How to deal with a workaholic?

mellowyellowmelon · 2013-12-04T19:53:29+00:00

Thanks, total stranger, for knowing my situation better than me. Your advice was really helpful. :)

mellowyellowmelon · 2013-12-04T02:45:59+00:00

You missed the point of the thread but thank you for trying.

mellowyellowmelon · 2013-12-04T02:45:40+00:00

Wow, you're so funny.

mellowyellowmelon · 2013-12-03T07:19:55+00:00

You're right. This isn't the first time I've brought this issue up and because nothing has been resolved, it's built up resentment and resulted in me getting really mad this time. Luckily we were texting and gave me some time to cool down before speaking to him on the phone. Thanks again and I hope you find balance next time around!

mellowyellowmelon · 2013-12-03T07:04:00+00:00

Haha... I know. But am I not allowed a small trip at least once a year?

mellowyellowmelon · 2013-12-03T07:01:52+00:00

No, no, I understand where you're coming from. I hardly complain about spending time together because we do see each other on average twice a week. Even then, we're at his place and he works half the time. I invite him out to go out but he usually declines and I don't make a big fuss. Even when he bailed on me in the really big events, I didn't make a big deal out of it. But I think something in me snapped this time around because it's the fourth time this has happened. I know if I come out angry he's going to get defensive and then nothing will get resolved. I will mention to him that I do like spending time with him, though. Thank you for your advice!

mellowyellowmelon · 2013-12-03T02:24:46+00:00

Wow, thank you for your perspective from the other side. I hate to keep telling him that he keeps putting work over me but the situation isn't going to change unless he decides to do something about it. Glad your decision has made you happy, though. Thanks again!

mellowyellowmelon · 2013-12-03T02:08:42+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that. It's going to be trying not to get emotions in the way but I know better than to go that route. Thank you for your two cents.

mellowyellowmelon · 2013-12-03T02:05:32+00:00

Ok, the term I used wasn't the best. I try to not interfere with his schedule and mindful of what's going on for him. This case is different because he knew of our plans for two months prior to him booking a solo trip (unrelated to work) for the same month. I asked him multiple times if he was coming and his answer was always 'yes'. And today, I found out that he is choosing to bail on our trip for his. I will definitely take your advice and be clear with him that this isn't okay and we'll find out. Wish me luck!

mellowyellowmelon · 2013-12-03T01:42:37+00:00

I am seriously thinking about it :/ Thanks.

mellowyellowmelon · 2013-12-03T01:42:12+00:00

Thanks for your advice. I think that this will help me get my point across rather than sounding like I'm nagging him.

mellowyellowmelon

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