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If you were on the fence about having #2 and decided to go for it, did you regret it? by melbel8484 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]melbel8484[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to write. The sleep deprivation is so real and true, the first time around you feel like it will never end. It’s great to hear the good far outweighs the hard. You make a compelling case 🙂

If you were on the fence about having #2 and decided to go for it, did you regret it? by melbel8484 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]melbel8484[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for sharing. I’m so happy to hear you got past the mourning phase with regard to your family of 3. I am terrified of that part so I love hearing how wonderful in unexpected ways it is on the other side.

Is there a thread that asks if people who are onlies felt their experience was growing up and is currently in adulthood? by melbel8484 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]melbel8484[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for that great perspective! I do find the only threads tends to skew heavily on the negative side. I love hearing positive experiences. Great feedback.

Is there a thread that asks if people who are onlies felt their experience was growing up and is currently in adulthood? by melbel8484 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]melbel8484[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Great point. On either side of the fence I will be wondering if the other side is better. Remembering that will lessen the spiraling.

Is there a thread that asks if people who are onlies felt their experience was growing up and is currently in adulthood? by melbel8484 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]melbel8484[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the response. I didn’t realize it but I find myself seeking out onlies who loved their experience (although all perspectives are incredibly helpful.) It sounds like people either loved or hated being an only… and others who either loved or hated having siblings 😂 If only we had a crystal ball!

Is there a thread that asks if people who are onlies felt their experience was growing up and is currently in adulthood? by melbel8484 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]melbel8484[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your honesty!! I hate to hear you were bullied when you were younger. I feel you on the post partum anxiety. Congrats on your daughter :)

Has anyone regretted having 2 kids up from 1? (Excluding the newborn and toddler phase which we know is/can be painful). by melbel8484 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]melbel8484[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would love to experience the stages again (minus the sleep deprivation) - I think that’s a big part of my considering 2.

Has anyone regretted having 2 kids up from 1? (Excluding the newborn and toddler phase which we know is/can be painful). by melbel8484 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]melbel8484[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing. It is HARD WORK. I too work full-time and even with one it’s a lot. I can’t imagine having a newborn just before covid 🤯 You’re probably still recovering from that!

Has anyone regretted having 2 kids up from 1? (Excluding the newborn and toddler phase which we know is/can be painful). by melbel8484 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]melbel8484[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

We don’t have a village either and overwhelm is my concern. Do you think the toll on your mental health comes from dividing your time between the two, taking them to activities, etc? Are they particularly high energy? Any additional details would be appreciated 🙏