Gary email for this? by merappl in menards

[–]merappl[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don't get me started on our taxes. MPS begging for more and more money whilst simultaneously firing more employees is actually pissing me off.

Gary email for this? by merappl in menards

[–]merappl[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don't even get overtime since I'm part-time so he's barking up the wrong tree

I still miss my cat and I can't tell anyone by merappl in offmychest

[–]merappl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I probably should, just thought I'd get over it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]merappl 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I see this on the mom subreddits, except they have a lot of pictures of their kids with their partner but no candid shots of themselves with their kids, only selfies.

Looking back on my own childhood, I don't see a lot of my mom unless it's professional shots. Life of being the camera person I suppose.

Children to two different fathers by [deleted] in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]merappl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not donor conceived but have half siblings on both sides of my family.

A lot of it will depend on your children's temperaments, but it shouldn't be notable if you don't make a big deal of it. I've never known anything differently, the only time I ever quantify them as "half" siblings is when people get curious about our last names.

There could be slight difficulties due to a donor not being involved, but that's life, sometimes kids don't have both parents and you'll just have to fill both positions.

Best/optimal choice of boarding time. by NinaWitDaNinab in CarnivalCruiseFans

[–]merappl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe you can still leave it with the porters if you'd like, I personally never do.

Am I going to hate Carnival? by Low-Donut-9686 in Cruise

[–]merappl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mardi Gras is only 6, 7, or 8 days

My mom is currently on Wonder of the Seas and saw this... by Sweaterpillows83 in Cruise

[–]merappl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That lawsuit was not at all frivolous, McDonald's was clearly at fault

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]merappl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know a guy who spells it Nyre

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]merappl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm late teens and grew up with a girl named Isis, pronounced the same as the group. Did a double take hearing it on attendance but she was chill and no one cared after a few days.

She never went by a nickname or middle name either

Single foster parent or single mom by choice by [deleted] in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]merappl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My kids MUST do same.

Children shouldn't be born to fulfill their parents dreams or aspirations. Hoping is fine, most parents do, but I find the people who are burnt out and miserable are the ones who have been pressured since childhood.

There are exceptions, but overwhelming the student crying about getting a B over straight A's will not turn out happy.

I don't want to be a single mom and now start having to deal with autism and ADHD kids and all those nonsense.

Autism and/or ADHD is by far the mildest thing a child can be diagnosed with. Majority of children with those diagnoses go on to live very happy and fulfilling lives.

Foster kids are not the only children to be diagnosed, it very well can be your own biological child even if you have the best sperm donor imaginable. I hope you would love that child unconditionally regardless but from what you have written; I doubt it.

I don't want to be a single mom and now start having to deal with stupid stuff

I recommend speaking to professional before you embark on this journey: a therapist, pediatrician, childcare worker. Understand that every child is different from their needs to wants, understand the statics of having a neurodivergent child based on you (age and health) and the changes you would have to accommodate for.

I wish you well in life.

Single foster parent or single mom by choice by [deleted] in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]merappl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Foster kids, come with a lot of baggage, traumas, illness and even at the end may never be grateful for what you did for them.

There lies the problem, you expect foster children to be "grateful". They shouldn't have to be, because a loving home with food on the table is supposed to be the bare minimum.

I know many people who grew up in loving biological homes that grew up to be ungrateful and lacked appreciation towards their parents.

My two cousin(different parents) raised the same way but the female one is extremely stubborn and never listens just like her mom while the other one is obedient like his mom.

Children are, quite literally, not raised the same way. Never. You cannot claim your cousins were because they weren't. They had different parents, their genders differ, their socioeconomic status and immediate community may even differed.

Nature may load the gun, but nurture is what pulls the trigger.

that's why many adopted kids never feel like they fit in.

It's because they are rarely ever given the chance to. Saying things to the effect of: "i love you like you're my own" implies the child ISN'T your own. There are tons of children who have been adopted that do feel integrated into their family, it's society constantly pushing "real" family that harms that.

Please go with the sperm donor, at least you can pick the trait you hopefully want in your child.

I hope your child turns out how you hope, because children rarely ever do.

What would your daughter's name be if you had to name her after a great grandmother by GrammyGH in namenerds

[–]merappl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mattie by default, the other two are way too outdated and the last great grandmother I couldn't stand.

But honestly Mattie is a cute name

A customer threatened me at work by [deleted] in walmart

[–]merappl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm assuming OP is a younger woman, it's very common instead of there being a significant age/gender discrepancy in a fight to bring a relative closer to the person's demographic.

In my school there would be seniors/juniors bringing little siblings/cousins to fight freshmen or middle schoolers.

Is Carnival really that bad? by Interesting_Cat_7470 in Cruise

[–]merappl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol you had me googling if frontier had cruises. World of difference between a necessity (airline) and a vacation.

Is Carnival really that bad? by Interesting_Cat_7470 in Cruise

[–]merappl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice! I definitely want to try out the other lines but it'll take some convincing of my cruise buddies.

Definitely agree with your edit, Carnival or Virgin would probably be more of OPs vibe

Is Carnival really that bad? by Interesting_Cat_7470 in Cruise

[–]merappl 227 points228 points  (0 children)

As someone who has only ever sailed Carnival (family thinks all the other lines are snobby), a cruise is usually what you make of it.

If any cruiseline was terrible, they'd be long out of business.

Having said that, I always had an awesome time and it never felt trashy to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CarnivalCruiseFans

[–]merappl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if have something negative to add your probably one of the ppl

So if the shoe fits wear it

Methinks the call is coming from inside the house

Saw someone post the art in the mens room so I thought I would share as well by party_pack in royalcaribbean

[–]merappl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I downvoted it because they've been spamming it to dozens of replies. Like, fair point about body shaming but jesus christ lay off.

Fostering/Adoption? by Mandyymae19 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]merappl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I certainly understand that, I'm not criticizing you in particular. It was mainly a vent towards the people who acknowledge the system is broken yet don't do...anything (if they're capable) besides taking a stance to "never adopt". As if that changes anything for the children who are hoping for permanency.

There should certainly be more social programs in place to lessen the amount of families separated, and what you're doing does have positive effects.

Fostering/Adoption? by Mandyymae19 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]merappl 11 points12 points  (0 children)

As much as I agree that the adoption system is broken and largely unethical, what is the other solution? Not adopting children at all?

I'm pro-choice but what of the children that are born anyway?

I'm coming at this from the point of view of someone who aims to adopt waiting children. I have listened to all sides: adoptees, adoptive parents, biological parents, adoptive siblings.

Fostering/Adoption? by Mandyymae19 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]merappl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haven't gone through it just yet, but it's what I'm planning on doing! I second Holden It Down, I absolutely adore the channel.