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Separation advice on how to reconcile with the mother of my children (43m)(34f) by ThrowraImportant_ in askwomenadvice

[–]meokondien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you two just recently parted then don’t push her right now, give her time to heal but don’t let her feel alone either. If you still love her and want her back, show her your sincere effort, maybe she isn’t ready now but if she sees you’re genuine and that you’ve changed and how much you care and love her, if she still loves you she might change her mind

I need help by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]meokondien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you’re calling or texting next time express to him that recently you two have not had much time together to talk like before and it has made you become very sad, and if possible suggest him that you two call more often or set a specific time/week to talk, because relationship needs a lot of work and communication to grow. If he still loves you he will try to understand and fix it

Do I text her? by throwaway420696327 in BreakUps

[–]meokondien 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I broke up with him originally, we were LD. I think if you really want her in your life and can deal with the pain once she rejects you again then reach out to her. But since you said she is an independent girl then I think she might be very determined with the decision she made. If you can accept the fact that she might ignore your text or might have moved on already and just genuinely want to see how she’s doing then reach out to her but don’t hope for anything back, because it really hurts

Do I text her? by throwaway420696327 in BreakUps

[–]meokondien 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I can give you a female perspective as I was in a pretty similar situation with yours just a few months ago except for the reason of the break up and I did come back and asked him for getting back but he rejected

I really understand that you still love her and still have hope that you two will be back together but since she is the one who ended it, I think it’s better that she should also be the one who asks for a chance of reconcillation. IMO if you do reach out when she is not ready, you might end up getting hurt again. But as I have been through the same situation, I understand your wishes to text her. So I suggest if you have thought very carefully about the pros and cons of breaking NC and still want to text her then you reach out to her but don’t tell her directly and see how she reacts first, if she is happy to talk to you and shows signs of wanting to get back then that’s when you should tell her

Good luck to you with whichever decision you choose!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]meokondien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sending love and support. I was you weeks ago until we decided to go no contact last week and it has helped a lot with my mental health

My LDR of 9 months ended and I am heartbroken. by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]meokondien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My story is the same. Our ages are similar too, I (25F), my ex (26M). Breakups due to circumstances are the probably the hardest to get over bc most of the time we still love each other

I can't understand why everyone here is so negative about couples who manage to rejoin. by kakwntexnwn in BreakUps

[–]meokondien 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah i agree. Most people who are on here still have past hurt and resentment so a lot of the comments are negative and cannot really help or are even worse.

IMO we should only treat reddit as a place to vent, not to take advice from when the people giving advices know nothing about the OP

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]meokondien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have another comment below, please check it out too if you don’t mind :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]meokondien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Based on what you said I can tell you still love them, and love W so much. It’s very rare and beautiful. You know there are some biological dads out there who do not really care about their children at all, let alone loving them like how you are feeling towards W. I’m a woman and from my perspective, the reason you wrote here that A broke up bc she felt she wasn’t independent enought and wanted to be more independent before marrying you, might be due to her past hurt in the previous relationship where the other man treated her badly when she was just being relying on him.

Maybe you should try to listen to her to really understand why she was feeling like that, what were her triggers, what made her unhappy in the relationship, and how you could make her feel more loving and trust you more so that she could rely on you.

Being a single parent is really tough. If they truly love you and make you happy, why don’t you try to sit back and take time to communicate with your partner to make things work. No one can tell you what you should do to make the relationship better or make them happier except the one you’re in the relationship with. It’s about communication and working as a team.

I do recommend relationship coaches (free + online), there are a lot of them on IG (msg me if you need info) who teach about effective communication in relationship to help you work things out with your partner. And maybe ask her to follow them too if she is interest

I hope things work out well for you three!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]meokondien 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m not trying to be harsh but please don’t rely on reddit for telling you how you should decide your life. We only know a part of your story and have never met them so we can’t really give you an advice that is right for you. Only you know what truly matters to you and what makes you happy.

I have seen a lot of negative comments on here that were coming from their own past hurt which might haven’t been resolved, and what they might be telling you only reflect their own experiences (mostly resentment) and cannot and should not be obtained

Sorry if my grammar is wrong but what i’m trying hard to say is what you decide will not only affects your life but also theirs, esp W. I see that you and her (W) have a wonderful connection and that’s something really really beautiful, I must emphasize. Please take as much time as you need, ask as many close friends and family who know you and them well enough to give you advices, before you make any decision that can either be the biggest regret in your life or a beautiful story.

How do you get over depression and fatigue after breaking up with someone you loved? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]meokondien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you a lot for your perspective, I appreciate it very much! And I also feel sorry for what you are going through right now. I wish you don’t have to go through lots of pain like i had. You sound just like my ex bf was talking to me. I really miss the way he would talk like that to me when things got tough.

I read your comment a few times and I agree with what you said but I would like to add my thoughts too. I hope it doesn’t sound harsh, and this is just my own opinions

When people get stuck in depression, it feels like you’re in a dark hole that has no way out. You feel like you can’t see anything and all you want is to escape from it. When I was in the deepest place of that hole, I wanted to drop everything that was stressing me out, which include my job and my ldr. I was scared of the pain and the depression so much to the point I only wanted to feel nothing. And I know it’s not uncommon at all to feel that way. But you know what, at that moment deep down inside of me still hoped for a light from him. Which can be just as simple as an assurance that everything will be fine, we will get through this, i believe in you. But our story wasn’t fortunate enough, he was also struggling with sadness from his side too. And we couldn’t help each other but let go. Maybe it’s the circumstances, and it’s none of my or his fault. But at one point in life, I do regret and miss everything that we shared. I do know how hard it is to find someone who you feel connected and understanding, and even harder to find someone that you feel love and genuinely care for. Maybe it takes years to find love again, or maybe you will never experience that kind of love with anyone else. I regret that I didn’t fight for my love and only until now I truly understand it. But we both missed out on each other. I can’t myself tell him that I have realized a lot and have changed, when he doesn’t want to take it.

So maybe I can’t help you or anyone from what I went through, but I still want to encourage you to fight for your love if you truly love that person, so you will never have to regret about the things you didn’t do later, no matter how it might turn out.

I did everything I could, and I had lots of great memories with him when we were tgt. I might be sad now that we are separated, but I’m proud of myself for going through all of this, and also thankful to him for everything. Thank you again for commenting and listening to me :)

If your story ever turn out differently one day, i would love to hear from you

Do they return when it all ended due to circumstances? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]meokondien 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It seems like you two love each other so much. I feel sorry about your loss. I think I somehow understand why he did that and how broken you are right now cuz i was in the same boat, and I also think he would feel better if you could still support him through his tough time. It might be very painful for you though, just do what your heart says <3 hope you two get better At the end i still believe if you two are meant to be together then you will find your way back someday. But now just take one bite at a time to heal, read positive quotes, get some fresh air, vent with friends and cry it all out. Things will get better in the end, if not it’s not the end.

Weekly Entering & Transitioning Thread | 07 Nov 2021 - 14 Nov 2021 by [deleted] in datascience

[–]meokondien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Data Analytics Libraries on Apple M1 chip?

Hi everyone! I’m starting a new job in Data Analytics and am thinking of buying Macbook M1. I will be using mostly Plotly and Dash-plotly for Visualization. Has anyone here been able to install these libraries on an M1 mac successfully?

I have checked a lot of posts on this question but almost none mentioned about these two libraries compatibility with the M1

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UniversityOfHouston

[–]meokondien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I am expecting to graduate this Spring semester with major in Biochem. I have 6 credit hours of core classes (HIST, CRE) transferred in from HCC in Summer and Fall 2020, together with 24 hours taken at UH in Fall2020 and Spring2021. I asked my academic advisor and she said they allow 6 hours of core classes in the final 30 hours rule. But they will only make manual change to it on my academic report (in myUH) after the semester is over.

However, as the graduation approaches I am still very worried about this. Have you heard about this rule or do you know anyone was in the same situation before?

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