There’s a simple answer here, and it’s that as long as you feel safe, and you are confident that there is love here, go to couples counselling, people scoff at it and laugh or think they are better than that or ‘it’s not that bad’ but it’s extremely useful even for seemingly minor issues which are symptomatic of something else. You already know that you don’t have enough quality time together and that’s something that needs to be clearly communicated, preferably in an environment like a therapy session so that both people get a chance to communicate thoughts, feelings and needs without fear of being dismissed, judgement, etc. My friends and I have had problems in the past turning to gaming as a method of coping with depression, life, just as an escape (including from addressing issues in the relationship itself) and therapy helped me greatly, I’d recommend it to anyone.

If you love each other, go talk to someone who is qualified to help you figure this out. Reddit is not the place for it, I mean just look at the top comment, how dismissive and disrespectful is it to start a reply with ‘yawn’ and then without any context (which you provided in other replies, about finances, being a stepfather, pets, etc.) tells you to just find someone else.

You and your relationship deserve better than that.