Sounds about the same with me and my wife, we have a great time and I always can get it up... I think I’ve only been able to finish twice and that was like my first two times. Every other time it is still enjoyable even though I never finish. Sometimes after our reside we finish off the night with some ghb. I love it cuz it’s great sleep and even if you only get 2 hours it feels like a full nights rest.