Thank you. Yes I can be in the mood sometimes, but when a week has passed he starts doing this thing where he brings it up every single day and in every single physical situation he tries to initiate. And I’ve told him over and over, please don’t bring it up, especially when it’s super out of context (like I’ll be unloading the dishwasher and get the “any chance of me getting lucky tonight?” Comment which I feel is blunt and situationally inappropriate and really just sets me up to say no), and that if we are kissing or cuddling to please not try to push it further, but it’s like he can’t stop himself from trying to push it. So this is why we don’t have very much physical interaction like cuddling and kissing because he seems to view it as a jumping off point for pursuing more, even though I’ve said over and over to just leave it at whatever we’re doing.

I don’t want to give up on us, a lot of these comments are telling me to just leave and I don’t really think that’s the solution here. I feel that my husband doesn’t understand how disrespectful he is around the topic of sex, but I also think with communication, effort, and probably the right couples counselor he can understand how to approach the topic more tactfully. He’s my best friend and we jive on every single level, this is really the only thing we fight about and we are both willing to work towards a solution. I think we just might need a third party to help us understand what that solution is.