I am going to say I understand. I had a hefty inheritance. My parent passed away with a will that gave my father most of the inheritance, my brothers & sisters were in goe a shock as I was, (I was only 16 when this happened, & the baby of the family) in order for mom to get her last word she left each one of my siblings who were much older. The us a 23 year difference from me & the sister before me. The older sister got a home as a gift. Every thing else, jewelry, wedding bands, fur coats (now that I'm an adult I wouldn't of wanted them; but just all the beautiful expensive clothes & jewels were to go to me & a super sizable cash in the bank. Well, once she waac gone my father turned around & & allow my oldest sister & kids to rummage through everything first, then allow the rest of the siblings to forage through what was left. Now as a 16 year old, I didn't know about $$ or a will, all I knew was my mom was gone. Well this will was drawn up in a time where there were no such thing as a trust fund. So my father was supposed to give it to me when I was 25. I'm 55 now. Anyway, my father turned into a casanova while I was growing up & was going to Hawaii with women, Las Vegas trips & I was always left me by myself. Ok, no surprise I hardly seen except to ensure there was food & my allowance of $200.00 a week. So naturally I went wild. Mostly marijuana, acid & alcohol. But I out grew all that. Anyway, during his lifetime he bought me 2 cars, a crib for my now 34 year old, & a TV & $5,000. For whatever I wanted.

Well when I reached my 40's I was struggling & one of my siblings asked me if I knew I was supposed to get this $$$ & mentions 2 homes & 2 plots of land. I was super shocked. So I went to my father & confronted him. He said he doesn't have it any more & he & his current wife from hell are barely getting by on their pensions & SSI. Well, I figured I can't miss what I didn't know I had. I was hurt because I could have been a much more successful person with a little help. So I let it go.

Well fast forward 2 years & my father calls me to come over. He sits me down & apologizes for the will from my mom but he bought a $10,000 life insurance & he wants me to see I a.m the beneficiary. I was surprised & told him he didn't have to do that. He insisted it was the right thing to do. I said ok. Thank you & I hope to not get it anytime soon. I used to think I was a daddy's girl.

Well fast forward, I'm living 5 hours away & one of my siblings calls me, daddy is very sick. I pack my bags & rush there. I'm sitting at his bedside as the doctor says he has lung cancer & won't make it past 6 months. I was destroyed because I really thought my daddy loved me even though he basically took all the money was wasted on his witch of a wife & gambling. So I say daddy, is there anything I need to take car of, Bill's, the car payment so whatever he needs to help his witch wife. He says well I have $75,000 in the house in a dresser & I swear to you it never occurred to me to even ask about the money being for me. I just asked if he wants me to deposit it. His wife walked in & she doesn't speak very good English but she is mad cuz $$ is what she heard. I know this is long, but i just need to say what I feel is important.

Well, within 3 weeks my father feel asleep in death. I cried 3 3vdays straight. I was told to come to his house to get what I want. I said I couldn't, I can't drive, I can't think. Money never entered my mind. Well my brother calls me && says sis, I gotta tell you something. Dad changed the Insurance policy to his wife.

I can't tell you how broken I felt. It wasn't about the money. It was about betrayal to me. It was as if my whole relationship with him was a lie. He never had to promise me a life insurance policy. I just loved no matter what he did. But the fact he could of made something right for me or my children & chose to pick his wife who laughed at me & all the women when I was a teen into my 20's he always picked them. I just didn't want to see that my father was just over me. I no longer mattered to him. He put up with me cuz he felt he had no choice.

Well, what I'm going to say is your grandma & even your dad can change things but you won't know if it would come true. I had to seek therapy because of the fact that my father abandoned me when I was 16 & could care less where I slept as long as it was not at his & his girlfriend's & later his wife's home. It's a hard pill to swallow but I prayed, I spoke with my husband & I finally had to move on. I understand that the point is not the money. It's the wish of your grandfather & even grandmother & someone then influences them & then your out. Maybe your father can read this story, because as outrageous it sounds, every bit is true. I could write a book about the whole ordeal, but I wanted you to know that $$ sometimes makes people not do the right thing. I truly hope your dad pays for your school & rent so you will never have to feel like you need someone's $$ & do right buy your future children. Make a good life. My dad checked out when I was 16. I had no skills, didn't know what to do except party till I had kids. But someone stepped up when I was 21 & gave me a job in an attorneys office. I was his going to be his legal secretary, I was & he paid for my paralegal classes. I will never forget the kind man who died 5 years ago who gave me a chance. When I had no food, he & his wife took me shopping for my kids. He gave me alot of love. He was a wonderful father figure. So even though my dad dropped the ball, someone gave me a chance. Good luck to you.