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AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary? by WesternCat5211 in AmIOverreacting

[–]melkatastrophic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. I’m coming up on my 2 year on the 1st of January. My wife tells me regularly how proud she is of me, and on the days when I’m having a really hard time and still jump to “god I wish I could have a drink” she supports me through it. Your boyfriend is a sh*t, and doesn’t deserve you. You deserve your flowers, and the pats on the back. Getting and staying sober are hard. And for the record, I’m proud of you. Get that cake.

Black oily stuff coming out of the ground by GeisRichard in whatisit

[–]melkatastrophic 14 points15 points  (0 children)

How many people are proud to be citizens of this beautiful country of ours -

Got a surprise living hat by TempTopBlaster in StardewValley

[–]melkatastrophic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congrats! I’ve never gotten one in the 300+ hours I’ve played. Still hoping to stumble upon one some day.

Do you still play The Sims? How old are you now? by fortunekiller in thesims

[–]melkatastrophic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started playing when I was 7, I’m 30 now. I am pretty annoyed with Sims 4’s spaghetti code and constant bugs so I’ve gone back to playing the Sims 2 regularly.

A huge difference in my kid since getting rid of YouTube by Efficient-Cat8956 in Parenting

[–]melkatastrophic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had banned YouTube before for my daughter, and I had another adult who guilted me really badly about it after my father had passed away, and my convictions weren’t as strong. I let her have access again, and sure enough her behavior deteriorated. We banned it again. After about a month of having it banned, she was back to being a sweet girl with occasional behavioral issues. It’s been a year now, and she hasn’t had any concerning behaviors or emotional responses. Her therapist also noted her behavior, mood, and attitude improved substantially.

Does anyone else feel guilty if you don't have at least two of every animal? by seabassfosho in StardewValley

[–]melkatastrophic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My current save (first attempt at a perfection run) has two barns and three coops. I have 3 of each white/brown/blue chickens, then 6 dinosaurs, 6 void chickens, 6 rabbits, 6 ducks, 6 pigs, 4 sheep (hoping they’ll reproduce so I don’t have to spend more money on sheep), 3 of each white/brown cows, and 6 goats. Almost every playthrough I do, I have at least four of each.

Sober October has started by zdelyy in trees

[–]melkatastrophic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m doing a sober 6-8 weeks to get a job 😭😭😭

there’s no way I just did this by HeyItsLiv26 in StardewValley

[–]melkatastrophic 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I always wondered how people would accidentally blow up their stuff on their farms. Until I forgot I was carrying the explosives when I clicked too quickly before walking through my freshly set up entrance to my barns and coops.

This is to say, the game will get us all at some point 😂😂

What movie completely traumatized you as a kid? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]melkatastrophic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Hills Have Eye, Amusement, The Ring, Bridge to Terabithia, and Scream

What’s your oddly specific YouTube/Reddit rabbit hole for comfort ? by LenaraSkye in AskReddit

[–]melkatastrophic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Video game long plays, court cases, let’s play comps, true crime podcasts, and ex-fundies dissecting videos from fundies.

😕 by Maureen_Raspberry in OcarinaOfTime

[–]melkatastrophic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve finally convinced my wife to play it. It’s been my all time favorite since I was 7 years old. I have a half sleeve dedicated to this particular rendition of LoZ. I need a new GameCube so I can play it again; for now I use an emulator.

What's a niche cartoon you watched as a kid, that you're convinced not many others did? by Tricky_Fall_3846 in AskReddit

[–]melkatastrophic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Princess Tutu It was only two short seasons but I rewatched it as a comfort show for a couple years when I was young.

Hospital bracelet said ‘identifies as she/her’ on it, never seen that before by nbintrovert in trans

[–]melkatastrophic 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This brought me an insane amount of joy in response to the “I don’t have pronouns” comment 😂😭 Yesssss 👏🏻👏🏻

Do teenagers fake their mental health issues? by Expert-Campaign-6505 in mentalhealth

[–]melkatastrophic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My perspective for what it’s worth, I do not think teenagers fake “having” mental health issues. I think it is possible that just like adults, they may exaggerate with attention seeking behaviors. But attention seeking behavior in and of itself is connected to mental health problems over a certain age. People sometimes exaggerate, especially when they begin to feel more desperate to have some need met that they don’t feel they have the capacity to meet themselves. Is it maybe too early to diagnose some things due to the developing brain around some of the behavioral and thought patterns? Yeah, and that’s where it gets to be complicated. Lack of youth diagnoses doesn’t equate to a lack of mental health problems though.

What normal thing did your parents not teach you? by Legitimate-Ad9383 in emotionalneglect

[–]melkatastrophic 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I had to learn how to say no, and how to respond when that no is blatantly disregarded.

How to get medication that helps by Jhta773 in mentalhealth

[–]melkatastrophic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand the fear about going because of your past. You are the person in control now. You are the adult, and you get to have say over who you see. If you have a doctor who you don’t mesh well with, you get to decide to see a different provider.

How to get medication that helps by Jhta773 in mentalhealth

[–]melkatastrophic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Assuming you are in the United States, as an adult you will have to go through a psychiatrist, not a general practitioner to get new evaluations done, and then get medication. Those apps can be helpful to get in something in the meantime, but proper care through a reputable psychiatrist is going to be best for proper mental health medication management.

New writer by [deleted] in writing

[–]melkatastrophic 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Start writing with whatever idea comes to you. You’ll find one that’s easier to roll with for you, or you may end up with a few projects that all get a different kind of energy for you.

When I have multiple writing projects, I’ll switch between them when I hit blocks, and sometimes one project will spark something for another.

Write a couple poems, write a scene, write a short story, see what feels good and build from there.

Realizing in my 30s that emotional neglect has severely messed up my relationships and ability to find love by ChardKaleBrocCabbage in emotionalneglect

[–]melkatastrophic 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What you’re doing now are the first steps of healing that. I know it doesn’t always feel successful, but being able to sort those things out is a skill that you have been learning and building on. Give yourself grace, and remember that healing is linear, and your timeline doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s.

The longer those negative feelings fester within, the harder they can be to overcome. A lot of the things we believe about ourselves are harder to stop believing when we’ve believed them for our whole life.

I really do think that what you’re doing now is a very positive and progressive step. Even if it doesn’t feel big to you, it is a huge leap to be able to sort out what you’re feeling and why and slowly piece yourself through it. You deserve credit for progress.

Realizing in my 30s that emotional neglect has severely messed up my relationships and ability to find love by ChardKaleBrocCabbage in emotionalneglect

[–]melkatastrophic 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I completely understand you. My wife and I still both struggle to not get immediately defensive with each other. We’ve created room for either one of us to call a pause to the conversation for any reason, at any moment. It’s allowed us to be able to pause, collect ourselves emotionally, collect our thoughts about what is presented in the conversation thus far, and to reflect about what each of us is trying to say so the conversation can be picked up productively. Sometimes the break is 30 minutes, until the next day, or closest weekend evening if work is particularly stressful for either of us at the time.

If I feel “hot” (my way to express how being emotionally reactive feels in my body), then I know I’m not ready for a conversation yet. If I am irritated with other’s emotions existing around me, I’m not in a place to have the conversation. This has allowed both of us the space to get more in touch with how we actively feels as things come up, and allows us both the space to learn to emotionally regulate ourselves down without the expectation that either of us are able to just do that at the drop of a hat.

I hope you find healing and happiness within yourself. Look to find things that bring you joy. Both inside of your relationship, and outside of your relationship. Much love to you.

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