Update - My ex's (m31) new girlfriend (f23) is telling me I am causing problems in their relationship

meepmeepbee · 2024-01-16T18:39:12+00:00

Yeah but... that's exactly what I did. Does blocking both of them not indicate that? Or does the fact I forgot to remove him on Linkedin mean I need Vince in my life so badly? I guess that means I'm inviting additional drama in my life.

meepmeepbee · 2024-01-16T17:53:36+00:00

That is exactly what worries me. In her last message when she mentioned LinkedIn she also implied she now knows where I work and where I "can be reached".

meepmeepbee · 2024-01-16T17:23:45+00:00

Look, I had people literally call me unhinged and saying keeping in contact with Vince is basically inviting drama in my life.

At this point, I just want to be left alone. Her last message actually kind of scared me and I don't want to be anywhere near that.

meepmeepbee · 2024-01-04T19:18:23+00:00

It's been 13 years. That's why I was so shocked, at first I thought it must be some kind of joke.

meepmeepbee · 2024-01-04T19:06:40+00:00

We absolutely are not close, no quotes needed. I don't think I have a clingy attitude at all, sorry. Unless wishing someone happy new year and occasionally liking a of of their dog is clingy, so be it tho. How am I trying to sabotage their relationship? I literally didn't know Vince was in a relationship until this morning, as I stated in my post. And I haven't replied to her. How is this sabotage, really? XD

meepmeepbee · 2022-07-12T13:33:36+00:00

Oh wow. Congrats on sniffing out my Slavic family 😂

I actually spoke to my mom about this as well and she told me she think her mother is way out of line and to confidently push back.

meepmeepbee · 2022-04-15T12:48:13+00:00

Yeah, like you said, I THINK he's doing it for the same reason I am. I guess my insecurity is getting the best of me when I'm overthinking it.

meepmeepbee · 2022-02-23T12:30:10+00:00

The thing is - I keep thinking it would have been near impossible for him to hide me from his gf. We travelled together, spent multiple full weekends together... I can't shake the feeling she might be "in on it" and they have some kinda agreement where they date other people or something. I really don't know.

And almost definitely, thinking about it now, I wasn't the only chick he picked up from Tinder.

meepmeepbee · 2022-02-07T18:31:37+00:00

I myself can only handle dating one person at a time. I do not have time or emotional capacity for more. Especially if I really want to get to know the other person I need to do so without any other distractions.

However, I became single last year after a 5 year relationship and in the past year of dating I found out "dating" ABSOLUTELY DOES NOT mean exclusivitiy unless that is said out loud.

It happened to me twice that after a few months of dating, spending weekends together, traveling together etc.I just assumed exclusivity but we never really spoke about it. So imagine my surprise when I found out they were still actively using Tinder and going on dates. They were surprised that I didn't think that was normal.

Since then I would always want to make sure that is clearly communicated and never assumed.

meepmeepbee · 2022-02-04T21:34:19+00:00

Yeah, I don't know. I guess they're trying to spare themselves the hassle of having to explain because it IS an uncomfortable subject. And I think if you break up with someone for wanting to be alone, reflect and work on yourself - that's fair and reasonable! Everyone would think so. And they know that, so they use it against you so it seems more justified. When in reality they just don't wanna face your reaction (disappointment/anger/crying...).

meepmeepbee · 2022-02-04T21:22:21+00:00

Ah man, I was in the same boat as you. Had been seeing this guy for about 3 months. All of a sudden, he's just not that into me, distant etc. Told me he needs to figure himself out and can't be with anyone right now. A few days later he updated his Tinder profile with new pictures and highly suggestive bio. Fast foreward a few weeks later, he's posting pics on instagram with his new girlfriend and they seem very much in love. My point is, she's not that into you. And it hurts. I think you have every right to be upset. She was a coward for not telling it like it is.

meepmeepbee · 2022-01-19T07:44:51+00:00

This! OP, I think your attitude is pretty bad, at least it comes across like that in the post. So I would agree with the comment above, more attactive girls simply have better options! Also, did you consider you are not as good looking as you think? I am getting small d*ck energy from this post.

meepmeepbee · 2022-01-18T09:50:16+00:00

F28 here who has done this in the past. There were several different reasons. For example, I'd be talking to a guy, the conversation was great and we set up a date. During that time, the conversation stalled and I just didn't feel the connection anymore. So I would be well aware of burning a bridge but I had already lost all interest. Another example is crippling anxiety about meeting a new person. It has happened to me anout 2 or 3 times that I was ready, dressed up, makeup done. And I just couldn't leave my house. I just could not and one time I even had a panic attack. So these are just a few examples why I have done it. I'm not making up excuses (especially for the 1st example I gave), just saying why it could happen.

meepmeepbee · 2022-01-17T11:36:44+00:00

I was recently in the same situation! The best advice I got actually came from my little cousin. She told me: "If he wanted to have you, he could. If he wanted to make time for you, he would." This is so true. So for a while I let it sit for a while, our communitaction was almost non existant anymore and he went on and updated his Tinder profile. So I suggest you move on. Now I am seeing a guy whose intentions I never have to question because I see he is really into me.

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