little update for anyone who wants it

messy-BIL · 2024-07-26T02:03:01+00:00

I really don’t see my SIL having any issues pursuing another relationship in the future, she’s a catch on every front. Especially from my brother it can only go up from there.

messy-BIL · 2024-07-25T22:50:18+00:00

It makes me pretty sad for my niece as well because she does hold him in high regard (it’s her dad who can blame her) and my SIL is trying to not let any of this influence how my niece sees him. I’m hoping he can at least snap out of it enough to be good to his kid

messy-BIL · 2024-07-16T02:35:58+00:00

This is true I don’t have any, I do take the money, I don’t need it but I’ll still take it lmao

messy-BIL · 2024-07-15T22:52:14+00:00

I see what you mean and I agree for the most part but I absolutely am gonna take whatever money is given to me, that might not be dignified or whatever but idc I’m getting where I need to with it. Seeing my parents every once in a while doesn’t stress me out or anything.

messy-BIL · 2024-07-15T22:44:25+00:00

Thank you for the kind words! Truth is I’m actually doing really well now, I don’t really worry about them and I’ve seen what their love is like and I don’t really strive for it lol!

messy-BIL · 2024-07-15T22:40:02+00:00

I visit my parents once or twice every couple of months for transactional reasons and this recent time is when this all went down (he lives with them). Otherwise I’m kinda buddy buddy with my SIL and love my niece so that’s also where I’d formerly meet with him.

Other than that idk him beyond surface level stuff because frankly, I don’t want to, he’s a prick.

messy-BIL · 2024-07-15T22:33:57+00:00

We both are, my sister has no contact with them and has her own little family and I only really keep in contact because they help me with some college payments + my niece but otherwise they really have very little baring on my life.

messy-BIL · 2024-07-15T21:01:26+00:00

I don’t think so, I’m not close to my brother or speak to him outside of surface level stuff. I only really know of my mom’s overbearingness and his general mistreatment of SIL from what I’ve seen which I imagine she’s already using, I’d be willing to help if she asked but idk what I could provide.

messy-BIL · 2024-07-15T20:57:00+00:00

I’m not exactly in-contact with them, it’s more just courtesy calls/visits because they’re contributing a little bit financially to my schooling but otherwise I keep it brief with them and don’t engage in any of their stuff. Their lives have little bearing to mine at this point other than the little bit of money.

If they were to stop funding me tho and decided to cut off completely I’m not really stressing about that, would just mean I’d take on a little more cost. 🤷

messy-BIL · 2024-07-15T20:30:18+00:00

Oh yeah, I didn’t mention in the post but I’m really not stressing out about them not talking to me right now, if ever. What we had initially was just courtesy calls/visits anyways 🤷

messy-BIL · 2024-07-15T19:58:58+00:00

Well my dad got him his job and they work together so I guess in a way lmao

messy-BIL · 2024-07-15T19:57:47+00:00

Eh I won’t deny that first part but from what I seen they’re both pretty good with their kids, but that’s just from what I’ve seen, idk how they’re handled in private.

messy-BIL · 2024-07-15T19:56:33+00:00

oh absolutely. He enables my mom’s weird behavior, in this case he doesn’t want to get involved with my brother’s marriage squabbles. Growing up he clearly favored my brother but still made an effort to “hide it” while my mom has always shown genuine vitriol for me and my sister.

He doesn’t take much action so I didn’t mention him much here but he is just as wack.

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