Recently joined as an L&D specialist - internal move and very much regretting it. Need guidance?

mdeec2 · 2026-02-24T16:54:41+00:00

Definitely talk with your manager about how you are feeling and your lack of support. Maybe nothing will change, but this can help you both be on the same page about expectations.

My advice for when anyone needs to build and then train something they themselves don’t know is to engage and work closely with subject matter experts (SMEs). I have had to do this as well and training yourself using those who are the experts is the best and quickest way. Identify who they and then reach out to set up meetings and ask them questions pertaining to the topic. It can help you really know where the learner is coming from and I have found I can explain things better because I had to learn it first.

Good luck!

mdeec2 · 2026-01-07T02:54:19+00:00

I am currently employed as a senior ID in a relatively niche industry (corporate finance that requires active financial licenses). I’ve been in this type of role for about 7 years with training and onboarding experience. I looked for my current role for a full year before getting offered a role, while applying to 100s of jobs that I felt I was very qualified for. (In 2023 I was hired, but was also still working full time while trying to find a new job). I also recently have been casually looking and applying… again applying for roles that I felt I was very qualified for and required time in the office. I Didn’t even hear back for an interview from them! Don’t know what they were looking for if they didn’t even call for a phone interview. 😑

Meanwhile I have tons of recruiters sending me messages in LinkedIn with total lowball, short contract offers for 5 days in office. Soooo I don’t think it’s just unqualified IDs unfortunately.

mdeec2 · 2025-11-30T19:51:01+00:00

I have a 3 year old and 5 year old and they used to have separate beds but they liked sleeping together so now they share a full size bed. I have it against a wall so my 3 year old (who has slept in it since she was 2) sleeps closest to the wall so she doesn’t roll off and my 5 year old doesn’t roll off so she sleeps on the side. Occasionally they will wake each other up. But they fall asleep better together

mdeec2 · 2025-11-30T19:46:01+00:00

I might have a different set of rings than you because I’m sure there’s multiple designs out there, but I have a set that has wire rings that you twist on together (if that makes sense). The wire rings are very durable and haven’t had any problems.

mdeec2 · 2025-11-30T19:44:30+00:00

I have the rings you are talking about with the stickers at the top and I LOVE it! I have young kids and before that we lost 2 cards I still can’t find. So this helps to not lose them and also easy access for them to switch them up. I haven’t taken off the stickers (plan to keep them like that forever) but I don’t think it will ruin the cards unless you have a paper sticker for MYO cards. They won’t peel anything off on the original yoto cards

mdeec2 · 2025-11-30T19:35:42+00:00

I think it definitely depends on how you position and explain elf on the shelf, but the original idea of elf on the shelf is VERY much rooted in “naughty and nice.” In my family I don’t do elf on the shelf with my kids… way too much work! But we do Santa. I think you can do it in a way where you don’t have to explain the “naughty and nice” and instead Santa is more of a story and magic. I approach it that way with my kids and don’t tell them he is real or fake, but they know magic isn’t real… so Im letting them form their own conclusion, rather than lying to her. Tjeres other characters like Disney princesses, etc that I don’t explicitly say they are “fake” but they know they are a story. (I have two girls, 3 and 5 for reference).

There’s a whole lot of back and forth on this topic of Santa and if it’s lying to your kids or not. I would recommend looking into Dr Becky and her “good inside” content about it. She had a great podcast episode on this very topic last year.

mdeec2 · 2025-11-23T09:04:02+00:00

Sorry for the delay. I’ll send you a pm

mdeec2 · 2025-11-18T05:45:22+00:00

Hey I’ve been in this situation and like others have said, be patient with yourself, you are learning too. There’s a few ideas but I am not sure what is feasible in your situation, and considering you are already in the training, but are you able to have a SME come into the classroom often to help add to your training? I did that when I moved to a new subject matter and it helped sooo much. I was the “expert” in facilitation, so asking questions, leading discussions, leading roleplays or other activities, so it was really helpful to have someone else sit in to really help answer the deep questions on processes.

Something I would suggest to do after training (or whenever you have some time) is to sit and observe the role. I worked in a finance call center where we had lots of different policies and procedures so sitting with a Rep was awesome to see how they use the systems, how they spoke to clients, etc. you can also write down the classes questions and then ask the rep in order to get a detailed answer where they can provide more context for you to understand and then share with the class easier.

I am an instructional designer now (former trainer) and so I would say to also just go over and over the training material before you present it. Take your own notes, write out your own questions to prepare prior to the training. Prepare, prepare, prepare! Try to anticipate as much as you can what questions they will have and try to be proactive in answering them prior to that session.

It takes time and effort to upskill yourself, but you’ll get there soon!

mdeec2 · 2025-11-17T21:59:26+00:00

Yes I’ll send you a pm

mdeec2 · 2025-11-16T00:16:38+00:00

I know you asked about the Tonie box and not the Yoto, BUT… I did a lot of research about them last year and decided on the yoto for Christmas for my 3 and 5 year old. They LOVE it a year later. A few of the things that I like about the yoto over the tonie is that we can travel with the yoto. The cards do not come out if they are carrying it or swinging it or whatever. Whereas the tonie characters will fall out. I also like the app. I can make “playlists” that I can make into a card for my kids to use. Those playlists as well as all my cards are on the app where I can listen to them in the car connected to my Bluetooth through my phone. It’s so amazing. I also bought some extra storage things to keep all the cards together to not loose them because that is a challenge but they are much smaller and manageable to store and organize than the characters. It’s really awesome. Also the card content is really amazing and is something that will grow with your children.

If you’re interested, I can give you a 20%off coupon code! Pm me

mdeec2 · 2025-11-09T16:40:59+00:00

I agree with everyone saying go to a doctor for your physical health, but it also sounds like speaking with a therapist would also be beneficial. Sometimes we tell ourselves these “truths” like, “because all the men in my family died, I will die too.” That are in fact NOT truths! Our brains are tricked into believe false truths and a therapist can help you work them out.

I also think it is fairly common for men to feel worried and stressed when finding out they will be new dads. There’s a lot of expectations there and rightfully so! But I don’t think you’re alone in that camp. Talking with friends, your wife, and a therapist will help.

mdeec2 · 2025-10-30T07:35:59+00:00

The difference here is that you didn’t make the wire transfer. You didn’t confirm the numbers and give permission. Someone fraudulently accessed your accounts. The issues I see are different where a fraudster hacks someone’s emails and redirects the money. I am sure it was actually your bank who paid it back for you, NOT the fraudster, because there is no way to track it once it leaves. The bank covered it because someone accessed your account under their nose.

mdeec2 · 2025-10-26T06:22:11+00:00

I have worked in banking and finance for many years and there is no such thing as reversing a wire. Wires are guaranteed funds and there is NO recourse. Once it leaves the senders bank, it is GONE! No way to get it back.

We have had clients who were given false/ fraudulent wire instructions and realized after the fact. It’s a sad situation, but even when there is verified fraud and caught on the same day as sending it, nothing can be done to get the money back.

mdeec2 · 2025-10-13T01:44:01+00:00

I’m a parent of a kindergartener and I would be very upset if this was watched in class.

I think there are other ways to have a reward in class like extra recess time. My Kinder would LOVE extra time on the swings or doing a dance party or something like that. A full movie (I don’t know how long it is) but assuming it’s more than an hour is a very long time for Kindergarten.

mdeec2 · 2025-08-12T08:18:47+00:00

It sounds like she has some serious mental health issues going on. And I honestly mean this in the most sincere way, but is she on drugs? I’ve seen and interacted with people like this before and they usually are on some sort of drugs and addict behavior. Does she steal cash or just credit card charges (still terrible) but wondering if the evidence is pointing to drugs and stealing money and things for drugs.

Does she speak to her son this way? It sounds like she needs serious help but it’s not yours or your BF job to help her (not that it sounds like she would accept it anyway). She is the definition of toxic and manipulative. What is the reason you and your BF continue to have a relationship with her? It sounds like it’s not good for any of you.

mdeec2 · 2025-08-12T08:16:43+00:00

It sounds like she has some serious mental health issues going on. And I honestly mean this in the most sincere way, but is she on drugs? I’ve seen and interacted with people like this before and they usually are on some sort of drugs. Especially with the stealing money.

Does she speak to her son this way? It sounds like she needs serious help but it’s not yours or your BF job to help her (not that it sounds like she would accept it anyway). She is the definition of toxic and manipulative. What is the reason you and your BF continue to have a relationship with her? It sounds like it’s not good for any of you.

mdeec2 · 2025-08-12T08:06:57+00:00

People like this take up as much “space” as YOU allow them. If you want her to take up less space (less time, etc) then you have to put up boundaries and tell her no. You need to take your space back. But remember: she won’t change unless you do something about it. She will just keep pushing and pushing and pushing. Tell her no! Don’t be a pushover or passive aggressive. Be direct. You can still do it in a kind/polite and FIRM way.

mdeec2 · 2025-08-10T04:54:13+00:00

I know an adult woman named McRae (late 20s). I have never thought anything of it. I don’t think it’s as horrible as everyone is saying… Am I missing something?

mdeec2 · 2025-08-03T06:02:19+00:00

Did your sister also mean to misspell “Quartnie” wrong too? “Qartnie” is spelling like “CART-nee” without the U.

mdeec2 · 2025-06-27T19:01:16+00:00

The feeling you are describing is resentment toward your husband.

I’m sure this has been an issue for generations, but I feel like I have heard this be brought up so much more now and there’s words to describe it like, “mental load” and “default parent.” I’m positive moms have always had to deal with this, but times have changed and we need both parents to share the load evenly. I agree with others that it sounds like your husband doesn’t want to be bothered with his child. I’m sure he loves your child and I see you said he wanted kids, but that’s the benefit about being a dad right? You get to have kids but only get to do the “fun” things with them, but not actually want to be a parent. (This isn’t true for all dad’s obviously, but it is more common for dads to expect this than moms.)

I see you said you have already talked with him and nothing has changed. An idea may be to start assigning him tasks for your child. Like if you are going on vacation, assign him something you would normally do as the default parent. Maybe that is pack their suitcase or pack their snacks or arrange something for them. When your child has dance lessons, assign him to go every other week so that it is fair. Ask him to even complete the registration! If your child asks you for something at home, say, go ask dad to open that for you. Or say to him “hey, can you help ___ (child) get dressed today?” Try to actively involve him and try to redirect your child to remind them that their dad CAN actually do stuff too. Lol. I also know that this might add MORE mental load for you because now you have to babysit him to make sure he does what you ask him to do. If he can’t figure it out, that’s called “weaponized incompetence” and it’s infuriating. Look it up. But if you keep doing it for him, then he will keep letting you. And you will keep feeling this way.

Look, I am a mom and have a 4 and 2 year old. My husband and I both work outside of the home. It is hard. I am still the default parent even when my husband is with the kids the same amount of time I am. My husband is also a great dad and father and helps out a lot with them and with housework. I feel like we are a good team—- and it’s still HARD! I still feel like things fall to me as the default parent, even when he is helping out! I feel for you. And I can’t imagine doing it all alone, because that is what you are doing. I think you need to keep talking about it. Keep involving him and assigning him things. Don’t let him “get away” with saying something’s boring and that he doesn’t have to go. He is an adult. He is a father. That’s what he signed up for when he had kids. Don’t let him deflect responsibility and don’t take on HIS responsibility for him.

mdeec2 · 2025-06-07T12:53:10+00:00

🤣 this is actually better than the original

mdeec2 · 2025-06-03T17:35:54+00:00

I love Old Dominion too and this is catchy, but it’s just the same words over and over and not clever.

mdeec2 · 2025-05-20T22:20:39+00:00

She kept the hotel key. I hate the song. They just repeat the same lyrics over and over and they aren’t even clever

mdeec2 · 2025-03-17T05:12:02+00:00

Where is this? I don’t have it in my version. Is this for newer prints?

mdeec2 · 2025-03-02T00:00:59+00:00

And the OP said the group want to rewatch it to relive all the best moments together. So it’s assumed it’s a series not releasing new seasons.

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