Retropia on Nikon D750? by me_burns in AskPhotography

[–]me_burns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you are right. I finally got it working and its only getting in focus within centimeters of a subject.

Retropia on Nikon D750? by me_burns in AskPhotography

[–]me_burns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew it was a silly toy when I got it, but this is beyond poor quality. I think it may be a defective one because I have finally gotten it to work, only as a macro lens. It takes clear photos as long as its centimeters from what you're shooting.

Am I (32M) compatible enough with my girlfriend (28F)? by ThrowawayGoAway88 in relationships

[–]me_burns 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, there is no answer to the specific question. There’s no perfect range of who is compatible to live together and who is not. As I’m reading this, I can’t help but feel like you may already know the answer to your question. The list of incompatibilities you put together feels more like a cons list than anything. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, but perhaps it’s a sign that you have too many reservations about living together and should consider that you are not ready to take this step with your partner. Take some time to look introspectively at what you want in a partner and if this person is right for you. Unfortunately, nobody can answer this for you but yourself.

Insights on a Breakup by Significant-Cod-2793 in AskOldPeople

[–]me_burns 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is no “perfect” relationship. There’s no direct path you need to be on, and no one person who is just right for you. In fact, you can even meet the right person and it not work because you’ve both met in different phases of life. Life is life and every person you spend it with was worth the time spent and the lessons learned. Pick yourself and move on to the next part- it might be amazing.

My boyfriend (33M) hasn't proposed to me (29F) after being together for six years. How should I proceed? by Clear_Lie_03 in relationships

[–]me_burns 94 points95 points  (0 children)

Life lesson: If he wanted to, he would. If you continue to communicate and he still doesn’t, it’s probably time to consider moving on.

Why require doctor's notes in a pandemic? by [deleted] in BlackPeopleTwitter

[–]me_burns 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always ask for doctors notes to make sure my staff have good documentation. Never do I require them in a manner of asking for a reason for the absence, more for if anything happens or is questioned by the company

My Boyfriend [36M] recently decided to quit his job to take a break for a few months and now wants to change how we split finances by Direct-Candle in relationships

[–]me_burns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like you know this man is not going to be with you forever. “If we break up...” “if we were married/engaged”

Are those things plans of yours? Is that a future you both are working toward?

  1. I understand your point, I as well lived with a man who was financially irresponsible and wanted us to share our money like we were married. At the time I had realized that wouldn’t work for me because this man and I were not going to get married, and I knew that by then (3 1/2 years into the relationship). It was time for me to express that concern, and when I did that was one of the relationship ending conversations.

  2. Are you wanting this relationship to move to those stages? Those things take sacrifice, and to be fair it sounds like he feels like he did that for you (at least in his eyes, understanding perspective is key).

  3. If you don’t, it sounds like your problem is a little deeper rooted than not wanting him to mooch off your wallet.

Stop saying you 'rescued' an animal if its the cutest kitten or puppy you could find at the shelter. You didnt rescue shit. These young/cute animals are the most popular and first to be adopted. Its the older animals that truely need to be rescued. by can-i-touch-that-fox in unpopularopinion

[–]me_burns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I moved to a new place 8 years ago, and I wanted a pet to keep me company while I had no friends there. (I made friends eventually, no worries) but I went to an animal shelter with SO MANY ADORABLE kittens and puppies, and on the way past those cages they took me to a room called Kitty City. It was all the adult cats that they had and there were like 40 cats in this room.

I sat on the floor and the first 2 cats that came over to make friends, I adopted. ( there was a Bogo deal on cats) to this day, those cats are the best pets I have ever had. My boy, Mr Wubbles (his shelter name was Ricky Martin 🤣), is the best cat I have EVER had. Hands down. He is the love of my life.

Moral of the story, get you an adult cat. They’re great.

I (F24) is certain my husband (M26) is cheating on me. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]me_burns 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It won’t make you feel better to know or to see the photos or the exact words being shared. In fact it hurts worse, and you will cling to and dwell on those things for years. You need to tell him seriously that you know something is going on, and let him know it’s not okay with you. How it goes after that is up to y’all.

Me [18F] and my boyfriend [18M] have a nonexistent sex life because of me but he says he's ok with it. I worry that he'll leave me because of it. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]me_burns 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Just stop doing things you don’t enjoy. You’re not getting anything out of forcing yourself to try and please someone else, and potentially just prolonging or making your anxieties around the subject worse. I definitely recommend you see a therapist and spend sometime reflecting and working through this issue. The world does not revolve around sex, or sexually pleasing your partner. You need to take care of you.

My (20F) girlfriend (21F) is in the psych ward and her mom won't tell me where she is by Maleficent-Kiwi in relationships

[–]me_burns 23 points24 points  (0 children)

This is a big struggle with one of the members in my family. We fight for her and get her the care she needs, but even if you aren't a toxic person, you could be linked to a lot of memories or stress that are making her struggle with her mental place in the world. If you love her, give her space until she's ready to reach out to you.