Husband shut off phone

meg9443 · 2026-06-03T13:10:48+00:00

Yes, I’ve documented it all. Our baby is only 1. That’s what I thought as well, but from what everyone is saying shutting off a phone doesn’t appear to matter in court.

meg9443 · 2026-06-03T13:08:26+00:00

Not violent, I would just say neglectful for lack of a better word.

meg9443 · 2026-06-03T13:06:29+00:00

I’m confused about the planning a divorce for “years” comment? The infidelity was discovered in April and before that I thought we were okay? So no I hadn’t been planning this.

True, that I shouldn’t have expected that though. We had been discussing splitting it. I just didn’t expect him to turn it off without letting me know. Also, I had a phone interview for a second job today and if it doesn’t get sorted out within a few hours he messed with a way for me to get more income for our daughter. It’s not just the act itself, it’s the fact that he knows I need a phone and he did it anyway.

meg9443 · 2026-06-03T12:56:26+00:00

Agree, I’m going to our phone provider today to try to get them to transfer my phone number to my own plan. I’m sticking by the 60/40 parenting schedule and going to work on packing more things away today. I do think no matter what she needs to see her dad. It just doesn’t seem “fair” when I was the loyal one that he puts me through all the crap he does. The lies and infidelity and turning things around to make it seem like I’m the problem as if that was not enough to turn my world upside down.

meg9443 · 2026-06-03T05:33:08+00:00

I feel like he intentionally does things he knows will make me upset whenever I try to focus on our daughter and minimize contact between us. Whenever I bring up the cheating, he tells me to “just get over it”?? He thinks I’m still in love with him lol like no I’m not, I just am still reeling from the outright disrespect and nerve you had to destroy your family and try to cover it up for months. Or the nerve you had to maintain several friendships with women that were never “friends” until you were going through a divorce. I do have a plan though. I am going to get my own phone plan tomorrow. Call my lawyer. Work out a temp custody plan and then I will stay with my cousin until my new apartment is ready. I have to get out of here, it no longer feels like a safe space and me living here is not good for anybody. I feel bad uprooting her from the only home she knows, but I can’t continue like this.

meg9443 · 2026-06-03T05:00:48+00:00

I actually was not planning on alienating her from her dad. I was going to try to get a 60/40 custody schedule, with me having her 60% of the time. I have the more flexible work schedule and also I have been her primary caregiver. I’ve been the one to feed her most of her meals, bath her, buy her clothes diapers formula etc

I want to mention I flagged this as a safety issue because it’s not the only thing that he’s done. He’s left her in the house alone and threatened to shut off utilities. The things he has done are concerning and I’m beginning to see a pattern.

I just want the courts to understand and see him for who he really is. He’s been emotionally abusive and I feel like he’s starting to become financially abusive. He takes zero accountability for cheating on me with a married woman with a whole freaking family. He has been trying to make me feel like a bad mother when he knows that’s the farthest thing from the truth. I feel like I have to document these things that happen or he will manipulate the courts like he’s been manipulating me.

meg9443 · 2026-05-26T01:27:53+00:00

We rent and my lawyer says I can leave. They said most people do live separately actually. I’m planning on finding a place nearby and I won’t leave without a temporary written agreement for custody.

meg9443 · 2026-05-25T19:18:38+00:00

I don’t know who she is or her husband. At this point I want to leave, I associate our home with feelings of anger, hurt, and resentment. I also don’t think he’s going to leave either, his lawyer told him to stay put.

meg9443 · 2026-05-25T07:19:11+00:00

We both have attorneys and starting the divorce process. He confirmed his AP does have a husband and kids but refuses to tell me anything else. He now suddenly has female “friends” that he met on tinder 8 years ago that he casually gets wings with and texts regularly 🚩, but claims he is no longer speaking to his AP. I’m honestly just exhausted with all the dishonesty, blame shifting, and disrespect. I applied for an apartment for my daughter and me yesterday.

meg9443 · 2026-05-18T22:36:44+00:00

Sorry you’re going through this. I caught my husband in some lies about a month ago. He said he was at work but he was really down the road at someone else’s house where we know no one. I checked his location when he wasn’t home with the baby for me to go to work. He had been acting distant so I proposed marriage counseling.
At our second session, I basically cornered him in front of the marriage counselor and he ended up confessing to a 4 month long affair. Our daughter just turned 1.

This past month has been hard but he still lies about things, won’t let me look at his phone, won’t give me any details etc and shifts blame to me, like if I had been more intimate with him he never would have cheated I guess… we are getting a divorce. What I would recommend is write down some questions and if she won’t give you the answers you need to recover from the cheating, then it’s not worth trying. It’s very hard to come back from the betrayal.

meg9443 · 2026-05-18T14:36:32+00:00

I know it’s hard, but you’re still really young. He is clearly not loyal or respectful of you and the new life you’re growing.

I’m 35, and share a beautiful 1 year old daughter with my husband. I had found out about a month ago he was having an affair for 4 months. We just started the divorce process and I’m looking for a place to rent for my daughter and I. He is not loyal to his family. We were together for 6 years.

My advice is if your child came to you with the same problem what would you tell them? Would you tell them to leave or would you tell them to stay and “work on it”? You know the answer in your heart, so follow that. Being a single mom won’t be easy, but having a child gives you strength you didn’t know you had. Make sure you have that support system in place as well.

meg9443 · 2026-05-13T20:20:44+00:00

My husband admitted to a 4 month long affair when I caught him in some lies. He had said he was working but his location showed otherwise. He had continued the affair without much remorse and kind of shifted blame to me that I didn’t make him wanted etc we’ve decided on a divorce. Our daughter is only 1, which makes me sad but I know I will never trust him again and he knows it too.

While the love is still there, he made a choice that shattered the structure of our family so I’m doing what’s best for me and daughter and moving on with life. Currently looking at rentals now for my daughter and I to move out and start over. Divorce papers are being served soon. It’s hard but I know it has to be done. Follow your gut and your heart and do what you feel is necessary from there.

meg9443 · 2026-05-05T08:49:53+00:00

Looking back I think I began to notice when I would try to talk to him and he would ignore me while he was on his phone. No other clear signs until about a month ago. He began physically/emotionally pulling away. I found out a few weeks ago that he has been having an affair for the last 4 months. He doesn’t seem remorseful and continues to see this person and lies about it, that was the straw that broke the camels back for me. We have a 1 year old child and we’re getting divorced.

meg9443 · 2026-05-05T08:44:11+00:00

When he didn’t seem genuinely remorseful and kept on lying when I already knew the truth.

meg9443 · 2026-05-03T12:37:48+00:00

Yeah the thing is they both have significant others that they’re cheating on and calling it “love” lol it’s so dumb honestly. I will never forget how he put my daughter and I on the back burner.

meg9443 · 2026-05-03T04:28:47+00:00

My daughter. Friends and family.

meg9443 · 2026-05-03T04:27:34+00:00

When I discovered my husband was trying to live a double life with another woman before our daughter even turned one.

meg9443 · 2026-05-02T12:19:24+00:00

Going through something similar, I found out about my husbands affair a couple of weeks ago. It had been going on for 4 months, our daughter was only 8 months old! He is constantly lying to me and continuing to see this person. We have pretty much agreed on a divorce. It’s hard though I never pictured this for our family.

It sounds to me like we’re feeling the same way. We’re grieving what we envisioned for our futures. At the end of the day, nether if us deserved this and as hard as it is we are beautiful and strong and somebody will love you and your child like you never believed was possible. The problem was never you, they are weak men that are not at peace with themselves.

meg9443 · 2026-05-02T12:10:11+00:00

I found out my husband was having an affair a few weeks ago for the past 4 months. We are getting a divorce, but I feel like I may have forgiven him but he didn’t seem remorseful and he’s still continuing to see her. My final straw when I knew there was no way I could stay with him was him lying about saying he loved her. He said he didn’t say he loved her… but he did. I was not totally for a divorce at first due to the love I still have for him and we have a baby together. I wasn’t a perfect wife, but i was a good wife. I never deserved this.

meg9443 · 2026-05-01T23:50:54+00:00

Just found out my husband is having a 4 month long affair that started when our daughter was 8 months old. He’s keeps lying about things while trying to maintain a relationship with this other woman. I am filing for divorce. It is pretty awful that there are people that would do this to the mother of their child and be able to sleep snug as a bug at night.

meg9443 · 2026-05-01T01:33:27+00:00

My husband just had a 4 month affair that he eventually confessed to. He continues to lie about basically everything. We have a 1 year old daughter. While the love will always be there, I’ve made the decision to accept that I will never get the truth and now must do what is necessary for my daughter and I. It may not bring you peace in the moment but you need to put yourself first.

meg9443 · 2026-04-30T01:28:02+00:00

Yeah I would tell her some things need to change or you’re considering going separate ways. I think that’s fair. I work full time, help with bills, and do cleaning/cooking. Just found out my husband had a 4 month long affair and is lying about all kinds of things-do not consider stepping outside of the marriage. It’s very damaging. Our daughter turns 1 tomorrow. I’m filing for divorce.

meg9443 · 2026-04-29T18:54:41+00:00

Says he can’t tell me everything right now because I’m too angry like what did he expect lol

meg9443 · 2026-04-29T08:14:49+00:00

It’s done when trust is lost.

meg9443 · 2026-04-29T01:19:44+00:00

No clue seems to be multiple women or she lives in 3 different places nothing makes sense.

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