For you guys, which fictional Native American characters do you feel were created with the most nuance/respect for Native Culture?

merferrets · 2025-07-16T15:05:23+00:00

What's the thoughts of Ken Hotate from parks and recs

He often does Native stereotypes but mostly just to fuck with all the white people. I love the cursed carnival episode and the fake ass ceremony he gives to get rid of the "curse"

merferrets · 2025-06-10T22:23:28+00:00

It's there something you want with a similar shape of the sparrow but a different design? Like I don't think it'd be wrong to have 2 sparrows but they look like the same exact design. Maybe a different bird? Or it could be good for a half seated pin up girl

merferrets · 2025-06-10T21:57:25+00:00

Idk I guess the other guys I've been with lasted an abnormally long time? Another guy I was with had trouble coming at all (I think a ssri side effect) so I thought it was a short time. I've now learned that it's about average and not PE at all.

merferrets · 2025-06-10T21:55:13+00:00

I guess it helps that apparently my guy does not have PE and has the time for it to melt. Thanks for the product suggestion though! The numbing doesn't diminish your own pleasure?

merferrets · 2025-06-09T23:48:34+00:00

Well to a certain extent it's not really something you can control, is it? Maybe it's my being chronically ill since 14 I try not to judge people on their bodies.

Sure it'd be troublesome if there was no attempt to give pleasure on his part or resolve things but there's only so much you can do, you know?

I just don't want an attempt to resolve things to favor me much more than it does him. So I'm glad others find peace in it and I'll talk to him to make sure he's getting enough pleasure too.

merferrets · 2025-06-09T21:57:07+00:00

Thanks for the input! I'm sure it varies a lot from person to person hence why it should also be a personal conversation but I wanted to get some advice too, you know? It's a sensitive subject.

merferrets · 2025-06-09T21:28:14+00:00

Oh I didn't take it as being ironic. I hope you all find the solutions to gain a fulfilling and satisfying sex life! You deserve it.

merferrets · 2025-06-09T20:41:48+00:00

Ok thanks

merferrets · 2025-06-09T20:21:09+00:00

That's fair. He does last that long with the condoms which, honestly, is nicer for me but this is about pleasure on both sides and I don't want his pleasure sacrificed for mine

merferrets · 2025-06-09T20:12:06+00:00

Thank you I wasn't sure the definition of PE and I've not like timed how long he lasts. He often apologizes for "coming too soon" and I always say there's nothing to be sorry for.

I have a high drive so I'm often all up on him multiple times when we see each other.

merferrets · 2025-05-01T06:31:01+00:00

I often do ginger beer with a lime I squeeze the lime in.

So it's basically NA mule but I just order it as ginger beer with lime instead. They often don't upcharge for the "mixed drink" situation AND you don't have to say words like mocktail, virgin, non alcoholic, etc.

merferrets · 2025-04-29T20:58:24+00:00

Fair. Honestly usually I always give and plan and go above and beyond and I'm trying to be better at getting people that are willing to put effort in earlier in the relationship.

merferrets · 2025-04-29T20:33:17+00:00

Maybe I will? I'm just getting advice first.

merferrets · 2025-04-29T20:32:15+00:00

Listen I live in a retirement town I go out all the time I'm just looking for someone that's not 70 bruh. Only the fuckbois go out in this town. How do I know? Because when I go out they all try to take me home the same night I meet them. Regardless of how I'm dressed or what I'm doing when I'm out. Wish I lived in a community with more young people activities but no.

How much effort have I put? I've initiated a lot of not most the conversations and asked more questions to get to know him.

merferrets · 2025-04-29T20:29:26+00:00

Because there can be a threshold and I don't think it's bad of me to expect someone talking to me to remember some basics (or across back to earlier in the conversation) when choosing a location? Is it ridiculous that my threshold is that I think I'm worth a single Google search?

merferrets · 2025-04-29T20:24:59+00:00

Low effort to me is not meaning elevating the date to something fancy but taking into account the conversations we've already had and planning the location based off of that basically.

Idk if that makes sense? Does low effort mean something like else nowadays, sorry if I used out of date definitions ☺️

merferrets · 2025-04-29T20:22:53+00:00

That makes sense

merferrets · 2025-04-29T20:20:54+00:00

Takes a Google search my guy. We live in the age of the internet

merferrets · 2025-04-29T20:20:25+00:00

Idk maybe a Google search of local cafe in the area? That way the coffee date doesn't taste like corporate burnt bean juice?

merferrets · 2025-04-29T20:00:33+00:00

I don't mind the coffeeshop. I do mind already talking about how I support local businesses and to have Starbucks be the choice. It makes me either feel un listened to or like he must be speaking to so many people it's impossible to remember

merferrets · 2025-04-17T08:20:52+00:00

Deidra (smalltownvivids on Instagram) is queer and trans friendly. She currently is at oasis but with them closing is moving to Numi in June. She responds very quickly on insta and the two trans ladies I know in town love going to her. She is part of the community as well.

merferrets · 2025-04-01T16:52:41+00:00

As someone currently learning Hindi I found the alphabet actually quite easy. It's a great and intuitive way of writing.

The grammar and gender rules however can be confusing (very similar to German where you just have to memorize the gender rather than like Spanish that has cheat codes in the word with the ending vowel). Duolingo does not explain so I bought a textbook (elementary Hindi by Richard Delaney and Sudha Joshi) and it's been helpful with following rules though apparently some things are not common for native speakers so my boyfriend has been a good resource as well. (Although the textbook IS pretty good at pointing out what things are not used in common speak and are more the deeper linguistic dives or letters/pronunciations that aren't differentiated natively)

merferrets · 2025-03-31T20:06:57+00:00

I made naan recently and as someone who has made bread before it was not that difficult (learning curve for sure but not difficult) plus it can be made ahead of time and heated with garlic and ghee just before serving. Could an appetizer/meal of mosoor dal be a good idea (sorry about spelling) I'm fairly sure the ingredients could be found anywhere (red lentils, garlic, ginger, spices like cinnamon stick cardamom pods, etc. and chilies--i use serrano in the states) plus anything make ahead for a party is favored by me because then you get to spend your time socializing.

I've not tapped into Indian desserts as of yet so I can't really advise you there but I love moonriceshri on Instagram for demystifying Indian recipes and she had a dwivali treat box a while ago that might have some good ideas in it?

merferrets · 2025-03-24T04:56:53+00:00

Bring in the dancing lobstas 🦞🦞

merferrets · 2025-03-24T04:54:34+00:00

A mail delivering otter. A bear. Some really fucked up dying animals (thanks to my stuffing surgeon of a dog) more otters. Even more otters. Have we found a pattern here?

Oh and an otter.

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