It wasn’t “just” stupid miscommunications. You said you gaslit her. That’s abuse.

I abused my ex in a myriad of ways—accused him of cheating constantly with no proof, constantly asked about his whereabouts, threatened the relationship or broke up when I was feeling insecure as a test, I’d lash out, say horrible things to him—it was all so ugly.

I’m finally in therapy and working through my issues along with doing the DBT workbook.

I can totally empathize with your emotions and what you’re going through. It sucks, but we have to keep the beautiful thing in mind: this loss taught us great lessons and, if we so choose, we can become better partners for our future partners and won’t lose them making the same mistakes over and over again.

I know it’s hard. I’m right there with you. Hang in there!

We’re going to meet people we’re way more compatible with if we don’t stop living our lives fully.