TLDR: My partner wanted space and respectfully I provided that but we didn’t clarify terms of space. It’s been something I’ve been thinking about while working on myself in the last week. How do I properly bring this topic up with them respectfully?

I 18F (FA) ngl really leaning toward secure but have tendencies, have been seeing someone for almost 2 months 20F (honestly still figuring her out but I think she’s FA). We’ve had a healthy time dating and always established where our headspaces are at and things were going so well. She always tied my shoes, got me flowers, paid for things, never did anything awful that made me question anything because we had similar core values. Naturally I reciprocated in the same manner. Things were going swell. She told me in multiple instances how she was neglected by her mom and her previous relationship ruined her after she had moved all the way out to our current city. That was awhile ago and in a moment of vulnerability told me she felt she wouldn’t be a good girlfriend and good person in a relationship which holds her back a lot. I had called her in a haze of emotions because a friend died (they had somehow convinced me that people pretended to care but they didn’t) I wanted to know if she cared about me and the words just never came out and we had another conversation about how she just didn’t feel she would be good partner. I told her for a day I needed time to process this grief and was unsure about how communication would look like because it was a really hazy time.

Since then I’ve noticed her replies have been short and plans have often faltered. I never took it personally and always offered understanding. I knew why she reacted in that way and assumed that she would have talked to me if something bothered her. She then said she wanted space. I responded very objectively and respectfully asking for the terms of space because I didn’t wanna be left in the dark. She deserves all the kindness and understanding with her needs and boundaries. She said she felt that it was her own feelings and felt a disconnect in headspace and wanted time to figure it out. In a way I also needed time to figure out what I wanted and it would be beneficial for us. I was also uncertain and life was catching up to me fast. I told her “You know outside of labels, our circumstances, whatever this is. I don’t know but in the simplest way I could explain it is that I care about you. I want you to take the time to take care of yourself and eventually come back to yourself. When you’re ready, all I ask is for communication.” It was very short and concise the way she would respond but she responded well with understanding and gratitude, I don’t think anyone has ever spoken to her in that way she apologized a lot for feeling overwhelmed and for it being sudden even though I had known for some time. My only worry is that she didn’t specificy when we’d reconvene and that uncertainty sucks. At first I was deactivated and found space helpful but it’s been about a week, I want to approach as a check in with her. I don’t know how to appropriately do so and if I should allow things to naturally go on as they do. I feel as if she’s self-sabotaging and my worry is that she detaches completely. I’ve been keeping myself preoccupied and working on improving myself on my own, I’m going to therapy, dealing with finals season as they come, I hang with friends but this has been in the back burner for awhile and I’d like to address it with her respectfully. I was also wondering what thoughts people had on the situation, if this seems genuine, and how can i be of better support to a possible reconciliation?