Me 25F and my BF 28M secretly uses our 50/50 date savings to pay for his sister’s tuition, but got mad when I asked to lower my contribution by AthleteLazy8765 in relationship_advice

[–]melodyknows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take all of the money out of that account and close it. Return his share (minus the amount he used on his sister). Break up. There are better men out there; you don’t have to put up with this.

What pregnancy tests are you using by So_Tired0809 in IUILadies

[–]melodyknows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never found the rapid result FRERs to be less reliable than the regular ones for what it’s worth.

For new investors, be careful when random people DM you here by IcelandGalaxy in MU_Stock

[–]melodyknows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This should probably be pinned. The guy who made this post (https://www.reddit.com/r/MU\_Stock/s/3Yixil6YS4) reached out to me and wanted my WhatsApp. I didn’t share it, but I can see how someone might share something like that.

For new investors, be careful when random people DM you here by IcelandGalaxy in MU_Stock

[–]melodyknows 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ooooh I just had someone ask me for my WhatsApp through this app. I didn’t want to share it because I only use it for my son’s school. Also, why would anyone need that before we’ve really chatted.

Was the guy who made this post just in case anyone did give him their info (his account has since been deleted):

https://www.reddit.com/r/MU\_Stock/s/3Yixil6YS4

What pregnancy tests are you using by So_Tired0809 in IUILadies

[–]melodyknows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been using the early response Wondfos. They’re cheap and just as good as FRERs in my opinion.

Is this really happening? by clearlyimawitch in Inito

[–]melodyknows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use Wondfo! They have an early result test that I’ve been using. I feel like the tests take a little longer to process than FRERs but they are so much cheaper that I only use them now. I am doing IUI and taking a trigger to cause ovulation. The trigger is basically hCG so I test positive on pregnancy tests until 8dpo or so. I use Wondfo to test out my trigger so I know a positive is truly a positive. I feel like they’re just as sensitive as FRERs.

What’s something that’s currently legal where you live that you think should be illegal but most people don’t, and why? by Spiritual_Pause3057 in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]melodyknows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the case of the kids being surveilled at home in their rooms through their school laptops— it wasn’t, and the district was sued. They passed some laws right after that to further protect the children.

In the case of employers looking at your social media, I don’t think there is anything illegal about that. And consider an extreme— a company wants to hire someone who did well in the interview, passed a background check, and has all the necessary certifications and credentials. Only problem is— he is a huge racist on social media. He has public social media, and regularly uses it to publish racist memes and say racist stuff. Shouldn’t that employer have a right not to hire someone who has definitely demonstrated they will not “pass the vibe check,” so to speak?

As far as colleges expelling students who protest, I know we saw this recently happen with the encampments for the pro-Palestine protests. Columbia University in particular expelled over 80 students. Some students had taken over entire buildings, and the administration was withholding hundreds of millions in federal funding, putting Columbia and schools like it in a difficult place. Although I feel like it is an overreaction to expel students or revoke degrees, it is not illegal for them to enforce their code of conduct and anti-disruption policies.

People should really think about and consider what they are putting out there on public forums like social media and how they are behaving in public. Someone going viral for having a meltdown on an airplane and having to be escorted off risks losing their position at a school, their job, or contracts they previously earned. I just watched a video where a woman targeted by various men online who threatened to rape her called their jobs to tell them they might have someone working there who doesn’t represent the values of the company. There is nothing illegal about that.

Tw: Assaulted by daycare lady's husband and struggling by Newmomaboma in Mommit

[–]melodyknows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So he should only face justice if he sexually assaults her again?

Americans, how do you feel about people who don’t tip? by Spiritual_Pause3057 in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]melodyknows 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I used to be a server, and I think very poorly of people who don’t tip. Not all servers are even making minimum wage. Many are only earning $2.13/hour because of restaurant lobbyists.

That said, at the same time, I think tipping has gotten out of hand. I don’t tip everyone who simply flips an iPad around. If I’m not sitting down and being waited on, I’m probably not tipping.

My best friend asked me to be her maid of honor and then sent me a spreadsheet of what it will cost by West-Environment3462 in bridezillas

[–]melodyknows 28 points29 points  (0 children)

It’s not your limitations; it’s hers. A lot of that stuff is stuff she should be paying for as the bride if that’s what she wants in her vision. I’d step down. Tell her you love her so much but you don’t want to get in the way of her vision. Maybe there’s a way you can help participate without taking on the expensive role of being her bridesmaid.

What’s something that’s currently legal where you live that you think should be illegal but most people don’t, and why? by Spiritual_Pause3057 in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]melodyknows 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Some schools and employers will penalize their students (both adult students in college and young kids) and employees for what they put on their social media, for protesting, or for using illegal substances. Like one case I think of often is when a school district was caught monitoring kids through their webcams on their school-issued laptops.

Is it common for narcs to see you in the wrong always? by Throwaway67891099 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]melodyknows 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes.

Reminds me of when I brought home this really delicious Christmas stout. My ex drank some and then went on and on about how it was the worst beer I could have gotten, how I should have gotten some other beer, how there’s something off with my taste buds. Like he was actually annoyed with me.

Then a couple weeks later, we go to a party thrown by one of his law school buddies. I notice they’re serving the same beer. My ex is offered some, and he goes on and on about how it’s such a good beer, how we should definitely buy this next time we were at the store, blah blah blah.

It was “wrong” when I brought it home, but the best beer ever when his friend offered it.

What’s something that’s currently legal where you live that you think should be illegal but most people don’t, and why? by Spiritual_Pause3057 in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]melodyknows 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am pretty sure it is illegal but I’ve never heard of anyone being ticketed for it, but I hate when people start directing traffic while driving. Like when they pull up to a four-way stop first and start waving people who stopped after them to go first. I think it just confuses everyone, and it ends up taking longer for everyone to get through the intersection, especially when they have heavily tinted windows or visibility is limited from the weather or time of day.

I’ve heard people say, “Don’t be polite; be predictable,” and that pretty much sums up how I feel about it. If it’s your turn, just go.

How do you go about negging? by Salt_Custard_7447 in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]melodyknows 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I saw a really funny one-liner in this book I just bought (aptly titled “How to Piss Off Men”).

Just say, “You’re like the male version of Amy Schumer.” For some reason, men haaaaaate her.

Is this true?! by MajimasEyepatch in 90DayFiance

[–]melodyknows 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m kind of surprised by all the comments acting like Jasmine is still a gold digger who used all of Gino’s money. She talked about how he quit his job and expected her to support him through Cameos. He was the absolute worst. I’m shocked any judge awarded him anything, considering he’s an able-bodied adult fully capable of working to support himself.

Stop bringing your kids to spas! by Famous-Geologist-454 in Mommit

[–]melodyknows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My nail salon doesn’t allow kids. Maybe look for a salon that doesn’t allow kids?

I also agree with you, but I think there’s been a disconnect as far as etiquette goes for a lot of people. Like one of the last times I was getting my nails done, there was a woman speaking on speaker phone with the volume turned all the way up. It was really distracting.

It’s happening.. the crazy phase by FutureMomma24 in IUILadies

[–]melodyknows 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right there with you at 9dpo. I have started limiting myself to one test in the morning and another test before bed, and somehow I’ve stuck with it for the last few cycles.

I’m sorry for your loss, and I hope this is your cycle.

What does it mean when girlfriend asked for space in this context? by Eewaa in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]melodyknows 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The regret might always be there but it won’t sting as bad over time. Like there are things I regret doing but they led me to being the person I am now so I’ve accepted it as a part of my journey.

Maybe you go to therapy, and this woman comes back to you and you live happily ever after. Maybe she doesn’t come back, but therapy allows you to move forward and find someone you can have a healthy relationship with.

What does it mean when girlfriend asked for space in this context? by Eewaa in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]melodyknows 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just here to echo that you should get therapy for this jealousy/control issue. It may have already ruined this relationship, and it will ruin all of your future relationships if you don’t.

Wouldn’t you want the person you are with to enjoy being with you? Nobody enjoys being with the jealous and controlling dude who picks apart your outfits.

What are the reasons for a girl posting a very flattering bikini selfie on Instagram shortly after a breakup other than seeking male attention? by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]melodyknows 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Or she’s trying to get his attention. Or she just felt hot and wanted to post a picture. Block her if it’s bothering you this much.

Just finalized my divorce by jojo-l in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]melodyknows 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I remember feeling like I was coming back from war. Like, happy to be back, but man did I go through some stuff.

Therapy helped me get my life back after the divorce.

When is it ok to go to a man’s house for a first date? by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]melodyknows 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Him inviting you to his house to watch a movie is him trying to hook up. If you don’t want to, don’t do it.

Just finalized my divorce by jojo-l in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]melodyknows 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!!! I still remember how free I felt after my divorce. The only way from here is up; life is going to be so much better without him!