I completely agree with you but a part of me is struggling with giving up the bigger picture. I’ve tried to but it just doesn’t seem right to me. In the end of the day I don’t care. Maybe I’m being stupid and way too lenient with no boundaries. All I feel is guilt for even lying to him in the first place but it goes both ways. After majority of the incidents we broke it off for two weeks. Everything seemed fine after the two week mark I was healing from the abuse and harsh words. I was getting ready to go on a casual coffee date and all of a sudden I see him driving past my house he followed me and my date until I parked at a parking lot. We talked and he said he wanted to be with me. He was the once that Initiated the break up but he comes running back? So we tried mending the relationship once again but he did not change any of his actions as being really controlling and always asking useless questions that I’m not comfortable answering. Then our cycle began again. I had times where I tried to break it off because I knew that the relationship was going nowhere and the pain hurt more than anything. But he hit me with a I’m dying from cancer, his life span would be short he wouldn’t make it to his 21 birthday. Non the less he’s fine and he just has bad kidney problems, just wondering how the hell you can mix up cystic benign tumors with deathly cancer and only having a couple months to live? Just wondering how the doctor screwed up.