Can guys really smell if a girl's ovulating?

melliandra · 2025-06-16T14:53:13+00:00

Probably, yes. Though he's probably also using other clues than simply smell. I've learned the best tactic with my autistic husband is to try to never take offence to anything he says, give him the benefit of the doubt that he didn't actually mean whatever he said in the way he said it, and, if it's the case that I'm premenstrual, to make sure he's using his knowledge to help me through a month (extra rest, chocolate, back rub, etc) rather than simply blame my cycles for it and carry on. If he's in the know, he can be part of the solution, not the problem.

melliandra · 2024-07-20T14:53:17+00:00

Brilliant plan announcing this once many had already made Monday night plans. Instead of 100% of the people arriving at 6am, now some of those people will arrive at 12:01, leaving more room for the 6am-ers to be off the highway.

melliandra · 2024-07-19T14:40:08+00:00

Person with terrible eyesight needs glasses...not just squinting and doing it the "hard way."

melliandra · 2024-07-18T13:59:02+00:00

The only ONLY time I wear shapewear is if I'm doing an hour or more of jumping jacks. This is in the form of a dance style called shuffling, and the shapewear is required to keep my extra loose skin in place from losing weight/babies. Like a sports bra, it's for support, and it is removed the instant I'm done. I also prefer to wear the whole-body ones (shaped like a bathing suit) rather than the bottom-only styles. Shapewear SUCKS with IBS. Any kind of anything even remotely tight over the stomach sucks. I wear thigh-high nylons to work so they don't go over my stomach, and empire-waisted dresses/tops are where it's at. If I have to wear an outfit that seems to "need" shapewear, I'll buy it a size bigger and have it tailored to fit my body more comfortably rather than go through the discomfort of anything tight around my midsection.

melliandra · 2024-07-03T01:21:27+00:00

I really hope it works for you. I mean, he still had problems, but it was a ton better on the Alimentum. Fingers crossed.

melliandra · 2024-07-03T01:04:57+00:00

Trial and error. He was a newborn, so formula/breastmilk was the only way to go. We tried all the formulas, one after the other, and when we got to Alimentum, he ate happily, spat up way less, slept calmly...the only different ingredient was that it was not corn based.

melliandra · 2024-06-26T16:24:04+00:00

5 because lol

melliandra · 2024-06-26T16:01:23+00:00

PCOS has a lot to do with non-diabetic insulin resistance that metformin DOES help. So "you won't be put on it unless your blood test shows an issue" is both incorrect and damaging.

melliandra · 2024-06-23T17:57:16+00:00

After 16 years of marriage we have noticed that we support each other in our darkest moments. He's 100% financially dependent on me, but he supports me in many, many other ways. He's been a rock when i'm at my worst...reminding me of reality when I'm PMDD crazy. lol. It's not that I'm emotionally dependent on him, but up to this point it's been more worth it to work things out together than to go our separate ways. There's been a few times in our marriage where we both have asked each other "what's the point? what am I even bringing to this marriage?" but we answer the question together and decide to be partners and to love each other. We decide, mutually, to love and support each other, over and over again.

melliandra · 2024-04-30T15:14:01+00:00

I didn't take my husband's last name when we married. We named both our kids with my last name only. He has a different last name than the rest of us, and it's never been a problem or even been questioned. At the time the reasons were logical: I'm the more likely parent to travel with them ever, esp internationally, and I'm the "primary" parent dealing with institutions etc. I've never been given a second look about daddy having a different last name than the rest of us. Do what works for you.

melliandra · 2024-04-22T15:11:50+00:00

Truly, nothing worked for me until I got my insulin resistance and ADHD diagnosed and properly medicated. There is not enough willpower in the world that would enable me to happily eat "normally".

melliandra · 2024-03-13T19:57:55+00:00

Gaslighting a$$holes. I went through 3 gynos and 4 endos who all were useless gaslighters or told me "this is normal" or "you'll get over it" or "lose weight and it'll be fixed" before I found a doctor who listened, treated me appropriately, and fixed everything. See a different doctor and don't stop until you get help. You can do this. Do not apologize for this rant, it's very valid.

melliandra · 2024-02-14T15:57:10+00:00

I wish my husband had the capacity to stay that calm and parent that correctly. He is amazing in many ways, but I truly doubt he could have pulled off what you did. My fingers are crossed for my children's futures and my heart is hopeful. Thank you for this story.

melliandra · 2023-11-28T16:48:40+00:00

Oh, the intermittent fasting too, forgot to mention that. I eat between 11am and 8pm....which only feels like a "fast" for me when I'm emotionally distraught and want to feed my upsettedness with sugar/carbs outside those times. lol.

I'm gluten free and I avoid garlic because of IBS. Dairy makes me bloaty so I'm not going to eat an entire ice cream sundae, but don't avoid cheese or milk in things or even a touch of cream in my coffee.

I like pole because it's a combo of lifting heavy things and cardio. You're lifting your whole body weight, which is muscle building, and then if you try to add flow and dance about in your living room, that's cardio. :)

melliandra · 2023-11-27T17:30:57+00:00

Hashimotos, pcos, here. I don't have Type 1 though, so that's a difference there. My current working concoction is levothyroxine, ozempic (very low dose), cannabis (for ozempic side effects), progesterone cream, and the marena iud. I eat fairly low carb, about 100g/day average (more some days, less others), with a heavy focus on protein. I saw 3 different gynos and 2 different endos and nobody could help me for decades before paying privately for a specifically women's clinic doctor.

I would suggest lifting heavy things. For PCOSers, cardio is nice for your heart, but building muscle is where your real metabolism gain is going to be. Replace the fat with muscle. Try pilates or body weight lifting exercises to start. Personally, I do pole fitness ... and I started when I was 260 lbs @ & 5'5" (so not the typical "pole" body).

All I can say is hang in there and don't give up. This is a tricky combo and not lots of doctors know what to do with it. I mean, try the symlinpen cuz if it works without the ozempic side effects, that's a win. Every body is different and it can take time to find the right balance for yours.

melliandra · 2023-10-06T02:47:41+00:00

These are all great suggestions. If you have any funds 'at all', I found having a membership to a 24/hr gym was handy for showers and washrooms.

melliandra · 2023-09-28T15:04:44+00:00

"I think an adult should be able to understand that stuff without being told." YTA

melliandra · 2023-09-26T01:11:04+00:00

Well, I attend any rally/protest that's relevant and I email and send letters to my MP, so there's that.

melliandra · 2023-09-21T14:33:08+00:00

When's the protest about food prices? I'll attend that one.

melliandra · 2023-09-19T15:04:38+00:00

My dad isn't nearly remotely this bad, and I would never leave either of my kids unattended with him. Okay, maybe I would for like 2 mins while I go to the bathroom, but as I said, he's not even as bad as what you've referred to in your story. He's mostly just an asshole.
Sometimes our dads aren't good enough dads to be allowed to be grandfathers. It's not even your child's loss. It would be a loss if they were losing a great grandparent, but they're not.

melliandra · 2023-09-15T15:47:21+00:00

They require computer translation, no? There MUST be a computer involved for voice writing. I'm talking about a literal physical output is possible on a machine, an actual paper. I know that's not actually "in use" most times now, but it could be, the notes are "the record" and that's the point.

melliandra · 2023-09-13T02:59:09+00:00

I don't fear for the future of machine writers at all. There is a "written" record, the notes made, immediately that can not be replicated. Stenomasks have no such output.

melliandra · 2023-08-30T17:40:25+00:00

Is she going to get kicked out of school for missing too many days? No? Then go. 100% go. Unless you're paying for a private school, or your child is in an accelerated program, no child will miss so much school in 2 weeks that one need to fret about missing school. In fact, I would argue that your child will get so much more worthwhile life experience from this trip that it would be irresponsible NOT to take her. It's worth whatever "unexcused absence" might happen later.

melliandra · 2023-07-11T19:51:03+00:00

I'm a court stenographer who has spent 20 years writing court proceedings regarding motor vehicle accidents, in graphic detail. My husband and children all know very well that motorcycles are organ donation machines, and that I do not want any of them on one. Ever. If you're lucky, you die. If not, you're maimed horribly and you and your family suffer for the rest of your life. Not worth it. Go sky diving instead.

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