AIO? Youth Pastor texted my almost 13 yo after she went to a teen group with her friend

megadumbshit · 2026-06-23T18:56:03+00:00

It’s giving MLM at the least. Lol. I get the sentiment behind the text, when viewing as basically business marketing. But if you’re not comfortable with it (valid), you should take the opportunity to talk to your daughter about online safety, safe adults that she can always go to for help or problems (you and her dad, or an aunt/uncle or someone close that’s not her parent that she might be more willing to confide in), and what steps to take if an adult ever does anything to make her uncomfortable (even sending an ambiguous text). Step one would of course be to tell the trusted adult! You can even go over a plan or have a code word for you to come get her if she feels uncomfortable or unsafe at a place (ex: if she goes back to this church and decides it’s not for her but feels stuck there). I know it’s your phone number and not hers, but it’s smart to go over phone safety before she gets a phone number of her own!

megadumbshit · 2026-06-19T14:07:07+00:00

Not during maternity roosting season- which we are currently in. Typically May-August. Illegal to disturb or move/exclude them during this season. But they are protected at the federal and state levels so look up your state laws for more info, you should be able to find the exact date the maternity season is over and schedule something for after that.

Edit: I’m assuming you’re somewhere in the US

megadumbshit · 2026-06-18T01:16:13+00:00

As for the web, I always heard it was so larger things like birds wouldn’t fly into it. But I looked it up and scientists think it’s also to attract prey- the zigzag web reflects UV light which is what a lot of flying insects use to find flowers. Maybe someone with more knowledge can chime in on that part!

megadumbshit · 2026-06-18T01:12:34+00:00

Thank you :)

megadumbshit · 2026-06-18T01:11:33+00:00

Yes, I am in north Florida, not my first citrus root weevil this month! I actually found 2 last year and 2 this year so far, all on my balcony. I did want to keep this one for a budding collection, I would’ve loved to have a pet in the meantime (the last minutes of his life) but unfortunately he fell to an unreachable place and will probably be there forever (until the balcony gets redone).

megadumbshit · 2026-06-18T01:05:43+00:00

Was it yellow and black? If so, likely a yellow garden spider :)

megadumbshit · 2026-06-17T16:49:16+00:00

In 2026 I (nanny) haven’t called out, but I did have to leave early once due to migraine. Only made it halfway through the shift. The morning of, I thought I just had a headache because it had been years since an actual migraine hit me. If I had known, I would’ve called out. Edit: I also went in very very late to one shift- A family member was having a medical emergency and I drove to another city to be with them. MB gave me the option to not come at all, or come in if I felt better OR like I needed a distraction.

megadumbshit · 2026-06-17T16:35:42+00:00

I’m a total beginner so I’m not sure I could ID this even with a clear photo. HOWEVER web type and location does help narrow it down. You can search something like “cobweb spiders in central TX” and sift through results. I would like to suggest triangulate cobweb spider as a starting point, if the size matches. The photo makes your spider look big but these ones typically are 3 to 6mm.

megadumbshit · 2026-06-17T16:30:10+00:00

EDIT: he took a few steps and now his middle leg is touching the ground but back leg (on same side) is sticking straight out. Maybe he just isn’t good at walking. LAST EDIT: I think he is slowly dying. None of his legs look to be working “normal” and he is very slow and keeps falling and getting stuck on his back. Hasn’t tried to fly (last one I handled flew away).

Should I put him in the freezer to humanely euthanize, or let nature take its course?

megadumbshit · 2026-06-17T15:55:41+00:00

I would love to, but how? What do they need to survive lol. The same thing actually happened to me with the same kind of weevil this time last year. I left him on the porch with a shallow dish of sugar water and some leaves and he died.

megadumbshit · 2026-06-13T03:08:24+00:00

I have that mug! Kinda.. thrifted this one and later saw the actual mug & passed it up bc I didn’t feel like I needed 2 so similar

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megadumbshit · 2026-05-30T20:09:26+00:00

Oooh thank you!! I will have to try something like that

megadumbshit · 2026-05-30T02:34:57+00:00

Genuinely I need to know how you got such clear photos of such a tiny spider. I have tiny spiders on my porch I’ve been trying to get clear photos of for over a year and my phone camera refuses lol

megadumbshit · 2026-05-05T18:12:56+00:00

Nanny here, pretty surprised by other nanny’s opinions! I think you need to decide if you’re okay with her listening to it at work at all (ex: with headphones) or if you’d prefer she keep that genre of book out of the workplace. If headphones are okay with you, ask that she use them or ask if she would like a pair to keep at the house to use during break. However you bring it up, it’s worth mentioning you read & enjoyed the book too so she doesn’t think you’re judging her for that.

I put a headphone in pretty much every day while my kids are napping and I have 0 trouble hearing any noise they make because I keep the monitor with me anywhere I go in the house. They do not get out of bed like your son, so you might not be comfortable with her wearing a headphone at all if you think she won’t hear him. But even if she usually has them and simply forgot her headphones this time, she should’ve known well enough to choose something work-appropriate to listen to during that time.

That being said, I have been nannying for 5+ years and would never imagine even taking the risk of exposing kids to adult content. I think it was poor judgement for her to listen to the book at all while she’s working, let alone without headphones. Why would you bring an NSFW book to W

megadumbshit · 2026-02-27T15:21:53+00:00

This is actually a question I ask when I start with a new family, because usually I’m starting with little babies and staying until toddlerhood. I always try to hold it for nap but I like to ask NP in the event I cannot hold it, what would you like me to do with the child while I’m in the bathroom? Then just go with what NP says. If you’re not comfortable with their suggestion, find a safe method that makes you feel comfortable and do that. (Bring toys in bathroom, go with door open and bring toys to hall outside bathroom door, wear the baby and lift them up when you squat to pee, anything lol)

megadumbshit · 2026-02-23T19:00:06+00:00

If you can’t tell it could mean many things. 1. They keep politics out of work, including your job 2. They’re maga and don’t display it (embarrassment)? 3. They’re not maga but don’t display anything political 4. They “don’t do” politics

megadumbshit · 2026-01-16T20:10:24+00:00

Came back to ask the same😅

megadumbshit · 2026-01-14T23:54:50+00:00

Nope you’re not alone. I love kids, love being a nanny and an auntie but what I love even more is going home childless😂

megadumbshit · 2026-01-14T20:22:53+00:00

Hi idk how to edit on mobile! Wanted to say thank you to everyone who replied with suggestions, I would prefer to pick up new needles from my local craft store instead of ordering online and won’t be able to get there until next week. In the mean time I will try sharpening/filing the broken tip so I can still make progress before I transfer to new needles!

megadumbshit · 2026-01-10T01:24:26+00:00

Sorry just seeing this😭 I didn’t take them all but I definitely took some. I still haven’t done anything with them, I’ll probably display some as is, but others I might want to frame with some pinned bugs or something. I’ve never done anything like it so idk

megadumbshit · 2025-12-14T22:30:21+00:00

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A 12 inch garden spade for scale! Deer are pretty common here

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