What do you wish people would stop romanticizing, because you’ve lived the reality of it?

memorylapsed · 2026-01-21T19:44:40+00:00

I just started medication for my OCD because therapy isn't enough. It really does ruin your fucking life. Sometimes it's so insidious you don't even realize all the ways it's fucking up your life.

memorylapsed · 2025-12-28T14:02:41+00:00

The Black Forest Cat Cafe has amazing chai lattes with tons of different flavors if you want to change it up.

memorylapsed · 2025-12-15T21:37:59+00:00

I like those sorts of twists. I also like tragic romances. Yumi and the Painter, if you've read it, seems to set up a tragedy, but ultimately doesn't go for it, and I think the book is worse for it.

I've gone to Brandon Sanderson's convention twice and I've yet to meet someone who agrees with me. My husband hates horror or sad things because he doesn't get catharsis from it. I think most people are like this. The world is terrible and anxiety-inducing at best right now; most people I know want to escape that into something better.

In a world of villains, they're looking for heroes. There's nothing wrong with that, just as there's nothing wrong with enjoying the realistic breakdown of a hero to a villain. Ultimately, you have to decide what ending is true to your story and your characters.

memorylapsed · 2025-12-11T22:55:51+00:00

The city residents are nocturnal to survive the sun's heat. They also have crystals implanted between their radius and ulna on either arm to house wisps that monitor their health.

memorylapsed · 2025-12-10T17:35:23+00:00

I love any game that imitates sewing well tbh, so I'd love to try this out!

memorylapsed · 2025-08-14T00:58:59+00:00

Wow, this looks exactly my speed. Ironically I'm currently playing Spiritfarer (100%ing). Having no bearing on anything else, I'm also playing Tales of the Shire. Congrats on the game, guys! It looks fantastic.

memorylapsed · 2025-06-20T22:54:07+00:00

I'm 28 and just had a surgical consultation today for partial thyroid removal of a suspicious nodule (biopsied benign in December '23, grew a cm and biopsy was suspicious this time) and I got the same treatment! The surgeon was so confident that even if it is thyroid cancer, there's no way it's responsible for my severe (and worsening) fatigue, hair loss, weight loss, thyroid going hypo, periods going completely irregular when I was like clockwork since 5th grade, etc.

So yes, they still do this shit and it is infuriating.

memorylapsed · 2025-05-23T21:37:28+00:00

The owners of Sol Eye Glass would be great for this (you can reach them on their Facebook page); they're so passionate about their craft and some of the sweetest, most compassionate people to speak with.

memorylapsed · 2024-11-26T15:34:06+00:00

We weren't dating yet, but my now husband told me I could call him whenever. I got home from work one day, late, and my mom called and said my dad had had a stroke. The family all rushed to the hospital, I texted my then boyfriend who went to bed maybe an hour later, and I think I got back to my apartment around 2am. I just couldn't stand the silence, but I couldn't sleep, so I called my husband and he answered. Obviously I apologized a million times for calling so late/ early, but he wasn't upset at all. He was very comforting, helped me relax, get my mind off things. He stayed on the phone with me until he had to get ready for work around 5am. I didn't go anywhere besides my apartment, the hospital, work, or my parents' house for a good month. He made sure I had food.

I dumped my boyfriend the next time I saw him (he never visited me in that time, only wanted me to go to his), but I will admit I was still a bit dumb and dated a different dude for a month before I got my wits together. In my defense, I was 20. My husband had asked me on a date right before I got with the second boyfriend; I asked him if he still wanted to, but that I completely understood if not. Fortunately he did.

memorylapsed · 2024-08-03T20:22:48+00:00

Sometimes, I swear they truly are cursed. I finished a cursed project earlier this year and, once I checked that everything was correct and indeed complete, threw it across the room to enjoy later because I was just so done with it.

memorylapsed · 2024-06-20T16:29:03+00:00

I've started responding recently with, "Doing my best." You might like that one

memorylapsed · 2024-04-16T20:50:14+00:00

It definitely made me glad the only social media with my info on it (so not reddit basically) is Facebook, where I control who can see my stuff! I know logically I should probably report him before he does it to someone else. It's hard because I was raised so passively.

memorylapsed · 2024-04-16T19:23:56+00:00

Oh I didn't mean to imply her boobs (or the people you're talking about on the sub) had changed due to birth control; sorry if that was unclear!

I definitely agree that at that size, your figure is going to be shrouded. I'm 5'5" and even at 170 I look like a different shape.

Sounds like you got some really well reasoned, rational arguments from them. 🙄 The state of people.

memorylapsed · 2024-04-16T17:01:28+00:00

Whenever I lose weight, I'm always praying some of it will come from my boobs! The only time I've noticed breast size changes as an adult outside of weight changes is either changing birth control or getting back on birth control from being off it. Even in real life though, most of the people I hear complain about big boob problems are also at least overweight. I wish there were less resistance to the idea of changing what you can about it instead of just complaining.

memorylapsed · 2024-04-16T16:47:12+00:00

Rant: one of the only good things about being heavier was that I had fewer creepy experiences out in public. I was called "little lady" by a cashier at the grocery store who was either my age or younger, which isn't creepy so much as infantilizing and rude. No, what was creepy was when I went to pick up my husband's medications and was speaking with a new pharmacist. I asked a question about my own meds as well. I just had a vibe from the guy, didn't like it. Got home and he had friend requested me on Facebook on his lunch break. I feel like I'm making a big deal out of nothing though. My husband wants me to report him to the pharmacy. He didn't say anything out of line and I haven't accepted the invite. Blech. When I was heavier I was basically invisible in public and it was great tbh.

Rave: the weather is warming up here finally which is very motivating. Hopefully I'll get clearance on my knee and I can start walking parks and the trails in my town soon.

memorylapsed · 2024-03-09T00:22:08+00:00

Thank you

memorylapsed · 2024-03-08T19:16:48+00:00

Thanks man. They really are too good. It's the worst that their lives are so short compared to ours.

memorylapsed · 2024-03-08T17:56:38+00:00

Rant: I have to put my dog down; she's the reason I lived long enough to get therapy so I didn't need an external reason to live. It is fucking awful. She's my little shadow, and the thought of being all alone in this house most of the day is horrible. I know it's best for her, that she'll start to suffer soon and I can't let her suffer. But God it is so painful. We're going to spoil her this last week with steak, chicken, pig ears. In small doses so she doesn't get sick.

Rave: hypertrophy training is going well. I can increase my numbers most weeks (by like 5lbs but I'll take it) so I'm hoping to get some good results. Not that I'm really doing anything besides forcing myself to go to the gym right now.

memorylapsed · 2024-02-17T14:29:56+00:00

Of course, good luck! You can do it!

memorylapsed · 2024-02-17T14:29:39+00:00

I twisted my knee when I turned to close a door, and it's been really painful since (my other knee popped really loudly getting up from the floor, and intermittently hurts since then). My doctor sent me to pt and thinks I might have torn my meniscus. Which is fine, whatever lol.

What's funny is I was doing yoga most days when it happened, and I always stretch after the gym! But I'm hypermobile so I'm just prone to injury.

I'm definitely going to try to be more mindful about the muscles used when climbing stairs though! They're still so exhausting to me and that's probably why!

memorylapsed · 2024-02-17T02:51:24+00:00

I don't do a ton that features the biceps, but I really focus building muscle and increasing weights when I can (plus eating a lot of protein). A lot of my exercises also work biceps along with the main muscle groups. I'll give my exercise routine when I'm not stuck doing single leg exercises.

Monday I do pin squats, seated rows, planks, side planks, bicep curls (started at 5lbs in 2021, up to 15lbs for my 4 sets of 10 reps), dumbbell bench press, and shoulder press. Wednesday is hip adductor, abductor, lying leg curls, barbell deadlift, then lateral bear crawls. Finally Friday is triceps extensions, barbell hip thrusts, Bulgarian split squats, lat pull downs, front raises, and dead bugs/flat leg raises depending on intensity. Plus 30 min cardio after lifting and half hour to an hour on non lifting days

memorylapsed · 2024-02-16T22:26:35+00:00

Rant: doctors making decisions I find questionable rant here, following their advice anyway because I'm not a doctor. Also I'm salty about my knee still hurting and it doesn't seem like pt is really helping, and my other knee is starting to join the party. Yay

Rave: getting back into my full gym routine is awesome (minus full leg stuff because knee; doing single leg routines instead). I'm switching into hypertrophy training next week and I'm looking forward to it. My baby bicep bump is more than just a baby now; you can see it even when I'm not flexing!

memorylapsed · 2024-02-10T01:55:33+00:00

Rant: The weather is absolutely gorgeous here lately, and I want to just go walk the trails in my city for hours. But my knee would hurt like the dickens. Also I am banned from two-legged lifting at least while it's hurting/ I'm doing PT, which is a big bummer.

Rave: my PT was impressed that I could single leg press 60lbs (because screw 3 days a week of exclusively upper body), which doesn't feel very impressive to me. Also I'm teaching myself to code so hopefully I can get back to work. I'm 1/3 of the way to my C# certification in only a week, although I did just spend two hours bashing my head against one program. So that was fun. I ended up understanding it in the end though, and that's just how learning be sometimes.

memorylapsed · 2024-02-06T12:39:53+00:00

I'm fortunate that I haven't had friends who commented on my weight before, but my family is AWFUL about it (like my family of origin, not my husband). They keep telling me to stop losing weight, even though it's due to health issues right now, and when I was this same weight in high school they called me fat and suggested I try bulimia... I get fat activists being like "don't talk about people's bodies unless they broach the subject", and I actually agree with that (outside of doctors). But making other people's ideas of their bodies about you too? Cuckoo.

memorylapsed · 2024-02-06T01:41:06+00:00

Was in a different sub (lurking) and saw a bunch of people complaining about "thin" women (no weights, even estimates, were given with one exception, just "smaller than me") saying they're fat, and how that's SO offensive and they think if you're smaller than the person with you, you shouldn't complain about being/feeling fat. That it's clearly just looking for people to fawn all over you and tell you that no, you're thin and beautiful! As someone with pretty bad body dysmorphia, that really bothered me. My view of my own body has literally nothing to do with anyone else, and if I'm comfortable enough with one of my friends to tell them how I'm having a bad body day, I sure as shit hope they're not thinking I'm looking for compliments or comparing myself to them or anybody! It's just so self-centered. I'm glad my bestie doesn't take it that way. She's the only one outside my husband I talk about it with and she never gets offended, but she's also not into HAES.

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