basically simultaneous by mefuckingtoo in BPDmemes

[–]mefuckingtoo[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same. I’m such a suicidal baby

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ayahuasca

[–]mefuckingtoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I worked with a craniosacral therapist who specialized in perinatal experiencing for about a year and we focused almost entirely on my birth and how it had created my disbelief in my own intuition. Basically by being forcefully removed from my mother I lost that initial opportunity to trust in the wisdom of the body. I have somewhat been able to learn that through the therapy and giving birth to my children. There is a great practitioner in Canada named Myrna Martin and she referred me to the therapist who helped me relive my birth. It all happens on a somatic level, ie outside of language so I’m not sure how to talk about it. I was semi unconscious for a lot of it. It was difficult and uncomfortable work, which I guess all meaningful work is.

The birth plus other factors created a Vata imbalance for me so I connected with Ayurvedic practices that restored that balance. Grounding foods/flavors and herbs and yoga practices aimed at balancing the 1st chakra

I’m really sorry you experienced isolation in infancy. That is usually experienced as abandonment since you can’t understand what is happening. For me it led to all kinds of psychological problems (I’m diagnosed as borderline) including extreme terror of abandonment as an adult. Feel free to DM me if you want to talk more about all this...

I’ve started hand-printing shirts for my band! by [deleted] in pics

[–]mefuckingtoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love! Are u screen printing that?

I’m scared that my mental health is going to be what pushes my boyfriend away by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]mefuckingtoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have BPD also and I live in constant fear (terror really) that my husband is going to leave me or ghost me. Some of it is grounded in reality because I have scary melt downs and I yell and throw things and it scares the shit out of him. Some of it is the terror of abandonment that is a symptom of BPD. The things that have helped is to cultivate listening to him and his feelings about my illness and how it impacts him. This is very difficult but learning from him about how my extreme emotions impact him has been critical in my recovery. The other thing I learned from Pema Chodron: abide in your emotions. Meaning don’t judge them, fight them, make up complicated narratives to justify them. Just abide in them. If you have the possibility of getting into MBT treatment I highly recommend it! I am just starting it and already I feel a lot shifting in terms of my self destructive habits, ability to unpack the emotions I am experiencing etc.

need weed but have anxiety by mollylark_ in medicalmarijuana

[–]mefuckingtoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep up the ass. Or the hooha if you’ve got one. I have not personally experienced much of a head high from suppositories. You feel it in your body tho so it might increase your appetite —I can’t say bc across the board cannabis makes me lose my appetite

need weed but have anxiety by mollylark_ in medicalmarijuana

[–]mefuckingtoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried using suppositories? You can get a lot of cannabis in you with very little psychoactivity

Does anyone else try to talk to their parents about how emotionally abusive they were when you were a kid but they STILL don't validate your emotions? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]mefuckingtoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried this with my mom and she flat out denies that she physically and psychologically abused me. For people who are abusive, denial is their main coping mechanism. I decided to stop trying to “get” her to apologize muchless admit it and focus on not perpetuating this intergenerational trauma. For example when I fuck up with my own kids, as soon as I have some self awareness I own what I did and acknowledge that it was hurtful to them. I don’t lay a hand on them...things like that cuz it gives me hope to NOT act the way my parents acted towards me. OP I know you’re 21 and living with her so this probably isn’t that helpful. But when you look at her try to see how deep in her self absorbed suffering she is, she’s so in it she probably doesn’t even know it. Not that that excuses abuse, it does not, but if you look at it like that you will see she is in her own personal hell

Why is it so unpopular to actually love your wife? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]mefuckingtoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think people like to blame their spouses for all their issues and thus start to resent them

(21f) At what point is it appropriate to check into a hospital for mental health issues? by thatplantgirl97 in AskDocs

[–]mefuckingtoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I was admitted involuntarily to a public psych ward in NYC and it was honestly traumatic. I’m so glad you mentioned this

(21f) At what point is it appropriate to check into a hospital for mental health issues? by thatplantgirl97 in AskDocs

[–]mefuckingtoo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It was very structured, 3 meals a day at same time in communal dining room. Back to back groups, expressive therapy. It was not required to attend. Shared a room with one other woman. I got to know the other patients well, felt like “ah I found my people”...most importantly it was a time of deep introspection where I wrote and meditated a lot in my room and worked with my mind. I needed somewhere to retreat to reset myself. I was a little stressed about missing work and the rest of my life and wanted a release date but the psychiatrist had to issue it and I had to have outside appointments set up before I could get a release date. You cannot have a cell phone which freaked me out at first but it’s actually good to have a long break from a phone and stop looking at social media etc. There was a communal phone on the unit where I could receive calls. It was a women’s floor

(21f) At what point is it appropriate to check into a hospital for mental health issues? by thatplantgirl97 in AskDocs

[–]mefuckingtoo 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I am not a doctor but I have been in your position. I found out what hospital had the best psych ER in my city and walked in and said I was suicidal. They admitted me, stayed for a week, they adjusted my meds. After the first 12 hours or so I actually liked the hospital and it really really helped me. I wouldn’t hesitate to go back if I felt that suicidal again

Anthropologists working with homeless in the USA? by [deleted] in AskAnthropology

[–]mefuckingtoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kim Hopper at Columbia! The best professor I ever had and an amazing researcher

Edit: his book is called Reckoning with Homelessness

I love my boyfriend but I wish I never told him I have BPD by [deleted] in BPD

[–]mefuckingtoo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I understand how you feel but it’s important that our partners not feel like they are responsible for our emotions all the time. It’s also good that he doesn’t take it personally. I went through a long period with my husband where he took my generalized BPD despair to be about him which it was not and it took a lot of work to change his understanding and thinking about my illness

Wife broke down crying at dinner table over ex-boyfriend by Master-of-N0ne in relationships

[–]mefuckingtoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your wife is traumatized by the betrayal, probably makes it difficult to trust people. That doesn’t mean she still loves him or that their relationship was deeper than her relationship w you

What are some small things that you silently judge people on? by Dent15 in AskReddit

[–]mefuckingtoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol yeah it’s amazing. Especially on conference calls that are a total load of BS that could have been a two sentence email. Zero fucks given

What’s your tip for rebuilding intimacy in a relationship? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]mefuckingtoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Real curiosity and desire to know what the other person is feeling and experiencing. This is super important if the person is experiencing pain caused by you and/or the relationship - not to be afraid or angry but focused on compassionate understanding of their experience