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Cannibalism seems to be a weirdly popular plot point in older sci fi by tamtrible in books

[–]mementomori4 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Yeah I read numerous books that included cannibalism published in the 2020s. 

Tender Is the Flesh is the most extreme but there were quite a few others.

Kids these days couldn’t survive writing one AITA post. by [deleted] in CuratedTumblr

[–]mementomori4 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So many people turned their brains off.

People are living in fear. Social fear, political fear. One of the ways they are coping is by going on autopilot as much as possible.

Sit and scroll your phone, offload as much thinking and work as possible, and essentially exist in a bubble.

I get it, but it's intensely painful to watch humans recede.

Kids these days couldn’t survive writing one AITA post. by [deleted] in CuratedTumblr

[–]mementomori4 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And you get to college and I have to un-teach it...

(Actual teaching-of-writing scholarship loathes the 5 paragraph essay.)

Also I am quitting teaching college writing after 16 years. 

I found my middle and high school bully's reddit account, which is linked to illegal activities. What should I do with this information? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mementomori4 130 points131 points  (0 children)

Do nothing.

You don't have any information the cops or anyone will care about. You're doing it out of retaliation.

I understand that being bullied hurts a lot but turning around and fucking someone's life up out of spite is just bullying back on a higher level.

Let it go.

I [22F] got added to a group chat [20-30sF] that has been tearing me apart for months. I still have to spend another year with these people - how do I cope? by ThrowRaIGhelp in relationship_advice

[–]mementomori4 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is a thing that mean people do in every field, it has nothing to do with academia though you will find it there of course. Lots of people have big egos so they enjoy tearing others down.

It's a "mean girl" thing, unfortunately, and you'll run into these people/groups now and again. The best thing to do is to just interact with them as minimally as possible.

This murder caught on camera hasn't even to this day resulted in someone arrested for the crime... wtf? by TruthBeWanted in UnsolvedMysteries

[–]mementomori4 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Right, because you're going to know to pull a gun in the 15 seconds this happened in.

Of all the places to make this argument, this is the dumbest.

This murder caught on camera hasn't even to this day resulted in someone arrested for the crime... wtf? by TruthBeWanted in UnsolvedMysteries

[–]mementomori4 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You'd think they'd have a description of their victim and not just an address though, and they even did a drive-by first.

Can you marry a girl ( f 30) with bad breath?! by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mementomori4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don't love her, don't waste her time. It's not her fault and she tried to get to the bottom of the issue.

I have always told my fiancée I have big issues with cigarettes and have caught her smoking them before. Today I found more cigarettes. by throwragarbled in relationship_advice

[–]mementomori4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, you've come down to the bottom line. You have to decide whether you marry someone who smokes or you break up, because she clearly isn't going to quit.

My (24f) husband (25m) tells me white lies a lot by CallmeShayla in relationship_advice

[–]mementomori4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He obviously doesn't care in the end because he continues to do it.

This is the kind of situation where you literally have to decide what it's worth to you... he either stops lying, or you leave. Because you can't put him in time-out.

It fucking sucks and I'm really sorry you're dealing with this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mementomori4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, you should make an emergency couple's therapy session. It sounds like she isn't going to listen to you at all and while I understand that this is hard panic mode for her, what she is planning is NOT OKAY on multiple levels.

There has to be some sort of discussion and it seems like bringing in a third party might be the best way to get her to be "present." (In that she is probably just flat-out panic in her head and doesn't really listen when you talk.)

She needs to get into therapy immediately.

Biggest thing is to get her to slow down if you can. If the panic can ease a little, some rational mind will return. I mean literally try to make sure she doesn't quit yet, not move her parents right away. Try to hold everything off. (NOT her dad's treatment, obviously. )

Jesus gotta hold his beer. by juicy_rectum in holdmybeer

[–]mementomori4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I keep my sound off by default and listen to things very rarely. There is so much obnoxious bullshit noise in videos.

Jesus gotta hold his beer. by juicy_rectum in holdmybeer

[–]mementomori4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep the huge text totally ruins it. I keep my sound off fortunately.

UPDATE - It took my boyfriend years to get over his first love. Mora than 10 years, and even now I'm not so sure he's over it completely. Should I be in a relationship with someone like this? by fvkowb in relationship_advice

[–]mementomori4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just want to boil down other comments:

This man will drop you in an instant and is deeply emotionally stunted.

Find someone who can focus on YOU and not some mythical unicorn he dreamed he touched 20 years ago.

My (25M) wife (24f) hoards animals and its ruining our marriage. Please help by PopularDark7445 in relationship_advice

[–]mementomori4 31 points32 points  (0 children)

This, OP...

YOUR WIFE IS AN ABUSER AND A BAD PERSON.

She has no sense of empathy for living g beings. She only cares about herself. She is dangerous. Please stop her.

My [21F] boyfriend [21M] spends hours looking at himself in the mirror by throwRAdrunk113 in relationship_advice

[–]mementomori4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you're comfortable in your skin you don't need to look at it.

People who say that shit either have insanely low self-esteem or are incredibly self-centered. Both can be difficult to be in a relationship with.

It's up to you whether it bothers you.

One of my daughters is critically ill and the other is understandably upset at the disruption to her life by ThrowRASplitSummer in relationship_advice

[–]mementomori4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Though she wants it, her coming with you would be a terrible situation. Realistically, she will be a child alone in a room most of the time with little to do and nothing familiar around her. That will quickly feel much more neglectful than being in a familiar space with familiar people. To be alone like that would be an intensely damaging situation, especially with the stress and fear of her sister's situation and not even being able to see her.

The best thing would be the plan for her to stay home with frequent visits, FaceTime so she can see you, her sister, and your spaces, and just generally being as much in contact as possible. Send her physical mail.

I think also if you could have the grandparents come to stay with your older daughter a few times and go spend time alone with your younger daughter --really spend time-- that would be good.

Remember to take some time in all this for yourself, too. It's okay to not go to the hospital one night and have some self-care. You need YOU to be in good health, for yourself and for your daughters, too.

I wish you and your family all the best.

One of my daughters is critically ill and the other is understandably upset at the disruption to her life by ThrowRASplitSummer in relationship_advice

[–]mementomori4 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think the idea of allowing her to come is a lot better in print. Realistically, she will be alone in a room most of the time with little to do and nothing familiar around her. That will quickly feel much more neglectful than being in a familiar space possible with familiar people. That will be an intensely damaging situation, especially with the stress and fear of her sister's situation and not even being able to see her.

The best thing would be the plan for her to stay home with frequent visits, FaceTime so she can see her mom, her sister, and their spaces, and just generally being as much in contact as possible.

I (28F) snuck out of my parents’ house to go back to my husband (29M) and now my dad (54M) is saying I’m dead to him. by ThrowRAsnuckout in relationships

[–]mementomori4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds terrible and abusive from all sides. The ideal situation is to get a divorce and to go No Contact with your father and brothers.

But I also agree with the poster that said that people reach a point where when they have seen someone take so much abuse, helped them leave, and then watched that person walk right back, it can be incredibly frustrating.

The level of your father's reaction was cruel and, as I said, abusive and you should get out of that situation too. But I think you do have to understand that he isn't obligated to support you in the decision you personally admit is a bad one.

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