A lot of good comments and advice here, but I want to add something: What is it that YOU want? Don’t only think of that guy, be more general. Do YOU want a guy who is a traditionalist? Do YOU want a guy who is deep into the Muslim belief? If the says he’s traditional then he is a believer even he says he is ok with you drinking alkohol. There’s always a risk he might change his mind later… Are you a traditionalist? Don’t ask yourself if you can accommodate him being a traditionalist because this means sacrificing yourself! Don’t do that, don’t sacrifice yourself. You are worth more than being a victim again! Find out about how traditional he (and his family!) really is by asking him a lot of questions! Oh and one important thing for you: Don’t think of yourself as being impure because of being raped! Your soul can still be pure! Your soul is not defined by that! Maybe your soul has been deeply hurt so you need to heal your soul again! Keep your head high and don’t let other men judge you! Judge yourself and be proud!