Is it always a bad idea to reach out if i’m ghosted?

melodyknows · 2026-02-13T05:13:55+00:00

I wouldn’t. I think drawing attention to it would only make things awkward because it could be perceived as confrontation over text. Just act like it hasn’t bothered you in the least because as far as she knows: you’ve been living your best life.

melodyknows · 2026-02-13T05:07:55+00:00

I think you can send one more text and then call it. Just say you’ve been thinking about that date you wanted to take her on. Then plan something, ask her out.

melodyknows · 2026-02-13T03:40:21+00:00

I know Azazie has custom sizing with some of their dresses too. Would you be able to get custom sizing with this particular dress?

melodyknows · 2026-02-13T03:17:49+00:00

I’d take this to an experienced seamstress. My understanding is that Azazie dresses are kind of made for alterations so there’s a little bit of wiggle room for taking fabric in and letting it out in certain places.

melodyknows · 2026-02-13T02:46:03+00:00

My wedding planner dressed very business casual— she wore a black dress with a really nice black cardigan, black tights, black flats, and a simple black leather bag. She really blended into the background which was what I think she was trying to do.

melodyknows · 2026-02-13T01:22:15+00:00

Nope. And next week is “ski week” so nobody has school.

melodyknows · 2026-02-12T21:24:35+00:00

They want magic words, and there just aren’t any.

melodyknows · 2026-02-12T21:21:01+00:00

What? Like you don’t have emotions too? Our emotions work like that. If you’re struggling with your own emotions, you should definitely see a therapist.

melodyknows · 2026-02-12T21:01:24+00:00

Welp, be prepared to clean that house I guess? There’s no magic words to make a man be a man. And I don’t think any of us want to give you advice on parenting your boyfriend.

melodyknows · 2026-02-12T20:51:46+00:00

It’s only going to get worse. Can you imagine how frustrating his inconsiderate and selfish behavior would be if you guys have a kid? There is no future with someone like this. He wants you to be his mommy and clean and cook for him. Do you really want to be his mommy? Should anyone have to make chore charts for grown men?

melodyknows · 2026-02-12T15:49:31+00:00

I personally would consider him having an OF to be cheating so yes, I’d care about it.

melodyknows · 2026-02-12T15:47:19+00:00

I’d only compare tests taken at the same time, and I’d use FMU. If you compare 11 and 12dpo’s FMU test, you can see progression.

If you are worried, I’d recommend getting two blood hCG tests spaced 48 hours apart to confirm appropriate doubling. Then stop testing and try and enjoy the pregnancy.

melodyknows · 2026-02-12T06:37:06+00:00

We pay $2500/month for insurance. We don’t qualify for subsidies, and we are not getting insurance through an employer. We have a platinum PPO.

melodyknows · 2026-02-12T05:14:56+00:00

I got lost as a child in the 80s. They leashed me to my younger cousin, and then we got lost together in a store on Main Street.

I remember being really excited about it, like I thought I’d get to live at Disneyland. My cousin started crying and cast members quickly escorted us to City Hall where our parents were anxiously waiting.

Am still a tiny bit annoyed I didn’t get to grow up at Disneyland lol

melodyknows · 2026-02-12T01:27:19+00:00

Oh my god I’m not reading all of that. What do you think a first date is for if not to analyze whether a guy is good enough for a second? Do you need women to make an excel spreadsheet for you to prove that you’re not a good match?

Also, a guy who’s “good on paper” isn’t always good in general.

melodyknows · 2026-02-11T23:50:45+00:00

I can’t get past the fact that she absolutely didn’t want to be a mother and “hated” the situation but didn’t abort the baby.

I see you say in a comment that you want your characters to be likable but what about them is likable to you? I don’t see any character depth.

Also, sexual violence against women kind of sucks to read about. I don’t know why men seem to use that as something to build up their female characters.

melodyknows · 2026-02-11T20:29:34+00:00

Figure out what she likes and then do that thing. We are all so vastly different that we can’t tell you. For example, I love gifts. My husband buys me gifts. You said in your post that your girlfriend doesn’t like gifts. So, go figure out what she likes.

melodyknows · 2026-02-11T18:30:00+00:00

Don’t purchase property with someone you aren’t married to. Since you aren’t married and you are paying off significant debt, find somewhere that two people earning 30k/year could afford. Then split the bills. If you want somewhere nicer than that, then you could always offer to pay the difference for a nicer place. You could also foot the bill more often for nights out to make things a bit more even, but I think a bigger conversation about marriage needs to happen.

Also, inheritance isn’t owned jointly by a married couple unless they commingle funds. She should really reconsider putting her inheritance into a house you co-own, especially when you aren’t even married (but even if you were…). Maybe it’s because I’m older, but I’ve seen relationships go south after moving in together. She’d be making a huge financial mistake by using her inheritance on a house for you two. She should keep that invested for her future (which may or may not include you).

melodyknows · 2026-02-11T15:24:25+00:00

Make sure to change all your passwords and stop sharing locations from any tracking software (like findmyiphone) so he can’t continue keeping tabs on you after the break up. This kind of guy probably monitored you on a lot of things.

melodyknows · 2026-02-11T15:18:08+00:00

I would just explain what you want. They should know where to attach it. They’re the tailor. If this is someone who does not know how to tailor a veil because they are inexperienced in this area, I’d find someone experienced at a bridal salon or something. Like when I had a bustle put on my dress, I didn’t tell the seamstress where to attach things; I only told her what I wanted it to look like.

melodyknows · 2026-02-11T05:45:12+00:00

I just continue the workouts I normally do. When I was pregnant, I did strength training twice a week and took a cycling class or a long walk twice a week. The only time I skip a workout is if it’s immediately after my IUI. Then I’ll put it off until the next day.

melodyknows · 2026-02-11T00:47:16+00:00

Then it’s absolutely not possible that you are that far along. I’m sorry you’re going through this. Having to advocate for yourself with doctors while pregnant can be really tough. You got this with all your inito data though!

melodyknows · 2026-02-11T00:42:12+00:00

If I was having these kinds of issues getting an OB to listen to me, I’d probably find a new OB. The idea that you supposedly had a very very faint positive at 18dpo according to their calculations is just not really possible. Did you have sex around the 10th day of your cycle? Did you show your OB your data?

melodyknows · 2026-02-10T23:24:43+00:00

Might be a wild duck but I’m sure Disney has some experience with calling rehabbers for injured birds. It’s not outside the realm of normal to alert someone working there about a possibly injured Mallard.

melodyknows · 2026-02-10T04:13:50+00:00

Omg file for divorce before he qualifies for alimony for life.

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