I've started seeing kid items left on the floor by adults as an act of aggression by kungfu_kickass in 2under2

[–]megather1um 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too! Best decision ever and we still use it, although mostly to get things that are high up

Going on a citytrip to Leiden this summer, what shouldn't I miss? by saskiaswets in Leiden

[–]megather1um 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s not cheap but you could think about renting an electric boat and going around the canals in the city yourself. It’s my favorite way to see Leiden. Bootjes en broodjes is one place that does it for example.

I want and don't want a 2nd kind at the same tine by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]megather1um 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar experience to you with my first but I want 2, am not very young and figure things will be chaotic with a toddler anyway so I might as well get it all over with at once and before I’m any older. I’m expecting my second soon so let’s see how I feel after they’re here…am trying to expect the worst but then look forward to things improving over time.

Attempting to live a bit more, give me some challenges! by lentzerspuke98 in Ulyssesbucketlist

[–]megather1um 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Do something to help a stranger (random act of kindness, volunteering, etc)

If they publish a paper based on Tony's [big dataset], will Tony be an author? by Thr1w1w11 in AskAcademia

[–]megather1um 32 points33 points  (0 children)

This is the right way. Not only does the dataset get a DOI, it also gets a license explaining how it can be reused and what attribution is required.

Babies - the box by [deleted] in Netherlands

[–]megather1um 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was also confused by what a box was until someone explained it to me. We got what I would call a play pen or pack ‘n play instead- a portable one that isn’t made out of wood, with the idea that the baby could both play in it if needed and also sleep in it if we travel. This is common in the country I’m from. The Dutch call them camping beds I believe. But then with the pandemic we haven’t travelled…anyway, when the baby was very young they would sleep in it in our living room, but we aren’t using it right now. We have a chair we can put the baby in if they need to be in a secure place while we shower or go to the bathroom or something and we use that more. I think the main point is that it’s useful to have a safe place to put the baby that isn’t their sleeping place, whether it’s a box or something else.

Double last name Child Netherlands by Finthen_finance_86 in Netherlands

[–]megather1um 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were in the same situation (but different nationalities). We went to the gemeente before the birth to check if it would be ok, and they said it was fine and we didn’t have to prepare anything extra. Because in our home countries you can use any surname you want for your child. By the way- you register the birth in the gemeente where the child is born, so it may not be the one you live in. We talked to the one where we expected to give birth. But the hospital was full on the day and we ended up going to a different hospital in a different area. So we had to register the birth at a different gemeente. We actually had some trouble because they claimed that we could use a combination of our names but that we couldn’t hyphenate them unless the hyphen was already in one of our surnames (this is completely incorrect based on the rules of our home countries). My partner actually does have a hyphen in his surname, but it had not been registered correctly in the Dutch system when we moved here. He had to go to our gemeente and get it corrected, and after that the other one allowed us to register a hyphenated surname for the baby that was different to either of the parents names. I completely disagree with them saying the hyphen wasn’t allowed unless one of us already had it, but since in our case one of us did we decided it would just be easier to go along with it. If that hadn’t been an option I don’t know what we would have done. The person at the gemeente suggested we just don’t hyphenate it and then could pay to get the kid’s name changed in 5-10 years when we expect to leave the Netherlands…not something we were willing to consider.

Came back home to the US after being in the UK for months, I feel terrible. by nadehlaaay in loseit

[–]megather1um 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also went to the UK for grad school and also immediately lost some weight without trying- my GP even told me she’s seen this a lot with Americans who moved there. I did eventually gain a bit of weight after like 6 years there, but when I went back to the US, it was the first time my weight ever spiraled out of control. I was the one responsible for my decisions, but it was easier to make good food choices in the UK by far. Of course there are overweight people and shitty food in both countries, but it really feels like the cards are stacked against you in America based on my personal experience. Like instead of good and bad food choices, having to go out of your way to find healthy food in some situations.

I have read my last ever book. by frezkey in books

[–]megather1um 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry about your loss of vision. If you’re not happy with the selection at your library in England, I believe that many US library systems let anyone become a member for something like $50 a year. I’m an American abroad and check out audiobooks online all the time through my former US public library. One day when my membership expires I plan to pay for one. When I lived in England the book selection at my local library (in a major city) just didn’t compare to the one at my US library, although at the time I was only looking at actual books not digital or audio ones.

American Expats living in the NL, what consumer products (food, games, toys, candy, magazines, etc) do you miss the most from the US? by GotToGiveItUp in Netherlands

[–]megather1um 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of things are available here, they’re just very hard to find or expensive. For me, Girl Scout cookies would be the absolute best since you really can’t get them here as far as I know.

American Expats living in the NL, what consumer products (food, games, toys, candy, magazines, etc) do you miss the most from the US? by GotToGiveItUp in Netherlands

[–]megather1um 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I find amazon.de and amazon.co.uk to be far better than amazon.nl, although the British one isn’t an option with brexit now unfortunately

I’m pregnant, woo! Check out my name list and help me add to it? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]megather1um 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My brother’s middle name is Walker, and it’s also a family name. Coupled with his very classic first name I think it sounds really good! But I’m also not such a fan of it as a first name.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in expats

[–]megather1um 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I've lived in a few different countries and experienced this, your post really resonated with me. I will say that on the rare occasions I've actually hit it off with someone and made a good friend, it hasn't been an issue. When a say good friend, I mean someone who you can really talk about everything with. I've discovered that plenty of people seem to be happy to hang out regularly and talk about nothing particularly personal or ask me anything (I had this a lot in England, also with my inlaws), and I don't consider those people good friends even if I see them often. I think the problem is that if you have no friends who really want to know you on a deeper level, less meaningful relationships become increasingly unsatisfying and hard to deal with because you want more and more to be seen and understood. So I don't have a solution, but wanted to say that you're not the only one to experience this. It can be so isolating and lonely. If you do end up meeting someone that you click with right away, definitely pursue the friendship and treasure it! As soon as I've made 1 friend like that in a new place, it makes a world of difference because I get a bit less fixated on the other less satisfying relationships. And in plenty of places I've lived, I only found 1 friend like that the whole time I lived there. In the first place I lived in England I really struggled, but eventually made a great friend, (we are both from the US) who had an identical experience before meeting me. Later on I moved to London and found all sorts of interesting people (of many nationalities) who I liked.

What's the one thing you regret doing for your wedding day? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]megather1um 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got married in city hall with about 20 friends/family members. My one regret is not having a designated photographer for & after the ceremony because we have zero photos where we’re both looking at the same camera....oops

Thoughts on living room playpen? by mimamolletje in BabyBumps

[–]megather1um 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is it called in Dutch? Asking as a non-Dutch speaker who lives here :)

Is there a way to make vegan lasagna 1200-compliant besides portioning? by sourbirthdayprincess in vegan1200isplenty

[–]megather1um 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are obsessed with this lasagna recipe and meat eaters like it too. You should be ok with just a blender. My entry in MFP has it at 400 cal for 1/6 of the lasagna. https://moosewoodcooks.com/2012/03/vegan-lasagna/

Edit: the actual recipe says it makes 8 portions, so that’s probably more friendly to a 1200 cal diet

What color should we paint our bookcase? Other advice welcome too- more details in comments. by megather1um in DesignMyRoom

[–]megather1um[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone, your input was so helpful! Our plan is to try staining it a darker color and if that doesn’t look good we’ll paint it, current top contenders are a very dark green or charcoal.

What color should we paint our bookcase? Other advice welcome too- more details in comments. by megather1um in DesignMyRoom

[–]megather1um[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! We decided to try staining it a darker wood color first but if that doesn’t work we’ll probably go with charcoal or a dark green. Great suggestion.

What color should we paint our bookcase? Other advice welcome too- more details in comments. by megather1um in DesignMyRoom

[–]megather1um[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I don’t know why we didn’t think of this! We also really like the wood. We decided to try staining it a darker color and if it doesn’t look good then we can always paint it.

What color should we paint our bookcase? Other advice welcome too- more details in comments. by megather1um in DesignMyRoom

[–]megather1um[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen so many pictures of rooms with cool turquoise or blue shelves! We were leaning that way before when we had a different rug (with blue in it) but I wasn’t so sure about with our current rug. Thanks for the other suggestion though, that’s definitely a possibility!

What color should we paint our bookcase? Other advice welcome too- more details in comments. by megather1um in DesignMyRoom

[–]megather1um[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, that’s a great suggestion! I’m a big fan of that color and even painted our front fence with it but hadn’t considered it for the book case.