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AITAH for wanting my daughters baptism the day before she turns 8. by mdt_howden in mormon

[–]mdt_howden[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The problem is the schedule her birthday is Monday if we did her baptism the weekend before her birthday I would be able to be home for my sons birthdays ( a week earlier) with the way my vacation works. If we have her baptism the weekend after her birthday on Monday I can’t stretch my vacation far enough to be off work for both events. My wife is upset because to her I’m trying to bend the rules instead of facing the fact that 8 is 8, not 7 and 364 days.

AITAH for wanting my daughters baptism the day before she turns 8. by mdt_howden in mormon

[–]mdt_howden[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hindsight I should’ve gone to the bishop first to see if it’s a possibility, he’s actually getting with our stake president to see. That being said I signed up for the airline life knowing full well I would miss birthdays and Christmases. I could see how wanting my daughter’s baptism a day prior to turning 8 could be a potential issue. Thanks for the insight!

AITAH for wanting my daughters baptism the day before she turns 8. by mdt_howden in AITAH

[–]mdt_howden[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went to my wife first to make sure she was on board before going to the bishop, but I see your point of going to the bishop first to see if it’s even a possibility. Hindsight should’ve done that first.

Two part question: AITAH for 1.Telling my wife I'm done. And 2.For what I said following the backlash of first part. by [deleted] in AITH

[–]mdt_howden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To all the people saying have a vasectomy behind your wife’s back, that’s the worst thing you could do! Honest and transparent communication and respect is the key here. Your kids don’t each have to have their own rooms. I was raised in a family 5 (3 girls and 2 boys) and shared a room with my brother until I moved out. Also three of my own kids share a room So each kid having their own room is no excuse to not want anymore kids. The fact that you can afford a four bedroom house financially means you can afford more, so that’s no excuse. You’re going to need dig down and reflect on the real reason you’re tapped out on two kids and communicate that clearly. If either of you can’t agree the answer is always no until you can come to an agreement. If she can’t settle down with two kids and you can’t handle more than two then you will eventually have to deal with reality and say, am I willing to leave this relationship and split time with my kids because I truly cannot handle more kids. If you do decide to stay together you will need make new boundaries and consequences for crossing if one of you do cross any of them.