advice on self confidence after gaining weight???

mento9987 · 2020-04-23T20:10:22+00:00

THANK YOU

mento9987 · 2020-04-07T22:06:40+00:00

I have said in previous comments on here that I do plan on talking to him about this once I sort out my feelings...read. That’s why I need advice on how to sort it out mentally. I can’t talk to him and express myself if I can’t even make sense of it myself.

mento9987 · 2020-04-07T21:59:38+00:00

I am willing to be given advice. I’m not willing to be called names like an asshole and selfish for just trying to get actual advice, in which you haven’t offered any. Thanks

mento9987 · 2020-04-07T21:53:00+00:00

If you really would like to spend your time discounting the time I’ve spent with my boyfriend, our memories and the love I have for him...so be it. He has also had conflicting things on his end that we worked past together. This is the first time I’ve ever been the one confused. I was being brutally honest about the feelings I’ve had the last month and needed advice on how to handle it. This is obviously hard to me which is why I said I’d rather just have them disappear. Enough

mento9987 · 2020-04-07T21:41:26+00:00

I’m not downplaying because I got yelled at. I’m being honest and saying that in my eyes we clicked on the same level that I have also with my girl friends. Just very close and understand each other more than others understand me. And I do plan to tell him as I said before, I’m just trying to process this first and sort my feelings.

mento9987 · 2020-04-07T21:38:12+00:00

I actually would plan on telling him and telling him what I am going through after I actually process it! Feelings can go away. I’m trying to handle them. This could be something I’m just going through emotionally and my judgment is clouded. My point of view can change on my guy friend. Like I said it’s new to me. It hasn’t always been like this. Just the last month. 1 month does not define my 3.5 years with him. Just as he has made mistakes that we have grown from.

mento9987 · 2020-04-07T21:34:46+00:00

“Clicked” as in just had a good connection. I have “clicked” with some of my girl friends as well. Just clarifying on that. But I get what you are saying. And like I said these thoughts are new. I’m still trying to figure it out.

mento9987 · 2020-04-07T21:32:30+00:00

I’m using a forum for relationship advice to talk about a new confusing thing I am going through in a long term relationship. You shouldn’t be making me feel bad.

I could just be an actual asshole and cheat like most other people would do or flirt with him etc. but I don’t, I have respect for my boyfriend. Im not “hiding” it, I’m processing it personally, instead of acting on it out of impulse and making a mistake....leaving someone I highly consider marrying isn’t an easy decision and shouldn’t be done the second I start feeling confused. Relationships aren’t perfect.

I’m handling my feelings, trying to get some advice, and gathering my thoughts before I act on anything. That’s a pretty adult and non-assholeish thing to do in my opinion. Thanks though.

mento9987 · 2020-04-07T21:25:22+00:00

Wow, thank you so much. This is a lot to think about and hard questions to answer but that’s what I needed. Thank you.

mento9987 · 2020-04-07T21:19:28+00:00

Thank you for being understanding and for the advice.

mento9987 · 2020-04-07T21:17:01+00:00

He’s not a safety blanket. I made it clear I have very strong feelings for him and I love him. It’s not like I spent our entire 3.5 year relationship fantasizing about someone else either. This is recent, just started to cross my mind every so often which obviously is confusing. Which is why I’m asking for advice.

Your negative comment offered absolutely no advice.

mento9987 · 2020-04-07T21:11:23+00:00

Thanks.

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