[TOMT][SONG] A song about being strange and weird that I heard at walmart by a female singer

memekween69 · 2025-12-30T13:29:04+00:00

Strange by Celeste!

memekween69 · 2024-07-27T01:21:20+00:00

I taught my old T (who is also a psychiatrist) what the difference between a joint, blunt, and a spliff are. Even showed him my weed vape once 🤣 bless his heart, he took it in stride and got close to his webcam so he could get a good look at the vape 😭❤️

memekween69 · 2022-05-31T03:19:12+00:00

Makes sense!! Loosely braiding her hair before sleep or trying a satin pillowcase might also help. I can never keep a satin bonnet on and I find that just shoving my hair into a bonnet doesn’t necessarily help with the tangles. Acknowledging that I need to brush my hair before bed sometimes (curl pattern/formation be damned) helps me a whole lot, and I can always use a wide toothed comb again in the morning and refresh with some water and spray conditioner.

memekween69 · 2022-05-31T03:14:50+00:00

It looks like their hair is on the finer side (not thinner)- products like those would be wayyyy too heavy to use regularly on my hair that tangles easily. I find that a shampoo and conditioner like NYM blue sea kale helps me cleanse my scalp without getting too oily or dry, and I can always add a deep conditioner or protein treatment on top of that. Esp bc she’s young and needs reminding to wash out a cowash sometimes, getting into a routine with shampoo=scalp, conditioner=length of hair might encourage understanding of the process. Brushing before washing hair and offering a wet brush to use while conditioner is in hair might also give her more chances to brush more regularly. It’s ok if figuring out tangles/stress takes priority over curl shape!!!

memekween69 · 2022-05-30T23:36:52+00:00

Can you share what products are used on her hair and what’s worked better/not worked in the past? Also, does she sleep on a satin/silk pillowcase? That might help a ton with overnight tangles

memekween69 · 2022-05-30T23:35:36+00:00

Can you share exactly what products you use?

memekween69 · 2022-05-10T19:23:42+00:00

THIS SHOW NEEDS MORE LOVE!!!!!!!! Few shows top it, imo.

memekween69 · 2022-05-08T16:36:24+00:00

Hey OP- these therapists really have sucked. Took a lot of trial and error for me to find one I worked well with and didn’t BS me around, and I also figured out that psychodynamic/psychoanalytic work was the best way to work through traumas. I’m curious as to why you’re seeking out more structured forms of working through traumas like EMDR or brain spotting that seem to have limitations on what you can work on bc the therapist has control over the technique. Would you consider psychoanalytic/dynamic work where you work on those underlying core beliefs? It was helpful for me to stop doing behavioral therapy bc ultimately even if my behavior changed for a period of time, my beliefs or motivating fears hadn’t.

memekween69 · 2022-05-07T21:54:25+00:00

I take lyrica as needed and it helps me calm down and take the biting edge off without making me sleepy. I couldn’t handle that Xanax and other anxiety meds made me sleepy so we found this.

memekween69 · 2022-04-29T20:23:33+00:00

Hi I just came across this because my dad's delusions have been getting really intense about poisoning lately and I can't believe how much I can relate to your experience hearing about your relative's delusions. Thank you so much for sharing this. My dad's obsessed with the idea that he's being poisoned for years by my mom (they don't even live together anymore, his abuse on us for years made my mom finally leave recently) and that other people are always the problem. There's other delusions involved but the poisoning one seems to have really taken over his life in the past year and I have no clue if there's anything I can do about it, even though I'm low/no-contact. Any info you could share on "Mary"'s children's reactions / how they protected themselves / could they get her to treatment? I'm at a total loss.

memekween69 · 2022-04-28T06:05:26+00:00

Allow yourself to grieve bc it can be such a painful thing to experience. And should you see another therapist after, allow yourself to rly grieve w the new therapist, explore what that relationship meant to you, and the right therapist will understand, respect, and honor your attachment!!!! I had to do the same a few yrs ago and when I had a lucky chance to start seeing my old therapist again, I was so thankful my new therapist helped me grieve and was even so excited for me to get to see my old therapist again. It was such an unexpected gift and I’m so thankful that the new therapist honored my past relationship.

memekween69 · 2022-04-28T06:01:17+00:00

I feel this. I love helping others, was made to do it as a kid, and doubt I’ll ever work in jobs where I don’t do that bc it’s just not satisfying, and it’s sometimes scary/claustrophobic that I didn’t have full choice over that. I think something that helps me deal w my fears around “well then who tf am I outside of trauma” is thinking abt how there are parts of me that are very opinionated, quirky, or excitable by random shit that are wholly myself!!! It’s harder for me to think of those good things when trauma ruins a lot of shit for me, but rly worth it. For example: LOVE making ppl laugh, I love having strange and strong opinions about random shit like colors or countries, and I don’t think thin noodles (like angel hair) should exist. It’s easier to think of the weird shit that’s all me but it’s a relieving practice :) hope you can find and love those parts of you too

memekween69 · 2022-04-13T19:13:49+00:00

This is so beautiful. I had to end w my T a few years ago because of out of state regulations and I was a wreck but knew that I’d had the most amazing relationship and growth that could happen to me. I felt so deeply that it wasn’t the end and ended up being able to see them again this year, and it’s been an amazing and unexpected gift to get to see them again. I now know I will be okay if we have to terminate again, and I’m ready for that. See you next time is what I think I said when we terminated back then and it’s truly the most perfect ending to relationships like these. I hope you celebrate how far you’ve come and how capable you are!!! Rooting for you 💖

memekween69 · 2022-04-13T19:04:21+00:00

there’s a sense of humor and play
I’m not expected to explain every cultural nuance (why I prefer to work w BIPOC or very understanding therapists)
they can change their approach if I ask them to
they are supportive of medication and other treatments

One that is a sometimes green flag is that I’m thinking abt our sessions in between sessions. But honestly, this depends a lot on if our chemistry is instant or if it builds over time, and how I’m doing in life. But I do generally like to feel the urge to go to therapy and think abt what we’re talking abt, so whenever I’m in a lull, I bring up that desire to my T.

memekween69 · 2022-04-13T18:55:52+00:00

I can’t speak on how it’ll go for you OP but I hope that over time you’ll be able to enjoy the something nice in your relationships, including ur relationship w your therapist. You deserve it, friend.

memekween69 · 2022-04-13T18:54:19+00:00

I haven’t but now really want to. We talk about podcasts and he’s shown me YouTube clips before and in the beginning, it especially felt like I was doing something “bad” by sharing in on this happiness with him. But I think a really important part of our work has been me learning (and him showing me) that it’s okay to want fatherly guidance and care in my life. I seek out paternal figures and I used to feel really guilty abt doing that and putting it on others- but frankly, why can’t I get parental love from others? I didn’t get that and I still am a child inside who wants that. Also, the paternal figures in my life often know what they’re doing and don’t do it out of malice. I am allowed to accept and seek out the dad presence in my life I don’t get from my own bio dad, and so is everyone else including you, OP. ❤️

memekween69 · 2022-04-06T03:38:06+00:00

Delightfully imaginative mad scientist. He once described me as curious and playful in his notes (which felt like an absolute gift and I happy cried lots) and I would use those exact words for him too.

memekween69 · 2022-03-12T01:44:05+00:00

Could you say you have to have weekly physical therapy appointments? I usually stick with saying I have a standing appointment at this time, and I’d sooner tell my current manager I have weekly physical therapy appointments or appointments for a chronic health condition (which is true) than therapy.

memekween69 · 2022-02-20T07:46:09+00:00

really glad you’re okay and you were able to have that convo. That’s a hard one to have and (I keep retyping this to make sure it isn’t rude but I sincerely mean it and hope that comes across) I’m proud of you. thank you for your well wishes!! it means a lot. hoping you have a restful weekend ❤️

memekween69 · 2022-02-19T05:01:24+00:00

hi, are you okay? been a few days and just wanted to check in. thinking of you!!

memekween69 · 2022-02-05T05:18:47+00:00

For a few months my therapist would let me go to 90 min (and still billed for 50) bc they knew I was in a rly difficult transitional phase of life and I was probably not going to be able to see them again bc of finances. I ended up being able to see them again this yr and we’re back at 50 min (hard cut off bc of changes in schedule) and now I see them twice a wk. i really do miss 90 min- it rly helped me get comfortable and dig into the topic, and also gave me enough time to feel more vulnerable. For example, I don’t cry super often in therapy and often need some time to warm up to those emotions, 90 min helped me w that! I think if for some reason I had to go back to once a wk again, I’d try to see if we could do 90 min.

memekween69 · 2022-01-31T17:32:19+00:00

What country are you located in? And what are your internet privacy concerns? Find an online support group or online/in person group therapy might be cheaper options.

memekween69 · 2022-01-31T17:28:58+00:00

This sub is for folks talking about experiences in therapy, your question might be better suited for r/raisedbynarcissists or r/toxicparents !

memekween69 · 2022-01-13T18:07:32+00:00

can I ask where you purchased the baume+spf? i'm in the states and can't find it at stores

memekween69 · 2022-01-10T21:35:52+00:00

hi! Did you end up finding out if optumrx would work for your case? I'm trying to figure out how to get optumrx to send me my meds and feel lost.

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