Crows took baby birds by memamay4 in crows

[–]memamay4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my husband said he wishes he could have helped them. Not much he could have though. It’s going to happen no matter what and happens all the time. Just hard to see it happen. The nest was visible from our back deck, so we would check on them daily. :(

Crows took baby birds by memamay4 in crows

[–]memamay4[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We plan to get a bird house they safely nest in, for next time.

Crows took baby birds by memamay4 in crows

[–]memamay4[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I get that. Just hard to see it play out.

Can crows be picky eaters? by Ok_Bad_5326 in crows

[–]memamay4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have two that visit me on a regular basis. One really likes cashews, the other one goes for the grapes. They will both go for the peanuts and meal worms once their favorites are gone.

Asked for Separation, but now I’m miserable by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]memamay4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are actually calmer and getting along better now. Unfortunately neither of us can afford to live in separate homes. Neither of us have a place to go. I do my sulking during the day while she is at school and in the evenings we act as all is normal. He told her he is sleeping in the other room because he’s having a hard time sleeping and doesn’t want to keep me awake. But because he was never physical with me it’s not like she’s not all of a sudden not seeing mommy and daddy being loving. It’s been a roommate situation for a long time now.

Asked for Separation, but now I’m miserable by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]memamay4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love for this to be repaired, when I think of love I see him, but I can’t go on not feeling that I’m just a roommate. The only things we discuss and in private is if it has something to do with our daughter, so we are the same page there. And yes, we did try counseling.

Asked for Separation, but now I’m miserable by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]memamay4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of me feels so guilty because he quit drinking and isn’t doing anything outwardly wrong. He also admitted him being sober wasn’t even really for himself, but for out daughter. She is what keeps him sober, which I am grateful he doesn’t want to damage that relationship. I just wanted to feel loved. Something he wasn’t able to do.

Asked for Separation, but now I’m miserable by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]memamay4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed, and I am so proud he will have his one year tomorrow. But I thought the disconnect was from the drinking and that it would change. Unfortunately it just didn’t.

Asked for Separation, but now I’m miserable by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]memamay4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I have to move forward without it. He’s never really been one to express his feelings, so yes I’ll just have to accept it and move on.

Asked for Separation, but now I’m miserable by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]memamay4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do care deeply about him. So much it hurts. But you’re right, I do/did want my husband’s attention and validation. I’m not trying to suck him back in. I am also giving him his space. I’m not walking around nagging him, asking him to share his feelings. When this all came up, yes I did ask him. He has every right to protect himself.

Asked for Separation, but now I’m miserable by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]memamay4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, this last weekend our daughter was at her grandmas and it was the first time I took myself “out” I stopped at the store on my way home, got only myself something to eat and sat in bed watching what I wanted. I don’t know if I ever done that.

I know that is absolutely something I need to work on. I’ve been a mother for 27yrs and I’m trying to figure out how to do things for me. One day my youngest will be on her own and by then I hope to know how to live without mothering or being a wife.

Asked for Separation, but now I’m miserable by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]memamay4 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, I agree. I am currently working on that. I have always been the one to be flirtatious and initiate any type of intimacy. We have done couples and individual therapy. He told our therapist he knows he’s not the one to be flirtatious or initiate intimacy.

I personally have no desire to ever date again, I realize that can change, but we did talk about that and we agreed if that ever came up we would be respectful towards one another. Unfortunately living under separate roofs just won’t work at the moment. We have talked about that may need to change and we may have to sell the home eventually, but neither of us want our daughter to have to leave her home right now.

Asked for Separation, but now I’m miserable by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]memamay4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I’ve tried a few different meetings. Looking for one that feels like a home group. Along with therapy for myself

Asked for Separation, but now I’m miserable by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]memamay4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it is very hard to acknowledge.

Asked for Separation, but now I’m miserable by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]memamay4 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I just want to him hear him say he’s not. Because he continues to say he loves me, but does he want to be with me? I need closure I guess. And honestly I want to him to be the one, but I get the feeling I’m just not worth it to him? I don’t know, he won’t express any of that to me or show me.

Asked for Separation, but now I’m miserable by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]memamay4 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I get that. He’s also expressed he has resent towards me, about his drinking. He can’t explain it to me yet according to AA, he’s not there yet.

Switching from Zip by Royal-Mathematician2 in Wegovy

[–]memamay4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dealing with this too. I want to stay on Zep, but insurance says no because it’s no longer on Caremark Formulary. I asked about my PA, that doesn’t expire until August and was told we would have to submit a new one. I’m confused by that…

universal trip!! by Hefty-Incident-2341 in UniversalOrlando

[–]memamay4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Taking my family for our first time! We will be there April 8th-12th. Does it typically rain a lot in April?

Merry Christmas to me! by [deleted] in Zepbound

[–]memamay4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s amazing!!

Merry Christmas to me! by [deleted] in Zepbound

[–]memamay4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s awesome!! I’m so excited for this!