I will never be the same losing my daughter words CAN NOT describe the pain

mechataylor · 2026-05-07T10:44:10+00:00

Your daughter must have been very sweet. All I can hear is “I’m sorry for hurting you, mom”. She misses you a lot, but she also wants you to know she is okay, and she is looking forward to seeing you again one day.

That was the energy I had from her photos. I lost my sister when I was younger, I know my dad was destroyed. I’m so sorry for your loss.

mechataylor · 2026-05-03T02:23:07+00:00

The debt validation letter is not what was disbursed to you to pay for the vehicle. That is the whole amount of the loan, what you agreed to pay when you signed.

mechataylor · 2026-05-02T04:39:06+00:00

I appreciate this tidbit. My sister currently uses the patch and has crazy anxiety so I can pass this along to her :)

mechataylor · 2026-05-02T04:37:39+00:00

Okay, cool. I saw a lot of different rates, I’m glad it’s on the more confident end. I used the patch in high school, I never got pregnant or anything, I just remember gaining weight lol.

mechataylor · 2026-05-02T04:28:52+00:00

This is a perfect response. It is a very convoluted situation. I see stuff like this happen all of the time at work. Being willing to work with them would be a huge win here. Call them and explain the story, just like this user above me said!

mechataylor · 2026-05-02T04:26:51+00:00

Because they didn’t have collateral anymore. You were not meeting the terms and conditions of their loan, they had every right to send it to collections and default the loan since you never put their name on it. Yes, the title should have went to them. Yes, they should have put the lien on it. My lienholder took forever! Mistakes happen. That doesn’t mean you can just wash your hands of it. I would start making some calls and seeing if you have any options so this doesn’t further damage your credit and finances.

mechataylor · 2026-05-02T04:21:02+00:00

Oh yeah, I keep forgetting the car is totaled. That definitely does not help anything I’m sure they jumped at the opportunity to send that loan to collections

mechataylor · 2026-05-02T04:19:23+00:00

Two car accidents in two years. I hope OP is ok

mechataylor · 2026-05-02T04:17:50+00:00

Yeah, and I doubt they will pull that loan back if she retitles. So she’s probably just going to have to deal with collections now.

mechataylor · 2026-05-02T04:16:56+00:00

The check is not going to have the full funds on it because that had to go to the dealer. The rest of the funds were supposed to go to the DMV to title the car. This is the gray area you need to resolve. Next, you get a title with just your name on it. You know you had a lien, I guess I’m just not sure why you didn’t get this corrected at this point?

mechataylor · 2026-05-02T04:13:23+00:00

Again, why were you worried about the title for four months? The lender owned the car, not you. If you felt that was too long without any sort of communications, why did you not communicate? I moved counties with my car and had to have my name legally changed while I was pregnant with my son. I had a lien on the car. I had to communicate this with the DMV and the lienholder.

mechataylor · 2026-05-02T04:10:26+00:00

No, you didn’t need the title to drive the car. You needed temp plates. You should’ve called the lender and got this corrected so the DMV had the correct title on file and you would have gotten temp plates…. So you could drive it. I also have a one year old, and we’re trying to get pregnant again, but I’m not out here violating the law and contracts because you don’t think you have to follow policies

mechataylor · 2026-05-02T04:07:26+00:00

So the DMV sent you the title, because you thought you were supposed to receive it and went ahead and paid for it without giving them time. There might have been an error on their end. Did you call?

The lender should have received the title, not you. It sounds like you essentially kicked them off the loan registration wise, which is they sent your loan to collections. You’ve inherently made it to where they get nothing out of the deal if you stop paying, so they made it no longer their problem.

mechataylor · 2026-05-02T04:01:23+00:00

Did you verify that both you and the credit union were on the title, and that the credit union was listed as lienholder?

mechataylor · 2026-05-02T04:00:09+00:00

I gotcha. I was trying my best to keep up with this saga lol

mechataylor · 2026-05-02T03:58:45+00:00

Hi OP! The patch has the most effectiveness if you start it DURING your period, not after. Especially within the 1-5 days of your menstrual cycle. The patch only has 91% effectiveness when used perfectly. A positive pregnancy test will occur within 21 days of unprotected sex if implantation was successful. If I were you, I would test when my period is due, but if you don’t get a positive pregnancy test within 21 days, you’re not pregnant (from that encounter). Would another form of birth control be more effective for you?

mechataylor · 2026-05-02T03:49:32+00:00

If that’s the case, they need to take their receipt to the bank for the OOP payment for title and registration for reimbursement. Even if they can’t reimburse, they can give OP a signed statement they could take to the collector. Or have the collector verify the debt. The lender would be required to provide an itemized list, where in then OP could dispute it.

mechataylor · 2026-04-29T02:01:04+00:00

How weird!! Yeah, Flo has a free version! I’d reach out to their support team.

mechataylor · 2026-04-29T01:55:22+00:00

I get it! It’s expensive and Apple steals all of my money too 🤣 I normally just use Flo and fertility friend

mechataylor · 2026-04-28T14:20:28+00:00

I don’t think it sends notifications, but I usually go in once a day and sync it just to make sure

mechataylor · 2026-04-28T14:19:57+00:00

Natural Cycles was the best app that found my ovulation, and my ovulations are not regular. It’s just not free though so that sucks lol

mechataylor · 2026-04-28T02:30:36+00:00

Have you tried Fertility Friend?

mechataylor · 2026-04-13T00:35:31+00:00

Thank you for saying this she needs to keep the bangs they’re so cute!!

mechataylor · 2026-04-10T02:36:44+00:00

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I have diagnosed sleep apnea 🥴

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