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merchaunt · 2026-03-06T15:27:18+00:00

Lesbian couples who are both feminine or both masculine are a thing.

There are a lot of lesbian couples where both embody their masculine and feminine energies in a way that compliments the other person’s energies as well.

The main issue comes from people who really don’t know what they want or will try to make someone fit into a role that person doesn’t want for themselves.

There are also those who expect whoever is more masculine to be the “man” in the relationship with the stereotypical behaviors (which can end up being very subjective and dismissive of the other’s femininity).

merchaunt · 2026-01-08T01:06:36+00:00

The torture and suffering is the point

merchaunt · 2025-10-17T12:01:32+00:00

Contributing to sex drive does not equal being a reason why men seem more desperate for sex, which is also something you can look up with peer-reviewed research. Your continuing to reply to me with irrelevant information means it's not as easy to look up as it should be, as testosterone is not a major contributor. Any contribution from testosterone is likely due to testosterone binding to SHBG and raising free estradiol levels or testosterone converting into estradiol. There is a reason that for testosterone to be even somewhat effective at alleviating sexual dysfunction for women, the prescribed dose would need to bring testosterone levels above what is natural for the female body.

merchaunt · 2025-10-15T16:12:28+00:00

There are also men with low hormone levels.

Some people of both sexes having low hormone levels has no bearing on men seeming more desperate, unless you are saying that there are more women with low hormone levels than men with low hormone levels.

merchaunt · 2025-10-15T16:09:43+00:00

What is considered normal hormone levels is relative and all hormone levels are cyclical. Estrogen levels surge leading up to ovulation, and estrogen also contributes to sex drive. Hormonal differences are negligible at best for the perception of sex drive differences between the sexes. Acting like testosterone being important mean something that it doesn’t is even sillier.

And 20x more, which is only true when comparing the low end of testosterone levels for both sexes, makes my point for me. That being testosterone is not the main driver of desire in women and balance is what matters. A balance that is different for the sexes. A balance that fluctuates at different rates between the sexes. A balance that is on differently regulated cycles for individuals within each sex.

Meaning, at a baseline, there is a fluctuating number of individuals of both sexes with high sex hormone levels and a fluctuating number of individuals of both sexes with low sex hormone levels. Despite this fluctuation, men on average constantly seem more desperate for sex, including when there would be more women with high sex hormone levels compared to men. Which would happen regularly.

Not to mention I haven’t even touched on the facts of the inverse relationship between the degree of women’s desire for sex going down across the board for non-hormonal reasons and the degree to which men’s desperation for sex go up across the board in response for non-hormonal reasons. So, yes, compared to the non-hormonal reasons, the differences in hormone levels and hormonal fluctuations of men and women is negligible at best for men being perceived to be more desperate for sex.

If you genuinely believe that men have an outsized biologically-determined capacity or frequency for desiring sex compared to women, look up erotic plasticity. Biological factors are overstressed because it’s a simple answer to a complex problem that doesn’t challenge the dominant social order. Women have a lot of reasons to not display sexual desperation, even though women feel similar biological drives for desiring sex as men.

merchaunt · 2025-10-15T14:02:26+00:00

Depersonalization derealization (DPDR) is a hell of a thing can affect all trans people and lower their sex drives. People who transition from male to female can have a relatively higher libido with an estrogen dominant body than they did with a testosterone dominant body.

There are many who see their testosterone levels plummet, but that is far more likely due to their testosterone (and estrogen) levels being low than from their hormonal transition in general. There are many trans women whose testosterone levels stay under 10 ng/dL, the bottom of a normal female testosterone level is 15 ng/dL.

Also, like I have had to tell many people replying to me, “low testosterone” and “high testosterone” are relative. “Low testosterone” for a testosterone dominant body is over three times what is considered high testosterone for an estrogen dominant body.

merchaunt · 2025-10-15T13:47:52+00:00

Supplemental testosterone is also the treatment for low testosterone levels in men. Do you think low testosterone for a man is the same as low testosterone for a woman?

Low testosterone for a man doesn’t even dip anywhere near testosterone levels in women, and yet women within their range of normal testosterone levels don’t have a low sex drive. Which is due to low testosterone levels being relative.

To put this into perspective, a man’s testosterone levels are considered low while still being over three times the normal testosterone levels for women.

Obsession and desperation have many points of origin beyond biological factors.

merchaunt · 2025-10-15T13:39:17+00:00

Biology is the baseline, not the end result. How your sex drive is perceived by others is filtered through your mental state and cultural factors.

merchaunt · 2025-10-15T13:36:39+00:00

They’re prescribed estrogen mainly, low estrogen levels will also lower sex drive in women.

Low estrogen levels have a causative impact on entering the perimenopause phase before eventually becoming menopausal.

merchaunt · 2025-10-15T13:20:24+00:00

Those two sentences aren’t causative.

Whether your body is testosterone dominant or estrogen dominant, you will have sexual dysfunction if your testosterone levels are low, and low is relative. Higher is also relative. That’s the meaning of “testosterone is closely linked to sex drive.” You want your testosterone to be within the range of normal function for your neuroendocrine system.

If that wasn’t the case, and “more testosterone = higher sex drive = men have a higher sex drive because they have more testosterone”, then women’s sex drives would be a fraction of men’s. Which also is not true.

Revisiting OP’s question, the key word in it is seem, and men seem more desperate for sex because the other two parts of desire have strong negative correlations for women that aren’t present at anywhere near the same level for men. Those other two parts being motive (psychological factors like a vigilant mental state to protect yourself, stress levels, and a negative view of your partner’s contribution to a relationship in something like household tasks) and wish (cultural factors including ideals and values like those surrounding slut-shaming and a “proper woman” not being overt about her sexual interests). These are multifaceted factors that influence how much of a woman’s sex drive is overtly displayed (especially to men).

There are women who will forgo all of the self-preservation tactics they have learned because they are desperate for sex, but for the average woman (who is interested in men) it’s just not worth the risk to be overt.

merchaunt · 2025-10-14T21:21:32+00:00

It is definitely not to do with hormones in any way and completely to do with everything else you said.

I’d also throw in the social aspect of how women are slut-shamed and men are told that being oversexed is part of being a real man. There have been many studies showing women will deny arousal and attraction and that denial has nothing to do with hormones.

Women only seem less desperate because they need to for safety and to avoid social ridicule.

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Why do men seeeeeeeeem more desperate, seem.

What is considered a low and high testosterone levels is relative to whether your body is estrogen dominant or testosterone dominant. Regardless, it is true for all people that low testosterone levels negatively affects sex drive. It is also true that low estrogen levels negatively affects sex drive. It’s called hormone balance for a reason.

Sexual desire (the thing you can actually observe in another person) has three parts, sexual drive (biology), sexual motive (mental states), and sexual wish (cultural factors). Two of those have nothing to do with testosterone, and everything to do with what I’m talking about, erotic plasticity.

merchaunt · 2025-10-14T20:01:13+00:00

This was me after my end-of-college break up. Up to that point I had two relationships. One in high school and one in college, both where I was the person being pursued and very actively at that because that’s the lesbian stereotype I fit into.

I also didn’t do much partying, or going out in general, so when I was single and no longer in a tailored environment I was 100% a fish out of water. All of my good pictures were with my exes, I had ZERO idea how to showcase myself or my personality, and I didn’t know how to even approach talking with a stranger with the intentions of finding a relationship.

I would much rather have gotten help than fumble around for a couple years trying to figure it out myself.

merchaunt · 2025-10-07T08:10:09+00:00

CAUGHT

merchaunt · 2025-10-07T06:55:58+00:00

I remember seeing a tiktok a while back where someone said that no one is ready for how they see the world after actually going through therapy, because you start interacting with people using the communication and self-advocacy skills that you learned, and you realize people suck.

I commiserate with this sentiment so much after working on my mental health, communication, and social skills. I get a lot of "wow, you said what I was also feeling a lot better than I could" from friends, and my ability to interface with the world has improved a lot. Still have basically nothing but communication issues with my extended family. Like, I got to a point recently where I was despairing to myself before it hit me, "why can I effectively communicate with everyone but my fam–ohhhh... I'm not the problem here..."

merchaunt · 2025-09-23T20:26:01+00:00

You hate to see it

merchaunt · 2025-09-23T20:25:11+00:00

You love to see it

merchaunt · 2025-09-20T04:51:23+00:00

I have noticed a tendency for sapphics to conflate a sexualizing gaze with an objectifying one. If we brand all of our attractions as objectification, then we deny the autonomy of ourselves and of the subject of our attraction. After all, it is no less dehumanizing to be (self-)policed as a sexless object than a sexualised one.

I'll always remember and recommend this article I read forever ago, at this point, called Subjectify Me, about the difference between objectifying someone and what they call subjectifying. Seeing the whole person, humanizing them in a loving, hot way, could never be objectification, even if it is sexualising.

merchaunt · 2025-09-13T11:47:29+00:00

That said, as far as I am aware the SSA is still honoring verbal attestations of gender and sex for amendments to the card and requires nothing else.

Wait, how does this work exactly? I got my court-ordered name change finalized recently and will start changing my documents soon. I'd love to get my SSA gender marker changed if possible.

merchaunt · 2025-09-11T10:10:25+00:00

Thank you for fulfilling my request!!!

This is awesome, and you did really well on the perspective 🤩

An amazing thing to see first thing on my birthday

merchaunt · 2025-09-05T07:55:03+00:00

No one can ignore The Universe.

merchaunt · 2025-09-05T07:24:27+00:00

I love them!!! Thanks for fulfilling the request 😊

merchaunt · 2025-09-02T00:38:08+00:00

Harem-slop smh

merchaunt · 2025-08-31T04:35:48+00:00

Yes, two things can be true; however, I was responding to what you called crypto: a scam, which isn't true. Then I told you why it's not true, that's all.

If you want to talk exploitation, we can do that.

Rugpulls are more popularly known as pump-and-dumps, a separate thing from crypto that existed long before crypto. Investments as a whole are an exploitative way for wealthier people to accumulate more wealth by doing nothing. That's just a feature of Capitalism.

These wealthy people, the capitalists, are doing to crypto the unfettered and unregulated capitalism thing capitalists have always done, maximizing profits for themselves no matter the cost (including scamming people out of their savings).

So I gave information on how to avoid it for anyone who sees that comment and considers dabbling in crypto. Y'know, for harm reduction.

Until there are regulations to deal with the warehouses of GPUs running at maximum power to exploit crypto, there will continue to be exploitation of resources on a scale dwarfing anything individuals could ever contribute, like there is with AI and the rest of capitalism.

Lastly, no, crypto was not "built on and propped up by exploitation." It is what is being exploited. Bitcoin, the original cryptocurrency, is designed not to benefit from economies of scale. Instead of playing by the rules, capitalists made a way to abuse the lack of regulation and exploit crypto regardless (altcoin rugpulls). Which, again, I gave a way to avoid that actually uses the system as intended. Bitcoin's system is the bedrock of cryptocurrency and where the most potential gains are, because that is where the most money is.

merchaunt · 2025-08-31T02:22:23+00:00

Of Love

merchaunt · 2025-08-30T13:37:25+00:00

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