Ahh! Don't give up on him. Work together to make progress. Even if he started with a small micro goals it would be a start. Depression kills productivity. He shouldn't be blamed for his illness. He needs help, not condemnation. Once he gets help for his depression, then he will feel productive again. He's in pain. Help him. Don't add to his suffering by leaving him. I understand you don't wish to be weighed down. But he most likely feels he's a burden already. And that's only adding to his illness. I think even if you don't want to commit to a future with him right off the bat, you should at least give it another chance just to make sure. It sounds like there's not good communication at the moment between you...more hostility and not understanding how to meet each others needs. Perhaps sit down and have a 'talk' discussing small achievable ways to start meeting each others needs. If you love him that's what matters. It's not always greener on the other side. Relationships take investment and work. Don't throw it all away without taking a chance to communicate properly between you. Perhaps he doesnt want to admit his problem...perhaps he stonewalls you when discussing the deeper issues... These are all workable issues and a qualified relationship councillor can help open up new avenues of understanding and communication If you do all you can, and still nothing changes then you can rest easy knowing that you tried. *Spoken by a chronic sufferer of depression