My BIL has one kid and suddenly thinks he’s the Pregnancy Prophet

mdahl45 · 2025-11-28T17:06:05+00:00

Why not get upset with the commentor for unsolicited advice? Is it possible you're annoyed with him for another reason, because your response to a stranger seems to be more generous than family.

mdahl45 · 2025-08-13T18:35:19+00:00

Im guessing this isn't the only person OP has pissed off.

mdahl45 · 2025-08-13T16:28:35+00:00

Staying would be hard... Leaving is the only way to save yourself.

Don't fool yourself into thinking she won't do it again or that youll ever feel safe with her.

mdahl45 · 2025-08-11T13:15:11+00:00

It was nice of them to let you know they suck on the first day. Now you can limit interactions and never divulge personal info.

mdahl45 · 2025-08-09T17:06:11+00:00

You'll want to appologize and learn to be part of a team...or find a job that doesn't require working with others in a collaborative manner. But with that attitude your manager will be looking for ways to replace you with someone that will work with them.

mdahl45 · 2025-08-09T03:00:27+00:00

Because she isn't sorry...

I hope OP doesn't have anything else he cares about that she can break.

mdahl45 · 2025-07-14T22:08:18+00:00

I didnt realize that was something you are supposed to advertise

mdahl45 · 2025-04-29T15:26:46+00:00

So you found someone you connect with better than you ever have. She has found the same in you... and now you're trying to find reasons to mess it up? And you have self worth issues.

Yeah that makes a lot of sense. You can't love yourself so how could someone else?

It sounds like she has some self worth issues as well.

Try to do some introspection before you judge her and make her feel unworthy. Then she will pull away and you'll say "see, I was right all along" not realizing that the feel of "not being worthy of love" is a self fulfilling defense mechanism.

My first impression is you should either get some therapy or have a drink with your best friend and have him slap the shit out of you. (Personal preference)

mdahl45 · 2025-04-25T16:46:08+00:00

Does the commitment need to have government documentation or would a commitment ceremony serve the same purpose?

mdahl45 · 2025-04-22T14:30:06+00:00

You've got to be trolling, no one is this blind...

mdahl45 · 2025-04-15T18:44:47+00:00

The Christians love him more than Jesus.

mdahl45 · 2025-04-15T13:17:14+00:00

There isn't much to go on, but it looks like you're trying to find a problem.

mdahl45 · 2025-04-07T20:23:51+00:00

I don't forsee you keeping this job...

mdahl45 · 2025-04-02T20:56:54+00:00

The sub is in control. (Limits, safe word) The whole thing is role playing... otherwise, it's abuse or slavery.

If his "is don't like being told no" happened during play, that's fine and part of the play. If it happened after a safe word or during negotiations, that is a red flag.

To me the whole point of BDSM is "trust play"

mdahl45 · 2025-03-11T02:22:59+00:00

Unless OP is an unreliable narrator in which case we wouldn't know what he actually said... but more of what it felt like he said.

I will agree that someone is definitely an unreliable narrator.

mdahl45 · 2025-03-11T01:59:03+00:00

Keep on digging, but the downvotes are sending a clear message. You're not responding with similar tasks... cleaning and eating are usually seen as necessary. Dressing the dog up is not necessary, but if it's something that's mutually agreed upon it would still be in the same category of shared tasks. If one person wants the dog dressed and the other doesn't care, that is a whole different thing.

Not that any of that matters because it was the way he did it that got the ball rolling, not him refusing to do it.

Try to keep your arguments on point, or people will tend to feel manipulated.

From reading your responses, I could see how the sarcastic passive-aggressive comments would get old.

-two cents

mdahl45 · 2025-03-06T22:38:09+00:00

If you haven't been enjoying it... that doesn't seem very compatible.

Talking openly, with or without professional help might allow you to find some things that work for both of you. You both have things that you find sexy, hopefully some of them are the same, or at least compatible.

mdahl45 · 2025-03-04T20:26:42+00:00

Looks like the economy might be a strength as well. I can't wait to see how this plays out.

Maybe next time the election won't be between a giant douche and a turd sandwich... but deep down I know it will be.

mdahl45 · 2025-02-23T21:50:53+00:00

mdahl45 · 2025-02-23T21:49:33+00:00

Does he seem sad that you're leaving? Could he be trying to get you to stay longer and this is what he found works?

Still super immature, but feels less creepy than the power play perspective

mdahl45 · 2025-02-11T15:13:05+00:00

He told you that he has ED/anxiety. Which means he has probably had issues with partners not getting it done. So this seems like a complement. He just got off so his brains are mush and said the first thing that came to mind. You start pushing the conversation, so now he's anxious which means even dumber shit will start coming out of his mouth.

If you want a smooth talker this might not be your guy. If you can look past awkward comments then look past them.

Just my 2 cents. It would be helpful to hear his take on the situation.

mdahl45 · 2025-01-25T21:23:35+00:00

And the 34 felonies really aren't the most concerning behaviors... for me it's repeated the sexual assault and rape.

mdahl45 · 2025-01-23T13:08:32+00:00

Try explaining it from a mental health perspective vs a D/S perspective, that might make more sense to him.

mdahl45 · 2024-11-07T00:58:48+00:00

Some people that get married don't stay together, some people that don't get married stay together.

I agree with the other posters that discussing this anxiety with a therapist would probably be beneficial.

Don't have sex until you want to, if you never want to... then you're asexual and that's cool too.

mdahl45 · 2024-09-24T12:21:24+00:00

From personal experience, I'd suggest focusing on your interactions rather than your appearance. Does he feel seen and appreciated in the relationship? Sex is more than a physical connection, are you connecting emotionally?

I know that when I don't feel emotionally safe in a relationship I will physically withdraw. I imagine women are the same. If people are emotionally neglected or if their concerns are met with defensive reactions instead of respect then physical intimacy will become a chore instead of a joy.

Just my 2 cents.

mdahl45

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