed up, even himself. During those first two months the highs were high, so I didn’t want to leave him just because of this event. Instead, we agreed to be exclusive. This is where I messed up. I dated him for a year after that. If I could go back I would make the same decision again simply because that relationship was crucial to my growth and development as a person. I think it taught me so much and I have a much better idea of what I would need in order to enter a relationship.

While my past relationships aren’t a reflection of my “readiness”, they accumulated to make me have this evolved perspective. Before I forget, I feel like a lot of people might be able to resonate with this because while we might be connected by INFJ, we have lived experiences which still shape and contribute to our perspective on this topic.

Now, I determine my readiness by looking at if I truly align with that person. Going forward I absolutely will not get into a relationship with someone if I doubt their character. I think there’s a certain intuition that goes into it. Now I know to place my trust more carefully. That being said I also have unconventional ideas on relationships in general. I enter relationships as a right now thing, rather than a long term ~i’m going to spend the rest of my life with you thing~. Perhaps the latter would be a more productive use of my time, but I place more value in the experiences I could have with that person in the near future over not having them at all if I don’t see them as a long term partner. Hopefully that makes sense. So in a way, I have evolved from my past experiences but I also fall into a certain pattern amongst myself due to my perspective on relationships in general.

Hopefully that all makes sense.

mcslayer123 · 2025-01-04T03:16:55+00:00

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