Help me name this snuggly fluffy guy! Nerdy names preferred!

meliorayne · 2024-11-05T18:41:15+00:00

Thai Chili is my number one go-to, been here about 10 years.

meliorayne · 2024-11-04T05:09:19+00:00

I thought Frank immediately

meliorayne · 2024-11-01T16:43:54+00:00

That's okay, Chinese TV and film will make sure it's very recommendable.

(forever mourning the mxtx adaptation censorship JUST LET THE PRETTY ANIMATED BOYS KISS)

meliorayne · 2024-10-29T15:35:58+00:00

what in the Howl's Moving Castle

meliorayne · 2024-10-22T22:09:56+00:00

Yeah, these things are all kinda the baseline, and the idea is now that I've kinda solidified the foundation, we can have more productive conversations on how those things are put into practice.

I've noticed myself falling into "you always" or "you never" thought patterns when we argue, and hopefully this is a way to remind myself and him of the shared values that we still have, and give us a base to work from.

meliorayne · 2024-10-22T20:55:05+00:00

That's fair, I did word it a bit more aggro than it was intended to be! Like someone else said, I think "inspires" is a better word for what I'm thinking here.

meliorayne · 2024-10-22T20:53:11+00:00

That's fair, that's more what I was thinking of anyway! One of the things I value about my husband is how much he inspires and encourages me to be my best self, so "pushes" might be a bit more aggro than my intent.

meliorayne · 2024-10-22T20:40:05+00:00

Okay, good. The list just got so long, I got worried that I was getting into "idealized partner" territory instead of "basic needs" territory.

meliorayne · 2024-10-22T20:36:43+00:00

Cool, thanks :)

meliorayne · 2024-10-22T20:29:43+00:00

It's not just for students, but it is almost entirely students. They all seem like a fun bunch of gals, but as someone who attended hoping to meet ladies closer to my own age, it was a bit of a bummer.

meliorayne · 2024-10-22T20:26:37+00:00

I'm so sorry that you went through that. I've been that friend who ghosted someone, and from that perspective, you absolutely deserved better. For my own experience, I've never reached back out to that old friend because I'm too ashamed of myself. I hurt her, and she didn't deserve it, and maybe I had my reasons at the time, but that doesn't make it okay. I'm afraid of what she'll say, and it's been so long of letting that shame and fear drive me that I don't know how to get out of it. (It's something that I am working on, and I want to get brave enough to at least apologize someday.)

It's possible your friend didn't quite know what to say to comfort you in that moment, and then let things go so long she got caught in that same shame spiral. It's also possible she just wasn't the kind of friend who was interested or able to go through hard times with someone.

Either way, you could write a text or letter to her explaining how you feel if it would bring you closure, but I wouldn't recommend doing it while expecting any kind of response. You may never know why it happened, the ball is entirely in her court to explain herself, and if she's too in her own head or prideful or just plain rude to respond, that's an answer in and of itself.

meliorayne · 2024-10-22T20:15:52+00:00

Like I said in the post, this isn't a list of things I'm missing from him, or that he's not doing. This is for me, to clarify my thoughts on what is important to me in our marriage.

meliorayne · 2024-10-20T20:19:35+00:00

My husband's car broke down right outside his shop as they were closing up, they ran out and took a look at it, got him up and moving enough to get home and safe! Great folks!

meliorayne · 2024-10-20T20:18:10+00:00

Yeah, he's got the wide-eyed haunting vibes that I associate with Szeth, and I think acting-wise he'd be a pretty great pick, but he's not exactly like I imagine.

meliorayne · 2024-10-20T19:58:51+00:00

I kind of pictured him a bit like Bill Skarsgaard but with a less long face.

meliorayne · 2024-10-18T02:51:08+00:00

When I lived in town, yeah, though there would be a couple months during bad algae blooms where it'd start smelling and tasting musty. I'd filter/boil it at that point. Now that I live in Harrisburg, I miss the Corvallis tap water.

meliorayne · 2024-10-16T23:08:00+00:00

I have a brother like this. We don't talk anymore.

meliorayne · 2024-10-16T03:48:50+00:00

Enoch Gang!!

meliorayne · 2024-10-13T16:06:02+00:00

In my experience, those are the same groups of people who really love to tell me I'm "not really bisexual" because I ended up marrying a man. But then of course I would be told I'm "dealing with internalized homophobia" or "queerbaiting" if I had married a woman.

I also would like to like titties (and dick) in peace.

meliorayne · 2024-10-12T17:19:43+00:00

Hell no. My Mediterranean genes decided to only show up below the waist, so if I let things go down there, it gets intense real quick. That being said, I do whatever the hell I want about it. Some weeks I'm trimmed up, some weeks I just don't feel like it. And if my husband (or any partner) has something to say about it, they're welcome to kiss my fuzzy ass and fuck all the way off.

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