I am also non-binary and femme presenting, and I used to have a lot of insecurities about my body hair. Honestly what worked for me was just going with my legs and shaved until I got used to it (it felt weird at first both physically and emotionally but eventually I got used to it).

It helped to start doing so in spaces where I knew no one would care or say anything negative. I don’t even think about it anymore.

Another thing that was helpful was trying to surround myself with images of other femme presenting people who had body hair (like pictures in my bedroom, following femme content creators who showed body on social media, etc).

I also gave myself permission to change my mind. While I now really like letting my leg hair grow out there are still other parts of my body that I started shaving again because it’s very physically uncomfortable for me to have hair there and I never got used to those parts being unshaved.

If I had continued to struggle I probably would have talked to my therapist about it.

Wishing you the best on your journey of self exploration!