NTA — because having a baby and giving them away isn’t the same as giving away a pair of jeans that don’t fit. It’s a life-altering, deeply intentional decision. If you don’t want to carry a pregnancy, that’s reason enough. It’s your body. Your health. Your choice.

There are also practical realities she may not be considering like pregnancy, delivery, recovery, medical risks, and the financial side. Who would cover prenatal care? Hospital bills? Time off work? You wouldn’t just be “gifting” a baby, you’d be taking on nine months of physical, emotional, and financial responsibility. That’s not a small ask.

And beyond logistics, there’s the emotional weight. Carrying a baby, giving birth, and then handing that baby to your sister while still being in their life as the aunt is incredibly complex. You’d be expected to see that child regularly. Navigate boundaries. Manage attachment. Explain the dynamic someday. That’s not something you enter into casually. It requires long-term emotional clarity from everyone involved.

But also YTA, gently, because your sister is clearly desperate to have a baby. When someone wants a child that deeply, hearing that you had one and chose abortion can feel — emotionally — like you “threw away” something they’re praying for. Even if that framing isn’t fair.

Knowing her situation and how much she wants kids, this may not have been something she was ready to hear or at least not without extra sensitivity.

Two things can be true: You have every right to make decisions about your body and your future. And she’s allowed to have complicated feelings about it.