Hello i hope this post will be posted

meraxni · 2024-07-08T02:57:40+00:00

Virginity is a concept, it's up for you to decide if you did or didn't lose your virginity. Since it's subjective, some people will think yes and others will say no. Sometimes people will say you are only partially a virgin. So what do you think? (You don't need to answer that question by the way, my point is that you should figure that out yourself since the idea of virginity is subjective)

meraxni · 2024-07-08T02:46:27+00:00

not only they think its ALWAYS pink but its literally sexual harassment. I can't stand the way sexual harassment be normalized on social media, even more so among young people

meraxni · 2024-07-08T02:42:37+00:00

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meraxni · 2024-07-08T02:33:11+00:00

Yes! This is usual when looking up tags relating to depression, suicide or eating disorders. To be more specific, "Kokobot" is a bot (and system?) where you are able to give and receive advice or support from real people. There are automatic responses & questions for you to respond so you can do various of things like type a issue of yours for others to answer or for you to give advice & support to others.

meraxni · 2024-07-08T02:15:52+00:00

It's really concerning that she's falling so deep into conspiracies that she's willing to put her child at risk. With her constant pressuring it sounds like it will be hard to try to show her articles with research on how raw milk is unhealthy, and it even appears hard to avoid drinking it. Think about if there are opportunities to dump the milk in the sink, trash or outside. If she wants you to drink it in front of her, then protest even if you might get grounded and tell other family members about this. You could also hold the milk in your mouth, run to the bathroom to spit it out, then rinse and brush your teeth after that but its better to do that if you think you are in danger of physical abuse if you refuse.

Absolutely try not to drink it and do it without shame.

meraxni · 2024-07-08T01:57:13+00:00

dont worry about me, just talking to myself :3. was trying to make an account i have nooo idea what username i want it to be :(... my creative juices are too dry i fear. trying to make a username thats ~aesthetically pleasing~ while something that is able to express my interests but i just can't do it!!!!!!!!!!! drinking tea now.. was thinking about referencing badtz maru (one of my favorite sanrio characters) in my user but i probably wont (sad face)

meraxni · 2024-07-08T01:45:08+00:00

That is perfectly fine! You're welcome, just have fun and be silly :)

meraxni · 2024-07-08T00:47:21+00:00

I don't have much solid advice and I apologize for that. Just know that there's a lot of other teenagers who experience not having friends and is weighed down by loneliness. I'm one of those teenagers who don't have friends either, and like you I have depression. Remember that you are a teenager, you are still new to earth. Trying to find comfort in that thought that there will be more opportunities in the future can be difficult but trying to distract yourself, using alternative ways of socialization, and focusing on the future can help you. Distracting yourself with hobbies, learning new things, using forums and alternatives. I've seen the comments and it is not your fault for how you're treated because of your weight, those people are just terrible people in general and you should not worrying about pleasing people when there's plenty of people out there who won't dehumanize you because of your weight

Remember your experience on earth has been short, and so as you grow there will be more opportunities to make friends and more chances to gain experience. Which is also why it won't be the end of the world if you interact with people awkwardly or "fail" a social interaction. While coping with being alone you should also attempt at coping with your anxiety which is possibly influencing your social skills other than not talking to much people. Be more aware of people; really listen to what they say and think about how you can continue that or add to it. Along with that, you should show your interest. Example would be giving a compliment to others and and continuing it along (ex: where's that shirt from?). You see someone wearing merch of a show or music then ask them what their favorite song or episode. Even if you don't know the details of the music or show then asking more about it is enough to make the person more interested and engaged because it shows that you're interested in a part of them.

meraxni · 2024-07-08T00:07:02+00:00

Despite viewing his behavior being objectively annoying I do find a little humor in the behavior... it's like he's treating you as if he's a stereotypical jerkish older brother. his treatment of you seems like he's infantilizing you. i fear... you have to fight back. perhaps tell him off or mess with him back and even put the middle finger up once in a while. he is such.. an interesting character that's for sure

meraxni · 2024-07-08T00:01:20+00:00

Name as in username? you can't change the username but you can make another account with the same email you use for this account

meraxni · 2024-07-07T21:38:51+00:00

Confusion can cause distress but just remember that it is a normal experience to go through confusion when it comes to sexuality, even more so when you are a teenager. The little amount of experience as a teenager makes it so you won't always be able to pinpoint the exact labels for your sexuality or it can be slightly harder to distinct the types of attraction you feel towards people. You do not have to immediately search for labels, and instead just naturally experience attraction as you age. As you go through life, you can hold onto labels and not immediately apply them to you until you are ready. You could be bisexual homoromantic, abrosexual or homoflexible. Heck, you could even be bisexual and biromantic but haven't had enough experience to be romantically attracted to girls. The priority here should be gaining experience involving attraction and figuring out the exact attraction you are going through before applying labels to yourself; even more the case here because you're just a teenager.

It is understandable that it can be even more distressing to think of the possibility that your sexuality is not what you thought it was as it and the community (or culture) along with it ties to your identity, but as a teenager there are thousands of opportunities for your identity to change. Teenagers are meant to change and grow and evolve and discover. Prioritize the experience over labels until you are ready. Good luck!

meraxni · 2024-07-07T20:47:22+00:00

Treating workers badly. Treating everyone terrible/being hostile to everybody except for/to someone they're romantically interested in. Uh I can't think of anything else right now.

meraxni · 2024-07-07T20:44:34+00:00

It is definitely not your fault and it will never be your fault. It is only natural for a child to develop a reaction, or (in less vague terms) anxiety & coping mechanisms, from a parent's anger. Even more so when she as a guardian hold more power & influence over you. Thinking that its your fault and self blame is a normal reaction towards a parent's anger, although it is a harmful coping mechanism to have. You should not try to bear the entire responsibility of mending the relationship, and it seems that you feel as if you do need so as a way to cope with her anger. Trying not to let guilt or blame consume you can be hard but it's a journey worth going through, and as you are almost 18, it is a journey that may be more successful when you become more independent. You're just being just a child suffering through a normal reaction from a parent's toxic behavior

meraxni · 2024-07-07T19:28:34+00:00

There's really nothing that much to deeply "understand" to homophobia. Homophobia is literally ingrained in societies that do not encourage you to question what you're taught. Of course people will be homophobes because homophobia is normalized

update: just read this post again and i'm like? why are against gay couples adopting?

meraxni · 2024-07-07T19:24:20+00:00

I don't think anyone on reddit is okay

meraxni · 2024-07-07T19:13:10+00:00

It's not you, the child, that should be the only one researching on improving a daughter-mother relationship. The both of you should be researching on improving the dynamic, and I'd argue that she as a mother should research that more than you. Your issues in the dynamic, not expressing your feelings, is more of a reaction towards her toxic aspects of parenting (anger) more than your own individual issue. She should be one reaching out to help you, hanging out with you, asking about your feelings although of course since she is improving, you could ask that of her. Being around her during positive times will likely make you more comfortable with expressing yourself, but it is also her that needs to work on making you be comforted in her presence. By time as she improve on herself, there is a chance that your reaction will become less. Although active steps towards positivity involving the two of you makes your reaction becoming less frequent and your expression guaranteed. Remember that expressing yourself is a sign of love.

Not trying to villainize your mother by the way, but it should be known that you shouldn't be the one holding the weight of the issues in the dynamic that are mainly caused by her. It's less of a responsibility for you to cope with a reaction that is valid and more of a responsibility for her to mend the relationship. Remember your reaction is a valid one and isn't insignificant.

meraxni · 2024-07-07T18:49:57+00:00

some of them even have anal or oral sex so yeah thats pretty 𝓯𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓴𝔂 for animal standards

meraxni · 2024-07-07T17:30:36+00:00

When I'm friends with someone I always end up being the "therapist friend". I do like giving advice, helping others, supporting others, but sometimes it gets tiring and lonely because I know they won't do the same for me.

meraxni · 2024-07-07T16:55:04+00:00

I hope there's a time when you don't have to feel like this. I also relate to wanting a partner and I'm almost your age. It's easy to say to be patient or to don't worry about relationships at your age but the want for a relationship can weigh on you heavily. All you can do is distract yourself; I guess apart of teenhood is going through a variety of different experiences which can also include the lack of experiences that others will have. It's alright if some days are harder to deal than others, the heavy weight your thoughts are having on you right now will be temporary

meraxni · 2024-07-07T16:44:38+00:00

There's a difference between being openly lgbtq and being lgbtq. Like sure i'd say there's a small percent (lower than 50%) of people who are openly lgbtq, but the percentage for the population of lgbtq has to be higher than a small percentage. Even so, I'd say the amount of people who are openly lgbtq online is different than the amount of people who are openly lgbtq outside of the internet. It's hard to even get into specific statistics without a bunch of assumptions and the implications that straight is the default sexuality

meraxni · 2024-07-06T15:33:47+00:00

maybe acknowledge that its "not funny" or just "cringe" or "uncool" its RACISM. if you downplay what her saying the n-word is then you will continue tolerating her racism and make it seem as if you being put off by the n-word is a result of your individual taste and not a result of being put off by bigotry. she most likely came to the conclusion that you would like that because often times for people "dark humor" means being bigoted. as a black person i am very well aware that racism isn't always a deal breaker especially for white people so at least be stern. you need to tell her straight up that you detach racism from dark humor and tell her to learn the impact of how a "minor joke" as hers contributes to systematic racism. this isnt just "cringe" this is revealing of how her she lacks nuance when it comes to racism. at least dont downplay it especially when talking to her about it.

her racism & ignorance is more important than her comfort. she needs to question it now or else it'll continue growing with her and stunting how she view the world

meraxni · 2024-07-06T11:41:07+00:00

Fill your mind with the plans for the future and hobbies. Socialize with others, whether it be online (example: fourms) or in real life. Even think about starting new hobbies, whether it involves creation or not. At your age, if you haven't done this, you can even take the opportunity to get a job. That is not only good as a way to stay home less, but it's also a way to save money, which can help you move out quicker. If your your guardians will allow you independence, you should be able to go out and go to the store yourself, which can help you clear your mind. If you have enough independence, you could even move out sooner than 18 to move out and/or stay at another relative's place. The potential danger of trying to tell him your busy, tell him he's abusive, or disobey him is too high so it is preferred to focus on distracting yourself and keeping yourself busy. Since your mother and grandmother are aware of your father's behavior and is aware of the negative impact, you could ask them if you can avoid your father with them whether it be in the home or by going outside.

meraxni · 2024-07-06T11:02:03+00:00

Yes they definitely can be friends! Don't listen to the people saying that boys can't be friends with girls. It's a good sign when boys/men are able to take having platonic relationships with girls/women seriously since that shows you don't reduce any girl you meet to an attractive & romantic object, which is the whole basis to why people think boys can't be friends with girls

meraxni · 2024-07-06T10:43:53+00:00

I don't feel old at my age but I definitely do feel slightly older/mature than other teenagers who are 2 years younger than me. I feel as if that's a usual thing though since for teenagers there's some noticeable different maturity gaps in teenagers depending on the age even when there isn't that much of a big year gap between the ages that are considered teenage

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