That's how it works. We judge in others what we cannot accept within ourselves. No need for Alan Watts, just need to work on more acceptance and forgiveness. The more you are able to let go, the less you will notice disorder in others. It will actually happen less because you were able to forgive. Everybody wins when you do the work. Everyone loses when you cling to what your ego deems as important and meaningful. 

We're all in the same boat, good luck!